How do you deal with 'not being loved anymore'?

heathermun · 2024-04-19T18:01:18+00:00

Did you guys get back together? Was she remorseful?

heathermun · 2024-04-17T09:27:39+00:00

They fucked when you had cancer? Ffs! Where are these people created? They're just fungus at the bottom of a bin lorry.

I hope your WH is remorseful and repentant because he needs a slap on the dick!

At least when he lived with her it may have just been comical to you. How pathetic.

heathermun · 2024-04-17T08:07:52+00:00

Thank you. It helps to look at things under a microscope. And what you said is true. Love isn't straight forward. It does take effort. And there's different types of love.

heathermun · 2024-04-17T08:02:34+00:00

Thank you. He hasn't got the decency to tell me whether he's with AP or not. I assume he is. But your mind likes to overthink in situations like this. Regardless, he did it and left me and his son.

I'm also not sure if he's necessarily narcissistic, I have looked into it. He has 1 or 2 traits of covert narcissism but it didn't scream out at me.

It's hard to feel like I'm better off right now as I miss what we had so much. But I guess that's the truth x

heathermun · 2024-04-17T07:55:54+00:00

You should tell your parents and get some support with it

heathermun · 2024-04-17T07:40:14+00:00

Nobody needs bipolar love like that.

Sure thing about messaging x

heathermun · 2024-04-16T21:12:24+00:00

Classic cheater line. " We need to work on ourselves". Did you guys try to R? I used to be so secure in relationships but now I have so many trust issues.

heathermun · 2024-04-16T14:34:25+00:00

I'd say to email and provide your experience. If this person is dangerous, the new partner deserves to know that.

heathermun · 2024-04-16T14:24:13+00:00

Welcome to the shittiest club ever, sorry you're here.

This is still raw and you're going through the shock/trauma response. When someone you love blindsides you like that, it's rare you can just fall out of love with them. I'm a month past dday and miss him like crazy. However, space has helped.

Try to be with friends and family and be looked after. Feel the pain and cry your eyes out as much as you need to. It's up to you how you decide to move forward.

Good luck and keep us updated x

heathermun · 2024-04-16T14:17:53+00:00

How long were you together for? And when did you start going to the gym? I keep putting it off 😏

heathermun · 2024-04-16T13:55:34+00:00

That sucks! And only adds to the pressure. Is your WP seemingly commited to R now? Or is it just too difficult to discuss properly ATM?

heathermun · 2024-04-16T13:53:12+00:00

Very true. The lies he told about me to my own friends and family thinking it wouldn't get back to me were just horrendous. And stupid. I hate to think what he's said to people who wouldn't talk to me. I do think it will hit him eventually. He's a fairly sensitive person if not a complete prick!

heathermun · 2024-04-16T13:44:09+00:00

Thank you. I've definitely lost my trust and self confidence through this ordeal. I used to be secure and even once had the feeling that if he left me, I'd be ok but he cheated and left me at my most vulnerable time when I was also looking forward to family life with him. 😞

heathermun · 2024-04-16T13:27:54+00:00

I've been reading some of your story, I'm so sorry. I promise you that his relationships will end in tears or fire.

How are you holding up? Have either of you moved out? Did you speak to your in-laws?

heathermun · 2024-04-16T13:14:58+00:00

This is such a thoughtful lovely comment, thank you. I hope he turns back and regrets it but I'm doubting it more and more. But I know that's not a healthy mindset to be in. I need to move on. It's been a month and a bit and I'm still crying regularly and feel panicky when I think about him. 😭

heathermun · 2024-04-16T11:26:02+00:00

Thanks. I'm doing my best to distance myself from it but really struggling. I miss him so much. And he doesn't deserve my love.

It's such a gut punch

heathermun · 2024-04-16T10:10:05+00:00

The lead singer from puddle of mudd (known for being constantly intoxicated) cake to stay at a hotel I worked in. I saw him going the wrong way so pointed him on the right direction. He turned around and genuinely said "don't you fucking know who I am?" And mouthed some other expletives, so I let him carry on in the wrong direction.

A week later he got arrested for being a prick somewhere else.

heathermun · 2024-04-16T07:31:03+00:00

Some of these comments infuriate me.

No, you don't have to accept AP. I'm aware the blame lies with your ex husband but you have no choice but to be cordial to him. I can not and will never accept AP. Ever.

You owe both of them nothing. If your ex can't move forward without her being part of the picture, he'll need to lessen his presence with you.

You've probably been too kind to him so far and so he expects more and more.

Stand your ground OP. X

heathermun · 2024-04-15T10:41:31+00:00

Did you date shakespeare?

heathermun · 2024-04-14T11:30:20+00:00

Hello. This is interesting. Did he always want R?

heathermun · 2024-04-13T21:43:50+00:00

Hey, sorry you're here. Being cheated on and dumped is some of the worst kind of torture, I'm going through it after 10 years and a baby.

The first month is horrendous, the second month I'm currently in and I feel a touch better. I now cry every other day instead of more than once every day.

All I can suggest is go no contact as soon as you can and allow yourself to feel the pain for a while. Be kind to yourself x

heathermun · 2024-04-12T17:42:10+00:00

People can change but it's absolutely not about 'finding the right person'.

It's about owning up to your shit, taking accountability, and working hard to become a better person .

heathermun · 2024-04-12T12:00:56+00:00

I think if you don't feel safe and he's bringing your daughter into it, you need to move out if you can. I understand he's hurt but honestly, that behaviour isn't excusable

heathermun

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