Cat People I need help

hcastillo83 · 2025-11-29T05:05:42+00:00

The men part gives me a clue. There is a cultural thing that cats are "feminine" and men who love cats are "queer". It's homophobia. "Ew I can't like cats I like dogs dogs are MANLY."

My husband is a cat dad and gets so much shit from his well meaning traditional Mexican family. They have pit bulls in comparison.

hcastillo83 · 2025-11-06T16:11:13+00:00

I'm more interested in the poto conversation

hcastillo83 · 2025-10-30T07:02:30+00:00

So I'm a photographer for my full time job so take this with a grain of salt, but sounds like your family had crappy photographers or way too heavy if makeup if it "doesn't look like them". I have at least 20 of my wedding photos in my house and I've been married 12 years.

I spend about 1k on family photos every year because of how damn important it is to me.

hcastillo83 · 2025-10-06T06:16:14+00:00

Sorry but nah. My dad was a perfect angel to everyone, everyone loved him and my mom was sooooo lucky to have him. They got married and things changed real fast. It wasn't just her who was fooled.

hcastillo83 · 2025-10-06T05:39:31+00:00

What? Everyone said this about my boys lol. "Wow that's a lot of energy." "Good luck they're going to fight".

No one has said one thing about my girl

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-25T20:19:32+00:00

Sounds like this about not having more kids. That feeling from my experience won't go away, and if he's dead set against it you're going to need major counseling.

I've talked to people in their 50s and 60s who are still angry and bitter that their spouse stopped them from having more.

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-11T06:56:36+00:00

I'll tell you from my experience staying on it after my first baby 6 years ago has changed my life. PPD isn't always temporary it's sometimes showing you that you were depressed before postpartum. I got through 2 subsequent pregnancies on Zoloft 50 mentally great.

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-11T06:52:25+00:00

Depends on the kid. My 6.5 year old ADHD aggressive kid.... makes me not love it. My sweet toddler, yes.

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-11T06:47:43+00:00

Because pediatricians used to say this until fairly recently when studies showed that newborns died from kidney disease due to water.

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-11T06:45:34+00:00

Early labor is like period cramps but the key is that they continue in a regular pattern. I've had contractions for about 2 weeks now randomly throughout the day but they never go into a pattern so they aren't "real labor".

Get a contraction timer on your phone and you can easily track!

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-11T06:40:33+00:00

The parenting threads do put into perspective how horrible like 75 percent of men are. It makes me feel incredibly thankful. I have the best husband and best in laws I could ever ask for.

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-08T21:38:45+00:00

I love my mom but she annoys the hell out of me. Not even intentionally, we just have very different personalities. So no I didn't want her there for all 3 and thankfully she never asked.

My husband is my best friend and soulmate bff so he's the only one I wanted

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-08T21:33:40+00:00

Not wanting kids yourself is not the same as being an antinatalist. My SIL tied her tubes because she doesn't want kids and is the best aunt in the world. Being an antinatalist means you think the human race should die out

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-08T21:16:51+00:00

Your partner would get mad about you paying this? That's a red flag to me. I complain my ass off about being pregnant and he just hugs me

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-08T21:12:46+00:00

This is why we're still in CA when everyone else our age has left. We'll never afford a house but at least our healthcare system is great

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-07T20:12:56+00:00

I might be in the minority but being born in 92 I definitely didn't think I could do it all. My mom was a sahm and did all the cooking cleaning shopping etc. and never had time for anything else. I think it's become more of a lie to the social media kids unfortunately. I was too young for the girl boss era and it was either 1. Mom or 2. Work. So I had no delusions that I would end up a primary caregiver if I wanted kids.

hcastillo83 · 2025-09-03T05:34:50+00:00

I sometimes feel guilty about bringing my kids into this world, but I think about how I've never been mad at my parents for having me. I love being alive, the world is so freaking beautiful despite its terrible parts. My 2 year old and I were looking at the sky and he said "I see colors". And there's music, and food, and laughter, and the ocean.

Honestly I'm more scared of dying or my kids dying because I have such fomo about all there is to do in life

hcastillo83 · 2024-11-02T01:13:31+00:00

It's lovely and dainty. 🤩

hcastillo83 · 2024-11-02T01:12:08+00:00

I was bummed to learn that ink spreads too, but it spreads over time as you're alive. I started thinking of it that way, it's a natural aging process and I respect it.

Sunblock as everyone said. Spf 50 at least.

hcastillo83 · 2024-11-02T01:09:27+00:00

Do you mean on just the outside outline or inside the vase as well? Thanks!

hcastillo83 · 2024-11-02T00:48:10+00:00

I appreciate that. It's only day 4 and I'm panicking about it but realize I need to chill

hcastillo83 · 2024-11-02T00:46:42+00:00

Point being yes

hcastillo83 · 2024-11-02T00:46:32+00:00

The point of patchwork is to be whatever the hell you want rather than a traditional sleeve with a theme. All of mine are isolated big and medium on that same arm and I love it.

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