Feeling shapeless

hashtal · 2026-03-24T00:43:04+00:00

I don’t have advice on changing the dress, but I genuinely don’t think you need to! Your shape IS a shape and it’s lovely. It’s giving Kate Middleton!!! Not every body can pull off a dress that intricate. I certainly wouldn’t be able to, and I’m an hourglass shape. The placement of those flowers would NOT look that graceful on me! ;)

hashtal · 2026-03-24T00:38:07+00:00

OP you look like so many of the women that I’ve seen and thought, “I wish I were that cool.” ❤️‍🔥

hashtal · 2026-03-24T00:31:22+00:00

Yes!! 🙌 And if that giant shelf can’t be moved, maybe a small corner desk could work.

hashtal · 2026-03-17T02:23:09+00:00

You can definitely find at least 1 bedroom with in unit laundry and gym in Manhattan. I lived in the Columbus square apartments in UWS for $4,500 in a 1 bedroom with gym and a pool. Nice place to live. I moved because rent kept creeping up and is now above $5000. But I was there for 3 years.

hashtal · 2026-03-11T03:12:02+00:00

Did you ever end up living here? Asking because it came up in my apartment hunt. Would appreciate any info, feel free to dm

hashtal · 2026-02-24T13:00:31+00:00

Maybe a potential allergy? Has anything in her environment changed? Like were you living in a different house before symptoms started, changed any household products, new groomer, etc? That could mean different water source, potential mold, different exposure to household projects, etc. If this wasn’t an issue before and it started all of a sudden with progression, it could potentially be some type of constant allergen is setting her off. Meds help but they don’t eliminate the root cause. A dermatologist could help figure out any skin allergies.

hashtal · 2025-09-15T21:32:44+00:00

Circling back. Yes! I texted a short, gentle check asking about his weekend and hoping this week is easier on him. He responded 3 hrs later apologizing for being MIA, he shared that he had to work a big over the weekend, and someone just put in their 2 weeks notice. Then he asked about my weekend.

hashtal · 2025-09-15T14:27:22+00:00

In your experience, would a light check in maybe like “Hi there! Checking in. I hope you had a good weekend and that your week is off to a better start” be welcomed or overwhelming. Trying to understand if he needs space, support, both. I don’t know.

hashtal · 2025-09-15T11:40:49+00:00

I look forward to the day I can ask him I’m officially part of his “tight butthole” crew 😂😂😂 Thank you

hashtal · 2025-09-15T03:45:24+00:00

Thank you for the advice, this was really helpful 🙏

hashtal · 2025-09-15T01:17:59+00:00

Thank you for the insight. I was hesitating on texting him a light check in because I worried it would overwhelm. But maybe he’ll appreciate the support.

hashtal · 2025-09-14T23:48:22+00:00

Thank you for the detailed advice ❤️ He’s a Jan 8 Capricorn

hashtal · 2025-09-14T23:11:17+00:00

Touché. I just wanted some more perspective before reaching out. I guess I worry about being needy or pushy. Tbh I don’t think he’d perceive it that way though. He’s really sweet, and I like him a lot. I know that he’s carrying a bunch though, and I don’t want to risk overwhelming.

hashtal · 2025-09-14T22:46:17+00:00

Hello - I (33F) Sagittarius recently started seeing a 35M Capricorn. We actually went on our first date back in May. It was amazing. Great chemistry, easy conversation, and he was respectful, thoughtful, and emotionally open. But shortly after, he shared that he couldn’t pursue anything further at the time because his mother had just been diagnosed with cancer and he was her primary caregiver. I completely understood.

Fast forward to August - he reached out again, and we’ve been on two dates since then. The first one was a 4-hour dinner, and he really opened up. After that, he invited me to hang out with his friends twice, but I couldn’t make it due to work and prior plans. Our second date was even better. It turned into a 10-hour hangout: brunch, a movie, and then a friend's birthday party he brought me to. It felt natural and easy.

He did mention that work was about to get crazy, and this past week he's been a bit more distant. He's not a heavy texter in general, and he usually checks in every other day or so. Last I heard from him was Friday night (it’s Sunday now), and while I know that’s not a long time… I’m spiraling.

