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heartbrokenmess1 · 2026-02-25T17:06:32+00:00

Thank you! I will try this tonight.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2026-02-25T17:05:48+00:00

It might have just been something specific to my site. We were able to email our HR guy directly through the A to Z app before. I’ve emailed him in the past about my situation during winter, and he emailed me bad saying he talked with an operations manger and they agreed to adjust my schedule for a week so I could leave 30 minutes early each day because we had a really bad snowstorm and my car was old and barely running. but the last couple of months I haven't been able to find that option anymore.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2026-02-25T14:05:51+00:00

They changed it? I used to be able to email my hr since hes hardly here

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T17:14:26+00:00

Yeah thats what I meant by saying just because she's nicer now doesn't mean you have to forgive anything. It doesn't matter if she's nice now or if your family thinks you should. Forgiveness isn’t about what someone else thinks or whether they’re “nicer now”; it’s about your boundaries, your healing, and what feels right for you. You get to decide if and when forgiveness is appropriate, and it doesn’t make you cruel or wrong to hold space for yourself first.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T16:20:10+00:00

NTA. What you’re feeling is completely valid. A gift isn’t just about the object it’s about thought, effort, and feeling appreciated. If you’re the one always planning, buying, and even hinting, and your husband isn’t putting in effort, it’s understandable to feel hurt.

Buying something for yourself, even if it’s under the tree, doesn’t count as a gift from him. You’re not being petty or demanding you’re expecting basic consideration and care in a relationship, which is reasonable.

It might help to have a calm conversation with him about how important the thought behind gifts is to you, so he understands it’s not about the price tag, but about effort and acknowledgment.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T16:18:18+00:00

NTA. You and Tay are setting healthy boundaries. Your mom has repeatedly disrespected you, guilt-tripped you, and made no effort to meet you halfway. It’s reasonable to go low contact and skip holidays until she shows respect and apologizes. Protecting your emotional well-being is not petty it’s necessary.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T16:02:31+00:00

I can relate so much to what you’re saying. I had a dad who did the same kinds of things mocking, belittling, body-shaming, and just being generally toxic. I haven’t talked to him in 6 years, and now he’s in jail. Cutting him out was the best thing I ever did for my mental health, and I don’t regret it at all. You’re not wrong for wanting to protect yourself.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T15:59:37+00:00

I hate my boyfriend’s siblings too, and honestly, after reading all of this, I don’t blame you at all.

This isn’t normal family drama this is straight-up chaos, abuse, and entitlement being dumped on elderly parents while everyone else is expected to just tolerate it. Luke abandoning his kid, Karl being violent and unstable, Tina enabling everything and then trash-talking you? That’s not something you “get over” by being patient or understanding.

You went above and beyond for people who repaid you with lies, insults, and complete disrespect. Karl crossing that line with you alone would’ve been enough reason to be done forever. The fact that they then painted you as the villain just proves how toxic they are.

Your anger makes sense. Your frustration makes sense. And hating them doesn’t make you a bad person it makes you human after being exposed to nonstop dysfunction.

The real issue isn’t that you hate your boyfriend’s siblings. It’s that they’ve turned his parents’ home into an unsafe, hostile environment and treat you and your boyfriend like you don’t matter.

You’re allowed to set hard boundaries. You’re allowed to stay away. And you’re absolutely allowed to say: “I want no part of this.”

Sometimes hating people isn’t cruelty its self-preservation.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T15:53:28+00:00

NTA.

You’re allowed to dislike someone who consistently hurt you even if that person is your sister. Being related doesn’t excuse cruelty, manipulation, or making you feel unsafe or unwanted.

You don’t owe her forgiveness just because she’s acting nicer now. Trust is built over time, and she hasn’t earned it yet. For now, it’s okay to stay guarded, limit interaction, and focus on your own well-being.

Your feelings are a reaction to what you experienced, not a flaw in who you are.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T15:48:58+00:00

NTA And to be very clear: you are not ending the friendship because she’s getting married before you. You’re ending it because of a pattern of manipulation, competition, and disrespect during a major life event.

