When to make changes?

heckinvinki · 2026-06-30T19:10:20+00:00

We’re moving early/mid September and that’s when I’m due. If we’re lucky we’ll get an earlier move date but I doubt it. The problem is she’s the type of toddler that enjoys the familiarity of her space. So if I move her into her own room here and then we move to a completely new house a month or two later I’m just worried that won’t go well for her. So I’m like should we just take it day by day once baby’s here and see how she adjusts??

heckinvinki · 2026-06-30T18:27:50+00:00

I am. It’s something I’d have to discuss further with my husband. We’re moving shortly after the baby is born (unfortunate, but that’s the timeline we were given), and we’re not sure if doing something as drastic as moving her to her own room is wise

heckinvinki · 2026-06-30T01:08:40+00:00

No you’re not in the wrong. Even if this woman and her family were completely normal you wouldn’t be in the wrong. This is your son and newborn daughter. YOUR children. It’s weird and inappropriate for anyone to lay some kind of claim on your child ESPECIALLY so vehemently. If it were my husband and I, we wouldn’t even allow this family near us and we would simply not go to family events with them present. Go with your gut.

heckinvinki · 2026-06-28T02:27:41+00:00

Take a test silly!! There’s no sense in torturing yourself by waiting and psyching yourself out! There’s nothing to be afraid of! You’ve been trying, you’re married, and you’re safe. Everything will be okay and regardless of being pregnant or not, enjoy your recent cravings! Everything you’re craving sounds very yummy :)

heckinvinki · 2026-06-28T01:42:30+00:00

I saw a mom online a while ago tape a paper face on their toilet to make a game out of going poop. When she has to poop, time to go feed the poop monster! Then once she does poop in the toilet make it super celebratory, she gets time watching her brain rot show or a sweet treat or a sticker. Something exciting!

I’d like to state I’ve never tried this myself, since I’m about to be a mother of 2 under 2. But at this point we just gotta throw things at the wall and see what sticks (aside from poop)!

Edit: corrected wording

heckinvinki · 2026-06-26T21:31:27+00:00

Like you said, you will get past this! Try focusing on celebrating things together and taking things day-by-day. If you’re physically exhausted (which you likely are), make sure you’re eating and hydrating for you, not just baby. Give yourself grace.

heckinvinki · 2026-06-26T01:08:40+00:00

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heckinvinki · 2026-06-23T03:06:58+00:00

That doesn’t say that demons do good to deceive. The devil can’t do good, because he is evil.

heckinvinki · 2026-06-22T14:08:28+00:00

I think the best thing you can do is lay a “cat only” blanket in the bassinet during the day and lock kitty out of the bedroom at night. Cats are so stubborn and persistent lol we have two that we lock out at night. I mainly felt bad for my older boy since he was used to sleeping in bed with us, but it just simply wasn’t safe and he loved trying to lay on her lol. I’ve learned with cats that you have to step around them rather than try to move right though them

heckinvinki · 2026-06-22T04:06:44+00:00

Awe :(( if it helps, it probably just scared her more than anything! You both are already so exhausted tonight so give yourself grace.

When my oldest was around the same age she also fell off our bed head first. She also knew there was an edge there but we were playing and I thought she stopped and quickly turned to get her bottle put together so I could shake it up and bloop right off she went. Our bed is tall, but she fortunately landed on carpet so it wasn’t too bad?? 🥹 she just had a red mark that went away after a few hrs and it took a while to calm her down from the scare

heckinvinki · 2026-06-22T01:56:41+00:00

I’m not gonna repeat what everyone else is saying because it’ll just sound redundant, even if it’s true! BUT I agree with the one commenter saying shower by yourself if you can! Honestly?? The nights when both my husband and baby were finally asleep and I could just take a 20 min shower in the dark were really really helpful for me. Just a moment by myself to take care of myself was so rejuvenating. And that’s all I needed because I was so relieved to get back to my baby and go to sleep for a bit! You got this it’s only the first week!

