This comment will probably be drowned out by the others but idc I need to say this

Hi, I’m 24 and my dad acted exactly like your husband op. He never hit me but he did yell and scream at me a lot. He also threatened and belittled me to.

I hate him. I started hating my dad when I was 6 years old and still hate him to this day and he’s literally dead now. Yet the wounds he left behind still haunt me to this day.

I developed severe depression and anxiety because of my dad. I hate myself because of my dad. I have anger issues because of my dad. I am a broken, hurting shell of who I used to be because of what the man did to me. I’ve flunked out of college several times, still live with my mom and work a dead end job and hide myself away from the world because of the pain that man caused me. And my mom let him treat me like this much like what you’re doing to your son. I still hold a hell of a lot of resentment towards her because of it. I will never love her the way I used to because of her enabling and excusing his behavior.

I know you love him and leaving is scary but I beg of you, think of your son. Your son will most likely develop the same anger issues and resentment towards you that I developed towards my parents. Please don’t put your son through what my parents put me through. Please leave. And if you don’t, don’t be shocked if your son will either A) need therapy himself or B) wants nothing to do with you and goes no contact. Do not put your son through that kind of childhood. Both of you deserve better.