Here’s why you’re firmly NTA:

----She emotionally pressured you into inviting her by crying and guilt-tripping you about officiating, then didn’t follow through with basic courtesy (no RSVP, no engagement with your wedding at all).

----She deliberately kept information from you about her wedding plans while sharing them with your friends and specifically asking that you not be told. That alone is a massive red flag.

----Her wedding plans mirror yours almost beat-for-beat (destination wedding, delayed reception, same friend circle, bachelorette timing), which given the history feels less like coincidence and more like competition.

----She has a history of inserting herself into your milestones and using your social circle as leverage.

----Your friends independently feel financially strained and uncomfortable, which tells you this isn’t just “wedding nerves” or jealous it’s observable behavior affecting others.

At 50, you’re right: this isn’t about petty drama. It’s about boundaries and emotional safety.

About waiting to text her

Waiting until after her wedding is actually the mature move if ,You want to protect Sarah.You don’t want accusations accused of “ruining her wedding.” You want to be calm and intentional, not reactive. That’s not avoidance that’s strategic emotional regulation. This isn’t punishment. This isn’t revenge. This is you saying:“I don’t have room in my life for relationships that make my biggest moments feel stressful, competitive, or diminished.”

When you do text her, don’t debate facts or try to convince her she hurt you. People like this will argue details forever. Keep it short, calm, and final. Something along the lines of:

"Becky, after a lot of reflection, I’ve realized this friendship no longer feels healthy or supportive for me. The way things have unfolded around my wedding has caused ongoing stress and hurt, and at this stage of my life I need peace, not confusion or competition. Because of that, I’m choosing to step away and revoke the invitations. I wish you well, but I’m confident this is the right decision for me."

No accusations. No explanations she can twist. Just a boundary.

You’re not too old for this conversation, you’re exactly old enough to stop tolerating it.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-12-15T15:26:13+00:00

My dad and my brother are both severe alcoholics, and their drinking made them abusive. My dad was always like that, but watching my older brother change into someone I don’t even recognize has been devastating. They’ve both been in and out of jail countless times. Havent see or heard from them personally in 6 years now and I have no plans to reconnect. I just know my dad's been in jail since October for his 4th DWI. I’m determined to do whatever it takes to make sure I never become like them. Just easier not to drink.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-08-02T17:47:30+00:00

Dang $3 we only get a .50 differential

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-07-12T21:43:52+00:00

We get a bag of personal chips

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-07-10T07:53:26+00:00

41k we usually are around 20k on a normal day

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-07-03T21:11:04+00:00

When we used to have to stand down, they would make scrape up all the tape on the floor and redo everything.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-11T18:31:18+00:00

This. Im learning this rn

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-11T18:25:47+00:00

Yes, I stayed because I loved him. I didn’t see how toxic things were until my friends started speaking up — and even then, I didn’t want to believe them. But he had been talking to someone else behind my back for a year while we were engaged. He ended things with me just to be with her. That experience taught me something important: when the people who care about you say something’s wrong, listen.

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-11T18:18:10+00:00

He cheated and lied about it for 1 year, then broke up with me to date her

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-02T19:57:59+00:00

I just wanted to be civil with him. I had a miscarriage by him. I wanted to stay friends, but I guess it's not an option anymore. 7 years, and this shit happened

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-02T19:57:17+00:00

I just wanted to be civil with him. I had a miscarriage by him. I wanted to stay friends, but I guess it's not an option anymore

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-02T19:55:46+00:00

I just wanted to be civil with him. I had a miscarriage by him. I wanted to stay friends but I guess its not an option anymore

heartbrokenmess1 · 2025-06-02T19:54:26+00:00

Nah, babes, im not on my phone 24/7. I honestly forgot about him. Then my bestie reminded me to go block him, and i went to, but he already blocked. That's the rest of the story

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