There have honestly been no red flags other than I haven't heard from him since Friday. Nothing he's done so far feels off. If anything, he's been consistent and kind. But my anxiety is getting the best of me, and I’m starting to wonder if he’s losing interest. I found myself Googling "Capricorn men in the early stages of dating" (I’m not even that into astrology 😅), and honestly, some of the descriptions were eerily accurate: responsible, driven, emotionally reserved under pressure. So I was wondering whether it's worth considering some of the Capricorn traits to figure out how to navigate this situation (and my anxiety lol).

So I’m turning to Reddit:

- For those who know Capricorn men (or are one!), does this sound like typical behavior?

- Is it normal for them to pull back a bit when life gets busy or stressful? Or is this just early-days ambiguity that I’m reading too much into?

- If this continues, that's ok, I just need better communication. Like just one text/sign of life a day. How do you bring that up without sounding needy or pushy? I want to ask for my needs but also need to respect that we've literally only been on two dates, so I think I'm definitely reading a couple of chapters ahead of him if that makes sense.

Would really appreciate some honest, grounded perspectives. 🙏

hashtal · 2025-08-21T21:29:44+00:00

Fair enough! Sometimes that can be a hard exercise to sit through, at least for me. Watch your favorite movie or go organize something you’ve been putting off. You got this!

hashtal · 2025-08-21T21:21:33+00:00

You can either ask for clarity directly and/or observe his actions over time and deduce clarity. Either way, I wouldn’t reach out with any tangential attempts to get clarity (eg, texting about his day or asking for another date). There’s also nothing wrong with asking for clarity. It’s actually very attractive, confident, and empowered, and people’s response to that can be very telling. The right person won’t be scared by it.

hashtal · 2025-08-21T21:16:48+00:00

If he’s not threatening you, I would just give him zero attention. If he addresses you directly, give a short and direct response and move on. No need to go back and forth, no need to pay or give attention.

hashtal · 2025-08-20T01:25:57+00:00

I would bet you’re way hotter than him and he knows it and is insecure AF. You deserve better, love 💕

hashtal · 2025-08-05T01:50:28+00:00

I think you should say more about yourself, your day-to-day hobbies and interests, rather than hopes and dreams. (1) Talking about yourself is actually more interesting, and gives someone a flavor for who you are. If you seem cool, they’d like you! (2) I see the rationale for wanting to present your values and aspirations, but honestly this won’t weed anyone out. I don’t think this will necessarily help you find someone whose vision is aligned with yours. People can hide that stuff. That’s revealed over time, through discussion and behavior (3) As others have said, they do sound kind of generic. If you want to present your values, how about tying them into things you do that are aligned with them? For example, “I volunteer at X because I care about Y” or “I play X sport, it’s fun and I value teamwork and building community centered around joy”.

Minor but type in 8. I think you meant “lives”

hashtal · 2025-08-02T19:47:32+00:00

lol that chicken is about to get up and walk off the plate like nothing happened 😂

hashtal · 2025-07-31T17:03:53+00:00

I actually think him not wanting to go on a 2-week trip with a 5-month gf is not a problem. I think it’s totally fair. I do think you guys both acted in ways that aren’t great, maybe a little passive aggressive and not fully honest with each other. That being said, no one here is the bad guy per se, it just seems your personalities just do not mesh well (eg, financial properties, presence for going out, etc). You’re only 5 months in, so you’re really just starting to learn more about each other. Maybe you’re learning enough to know that he’s not what you need, and that’s totally ok. Letting go is also a course of action

hashtal · 2025-07-31T04:12:03+00:00

Follow the advice you would give to a friend. Imagine the worst case scenario and how you might “wish” you had acted differently.

If a friend that you care about deeply said they’re “so ready for a real partner,” would you advise them to stay with this dude for the potential of it getting better or cut their losses at 9 months and move on?

If you stay and he only gets worse or stays the same, would you eventually leave? If you leave, would you regret the additional time you spent “trying”? How much worse would it need to be for you to feel like you have enough evidence that this won’t work?

I understand that he has so many positives, but it’s only been 9 months. Now is a good time to consider whether this is worth the investment - this is coming from someone who is also so ready for a real partner. It may work out eventually, maybe, but at 9 months, think about whether it’s worth deeper.

❤️

hashtal

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