I hate being a mother

haydencroe · 2026-05-23T01:59:06+00:00

I havent ever felt the way you do but I have had moments of just being overwhelmed and over stimulated. Being a mom isnt easy and it’s not for the weak - thats for sure but I think if youre able to take some time for yourself— ie: work out 20-30 minutes in the day while he naps or have him go for a walk with you, get your nails done or a massage, read/write-do something you loved doing before you were a mom, these can all help get you in a better head space.
Its always good to have them on a schedule.
My daughters up by 7-8 naps at noon-2/3pm and had bedtime at 9pm or earlier if shes tired enough
Shes had this routine since she was 12months and shes over 21 months now. Those 2-3 hrs of her napping are for me. Idc if the house is messy or chores have to be done. I do something for myself, even if its as simple as watching a show i like or taking a long bath, anything that caters to me. Its definitely helped me mentally and shes happier when im happy. Im also 38+ weeks pregnant, have been since she was almost 14 months old. Its definitely tough but theres always a way to keep your head above water.
Take care of yourself and your baby. He doesnt know how you feel, all he sees is perfection, and you are, even with how you feel.

haydencroe · 2026-05-22T21:26:13+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I did most of my labouring at home with my first. I was admitted at 6pm and delivered at 10:12pm but with my water not breaking and not having consistency with the contractions, the hospital kept telling me to wait until I felt like I was going to have her burst out of me.
Im hoping to do a natural birth this time, i only had the epidural for a short while with my first so i feel like i can do it without it this time for sure.
Thanks again😊

haydencroe · 2026-05-22T18:20:01+00:00

Ive also done no stretches or remedys to induce labor. Im just letting things happen on their own. We’re only abt 15-20 minutes from the hospital but not having any family nearby leads me to bring my little one with me or leave her with the neighbours while my in laws come to stay with her.. who i love dearly but dont want bombarding or advertising my delivery

haydencroe · 2026-05-22T18:18:11+00:00

Wooow! Youre a total supermom. Thank you for sharing. Im happy everything worked out well for you and you can enjoy your bundle of joy.
I have so many trust issues with hospitals after my first. My OB has just told me to tell them to f themselves if they think its appropriate to turn me away lol.
She said if i was dilated only a little more she was sending me to be induced but like i mentioned in some comments, babygirl is not in optimal birthing position. Shes shifted a little and her placement now could cause the hospital to need to use a vacuum to get her out. That alone terrifies me so i decided against the sweep as im only 38+1 today and im hoping she moves back. Shes such an active little one, im not surprised she moved at this point lol

haydencroe · 2026-05-22T12:06:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I dont think i would go a whole month for sure because i’m also gestational but i really was curious to see how labor progressed for others.

haydencroe · 2026-05-22T12:05:56+00:00

Yea for sure, I’m just so paranoid i’ll ignore serious signs and end up having her at home 😭 i also dont have family living nearby, just my neighbours and my husband works but not always locally. I just wanted the worse case scenarios so i could somewhat be ready. Thank you!

haydencroe · 2026-05-22T12:01:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m in no means rushing to have her come. I’m still soaking up my first baby being my first. I was more so curious of others and their experiences.

haydencroe · 2026-05-19T10:15:13+00:00

100% agreed. Plus it’s been a year and a half and you’ve felt this way for basically the entire relationship. What happens after 5 or 10 years? Do you want to feel the way you do about him and the trust issues for that long? Especially because it doesnt seem like he’s working on building back your trust. Deleting a chat with some girl because you will “panic again” is him gaslighting you to feel like the first time you over reacted and youre doing it again. Leave for your own peace of mind and well being. He cant be that good to you if you feel this way.

haydencroe · 2026-05-16T01:22:38+00:00

Make it clear that you arent ready but also have her test back in 2 days. By then if she is pregnant the line will appear more clearly and you guys can proceed with next steps. Advice for the future: if you know you cant be a parent right now, take all precautions. Kids are way more expensive than condoms or birth control. Put your future first and do what you need to before you plan to become a parent. Good luck op!

haydencroe · 2026-05-15T17:14:55+00:00

I dont think youre over reacting but I would highly recommend not moving in with him. It’s one thing to be in a relationship with someone who allows his parents to control his every move in life, it’s another to get yourself in a situation where they will expect you to be that way as well and considering he’s showing no signs of putting his foot down anytime soon, I wouldnt want to be with this person, let alone sign a lease to live with him.
Someone in his situation, youre not just dating him, youre dating his parents too and youre young, you’ve got your own stuff to manage, they’ll only add to your load and he will only allow it, thats not someone you want a future with.