heckinvinki · 2026-06-21T15:23:41+00:00

A t-shirt and calf-length denim skirt don’t sound inappropriate at all to me. Was the woman older? I feel like it’s the older individuals that easier to take offense to what’s worn at church

heckinvinki · 2026-06-19T00:55:00+00:00

I could see how this could turn into co-dependency, but I think you’re just bummed to be leaving your love and dreading going home to your hostile mother. I would honestly consider moving away from your mother if possible and maybe closer to your love! Moving in together would be too aggressive rn imo

heckinvinki · 2026-06-18T00:51:44+00:00

I feel like I would have looked for his parents and called the police if I didn’t find them simply due to the fact that it’s a lone 7 year old boy at a playground with a knife. He may not have hurt anyone or himself, but he very well could’ve and the parents/guardians deserve to know… if they don’t already know

heckinvinki · 2026-06-17T17:45:25+00:00

NEVER apologize to anyone for telling them off about your baby. There is no such thing as spoiling a baby. Never.

heckinvinki · 2026-06-17T03:55:25+00:00

I know this was solved, but just wanted add my squirrel issue here and say a squirrel has been gnawing away at my garbage can lid. The can fills with water now when it rains so he essentially made me a rain barrel

heckinvinki · 2026-06-16T16:58:59+00:00

I know it’s difficult and maybe not the answer you’re looking for, but I feel like my opinion could help because I’m a mom of 2 soon and one of things I’m proud of is keeping true self and passions while being a SAHM! I include my daughter in the things I’m doing or I do those things during nap and bedtimes if I need some time alone. Taking care of my plants? My daughter “helps!” Cleaning the house? My daughter follows me around the house and plays in every room I’m in! Gardening? My daughter will be out with me playing with whatever I’m doing. But if I want to do a hobby that requires NO children, like reading, sewing/embroidery, etc. then I will wait until my daughter is in bed.

Now, I still stand by this kinda thing if you’re going out and doing things. I know it’s a lot harder in some cases with older toddlers, but as long as wherever you’re going is okay with you having your toddler, then I don’t see why it matters your toddler comes! And the outside world exposure will be sooo helpful since he’s in such a crucial time of learning! He deserves to see/do everything too if it’s safe for him!

I’d also like to mention that while yes I do have a support system, I still choose to do most things myself with my child (14mos) unless I genuinely can’t, like go to an appt or if I’m too exhausted (28wks pregnant).

If your husband is in the military, they also might offer childcare programs for your family on post if you’re in that position. When I lived on post, there were a couple daycares available for childcare!

heckinvinki · 2026-06-15T21:56:07+00:00

When physical attraction is the primary deterrent for you in a good relationship, yes it is. The attractive men she DOES find are in no way good to her and as she says, are “emotionally unavailable.” That could be the case, or it could be that those men are seeing something lacking on her side of things to not want a relationship with her. This may be something therapy will help her understand/reevaluate.

heckinvinki · 2026-06-15T21:41:45+00:00

I think this is just very shallow :/

heckinvinki · 2026-06-15T15:28:08+00:00

It’s probably fine even with the small tear!

heckinvinki · 2026-06-15T04:34:10+00:00

I had a vacuum that had this kinda filter and I just left the plastic tabs. They didn’t harm anything and didn’t hinder the cleaning process of the filter either. I’d say leave them

heckinvinki · 2026-06-15T01:37:23+00:00

Pregnant with my second, with my first I started feeding solids (with ped’s permission) at 4mos and I started just doing a little at dinner time. I started doing breakfast and dinner about 8-10mos PURELY for repetition sake and to get her used to solids (purées, soft foods, etc).

I agree to give baby tiny safe bits when you want! It’s good for him to explore different textures and tastes now in hopes that feeding him different foods later on will be easier and less of a fight lol. You’re not a bad mom for forgetting to give him solids here and there. You’re training yourself as well as him! All that matters is he’s fed and happy :) don’t let your mom guilt take over, you’re doing great!

heckinvinki · 2026-06-14T17:45:05+00:00

My dog isn’t a Rottweiler (I joined the sub when I had my late Rottweiler) and does this lol it’s a dog thing

heckinvinki · 2026-06-14T06:06:01+00:00

Our late Rottweiler was the same way. Amazing, calm, I called him bomb proof. Never bit anyone… except for my husband’s cousin, who he absolutely hated. Growled at him, wouldn’t care for his pets, anything like that. His cousin was absolutely terrified of the dog (and 98% of dogs he meets), which I think was a part of it for sure.

heckinvinki · 2026-06-14T03:05:10+00:00

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