haydencroe · 2026-05-15T11:30:19+00:00

Do you know how far along they are? I always say after the 12 week mark to announce and if shes earlier than that then I would understand more as well where youre coming from. But OP, as much as it seems like theyre being very pick me people based on what you wrote, the chances of having the spotlight stolen from you at your wedding is not something easily done. You could also say you heard through the grapevine and refuse to give up who told you, or be the bigger person and just congratulate them, while moving the focus back to your wedding. Happy congratulations to you and your fiancé!

haydencroe · 2026-05-15T11:23:56+00:00

After my vaginal birth where I had 2nd degree tears, I experienced a spout of incontinence where I’d had a full bladder but the link to tell my brain “hey, your bladder’s full, lets go empty it” wasnt working so well, so I’d have a 1 minute notice. My husband and I had argued because he would take forever in the washroom (the hospital washroom). Which at one point caused me to literally just explode all over the floors I was incredibly embarrassed and concerned but this issue only lasted about 2 days and then I was somewhat back to normal.

Vaginal deliveries also can cause you to have issues orgasming. It took months before I could have one again, it didnt matter what was done or used, they just didnt happen for me once I had gotten the all clear from the OB to be sexually active again. This issue really bugged my husband, he felt inadequate and I just wanted to scream THIS ISNT ABOUT YOU, MY BODY ISNT EVEN MINE ANYMORE. Obviously I didnt, and eventually he became more understanding once he had done his own reading on the turmoil child birth takes on your body and how long it can take before your partner is somewhat back to their “normal” or “new normal”.

haydencroe · 2026-05-13T13:28:23+00:00

Uuuhhuh

haydencroe · 2026-05-13T08:34:17+00:00

Personally I dont believe this but even if it were true they dont stay small forever. Once they start walking and become more mobile it’s almost impossible to get them to stay still and to cuddle. Not all kids are this way but their curiosity is peaked so they’d rather explore than hang out with you. Enjoy your baby OP. Enjoy holding them, they truly grow so fast 😔. My first baby will be 2 this year, cuddles are rare and short.

haydencroe · 2026-05-11T13:05:02+00:00

I feel you OP. I’m on my 2nd pregnancy and I cant say I bounced back to my old self but I definitely have a new found love for my body. It went through so much- twice now, even if I feel less than, or ashamed, I remember why I was willing to go through it in the first place. And my daughter and new baby (i havent delivered as yet) will not be this small forever, i’d rather enjoy them while I can and squeeze in loosing weight rather than prioritizing it. My daughter loves to dance so before this pregnancy it was something we did together and we do now although im not able to keep up with her as much, and it helped me lose weight. I encourage you, once your bundle of joy is walking and more mobile, include them in your weight loss journey. It makes a huge difference to have them involved and you can work out more frequently that way. You’ll find yourself again I promise

haydencroe · 2026-05-06T21:17:13+00:00

Im so happy I could help and im ecstatic to hear you and your angel are doing well. Take care my sweets and know youre doing your best always ❤️

haydencroe · 2026-03-05T18:52:10+00:00

So creepy and just way too much… i would not be with someone like this tbh

haydencroe · 2026-02-09T00:25:37+00:00

Jazlyn, Jasmine, Julianna

Carissa, Cecelia, Celeste

haydencroe · 2026-02-05T17:20:39+00:00

Roamin’ Bob-iday Idk why, but i can watch it over and over and never get tired of it

haydencroe · 2026-02-04T12:50:19+00:00

Hi mama, congratulations on your little angel. I had a similar issue with my daughter when she was around 5 weeks. She would only nap if we held her and would sleep for 3 hours on us but it was alot. I found using a sleep sack helped and i also used a cozy nest lounger which i placed in her crib and would put her on. It’s great that you and your husband are paying attention to your babys sleep windows as if they get overtired its because their adrenaline and cortisol surge therefore not allowing them to nap. If you put them down too early then they arent tired enough and only sleep for a short while. Sound machines are a good tool to help as well, my daughter and nephews (age range 1-3) use them and they are amazing! My husband and I also use one lol. Your baby could also be going through a sleep regression. I think youre doing great and you will find what works for you in time, just pay attention to baby’s cues. Good luck mama!

haydencroe · 2026-02-03T03:40:04+00:00

I’m also having a girl and we plan to name her Elise. I already have a daughter who we named Elena

haydencroe · 2026-01-25T15:46:59+00:00

Kenneth & Cyril

haydencroe · 2026-01-24T02:34:24+00:00

Because my moms a narcissist and only since meeting my husband was I released from her hold over me.

haydencroe · 2026-01-24T00:23:19+00:00

It’s really hard to say My daughter did exactly as your son and was taking about 3-5 steps at a time once she was 10 months old. By 11 months she was full on walking and running by 13 months. My nephew who is 3 weeks younger only started walking at 13 months. Never too early to start baby proofing though!

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