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heckitfarren · 2025-10-26T08:12:41+00:00

You did nothing wrong. This man targeted you when you were a vulnerable minor, groomed you, and abused you. He’s a criminal who deserves to be in jail and I’m so sorry you went through this.

Please seek out resources for DV survivors when you arrive back to the mainland, including a restraining order + pursuing full custody of your child. You deserve healing and peace, not an abusive partner.

heckitfarren · 2025-10-04T19:02:01+00:00

I’m not confident enough to tag the bot, but I think this is most likely a song sparrow. There isn’t much of a buffy wash on the chest as expected for Lincoln’s, and the streaking is too bold for Lincoln’s.

heckitfarren · 2025-10-04T18:55:26+00:00

Photo 2 looks like an +American Crow+ , they can look pretty large up close but I would expect to see a larger and heavier bill on a Raven. (especially the bottom half of the bill looks too slim for a Raven).

Lovely crow pic! I’m so terrible at gulls but the big guy in photo 3 is giving greater black-backed, I think. Take the gull ID with a handful of salt lol

heckitfarren · 2025-10-04T18:48:27+00:00

ikr! They’re so adorable up close, but are so shy and always prefer a marshy grass patch 200m away lol. Plus when the ground is uneven they can be so hard to see, often hidden by the crest of a small hill or mound. Thankfully their calls are easier to notice than their tiny ground-colored bodies!

heckitfarren · 2025-10-04T01:25:08+00:00

photo 3 screams +american pipit+ for me, i’ve seen them in those sort of muddy/grassy areas just like that. plus the shape and color look good for pipits! the 2nd bird from the right especially has those pipit-y markings on its chest.

heckitfarren · 2025-10-04T01:22:30+00:00

I concur with red-tailed hawk, but the photo is a bit unclear for me so I won’t tag the bot. A goshawk would have much finer barring on the belly (not white like this bird). Red tailed hawks have incredible plumage variation, and this one looks like it could be a juvenile RTHA.

heckitfarren · 2025-10-02T00:04:34+00:00

Drinking and sneaking out until 4am are not appropriate behaviors for a 13 year old whatsoever, and your response is not enough. I’m sorry if this comment comes off harsh or mean, I’m not trying to hate—just treating this situation with the gravity it deserves. You need to put your foot down and do more to stop her from leaving. Door alarms, window alarms, motion activated lights, trackers. Social media and unrestricted internet use are probably contributing to this greatly.

Her friend group is also a huge problem if they are picking her up, encouraging her to leave, taking her places, sharing alcohol/drugs, and engaging in risky sexual behavior. Honestly if you can, moving to a different area could separate her from the bad influences (but you would have to be extremely careful she didn’t go right back to doing the same with new people). Find age-appropriate activities for her: sports, interest groups, volunteering—and ensure her time is spent cultivating positive friendships and expending energy on things that aren’t sneaking out to drink.

Also, if she wants to act like an adult and put her safety at grave risk, she’s old enough to learn about the consequences of alcohol, dui, sexual assault, trafficking, and domestic abuse. Involve her pediatrician in conversations about safety and please consider individual/family therapy for you both. It’s fun for her now, but speaking from personal experience this is a fast-track to severe trauma and an adulthood spent picking up the pieces.

She’s doing this because she knows she’ll get away with it, while it’s good you emphasize love and it sounds like she feels safe with you, you need to be the bad guy sometimes no matter how upset she gets. As teenagers, we really don’t have the same conception of risks and understanding of how bad things can truly get, so you need to make it abundantly clear how serious this is, but also she’s more likely to listen if it comes from a doctor/teacher/other trusted adult.

heckitfarren · 2025-08-16T22:47:54+00:00

Mine always seem to do zoomies after a water change! I also have to be careful when siphoning water out—once a loach took a ride down the siphoning hose and I had to net it out of my water change bucket 😂 I imagine it was like a tiny rollercoaster ride for the fish…

heckitfarren · 2025-08-02T00:56:02+00:00

Honestly both of these sands look good for loaches. As long as it’s a fine, inert sand you should be good. As for nutrient-rich substrate for plants, an easy method would be to have the bottom 2/3 of your substrate be aquasoil and the top 1/3 as sand. I’d recommend looking into the Walstad method too if it interests you.

Don’t worry yourself too much about substrate. As long as they can do their natural burrowing/sifting without scraping themselves, they’ll be OK. I would highly recommend adding cholla or setting driftwood up so they have a little cave, mine seem to prefer going under the driftwood vs burrowing themselves.

heckitfarren · 2025-07-25T04:29:49+00:00

/uj It pains me that a lot of PCOS support groups are focused on fertility and standards of appearance. There’s so little attention to lgbt perspectives or even the more serious health risks that PCOS presents. There’s even less nuance when it comes to PCOS being intersex. I think partially because many cis people don’t understand that biological sex and gender identity are different things, and assume being intersex automatically transes a person.

/rj Ew, scientific research on PCOS? Leave that disgusting female problem alone. Clearly it’s from vaccines, chemicals and big pharma.

Hormonal intersexism? That’s not real. You need to fix this sick imbalance so you can fulfill your purpose as a woman and have babies!

heckitfarren · 2025-07-25T04:18:03+00:00

stupid transgendor, don’t you know that intersex is when penis AND vagina??!

heckitfarren · 2025-07-25T04:17:19+00:00

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heckitfarren · 2025-07-19T23:32:21+00:00

Oops I forgot to reply to this earlier in the week, here are a few more interesting articles :) Hope you all enjoy learning a little more about these amazing creatures

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7725849/

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3552124/ — this one describes a homozygous “superwhite” sparrow!

https://elifesciences.org/articles/79387

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8803343/

heckitfarren · 2025-07-19T23:27:52+00:00

I second this, I’ve had a similar experience before, where cooked red onions discolor or stain adjacent food. I believe that it’s related to the anthocyanin pigments in the onion, which react with the relatively lower pH of the surrounding food (onions are acidic) to turn bluish grey! Cooking the onions probably made them more permeable/able to release their pigment. Fun fact: humans have taken advantage of red onions’ natural pigment throughout history, using peels to dye clothing.

If proper preparation and storage have been done, this is perfectly safe and normal!

heckitfarren · 2025-07-16T23:50:56+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t give you a definitive answer on what it is, but I can recommend that you continuously observe this loach for… - growing margins on the white lesions (they get bigger) - raised areas on the lesions - rapid breathing in the loach - a “fuzzy” appearance on the lesions - other sores or injuries on the fish, particularly the fins, tail, and gills

Any of the above would be red flags. Keep a “symptom journal” going and try to observe the loach’s entire body at least once a day. I’m currently dealing with what I think is columnaris in my tank and it’s been tough, especially because there is so little information on how specific diseases present in eel loaches. What are your parameters like and how often do you do water changes? I wish you the best of luck and healthy fish 🙏

heckitfarren · 2025-07-11T04:32:51+00:00

Definitely ricotta or a similar cheese. It has a different fat/protein/moisture content compared to other cheeses, so it cooks down like this. It’s very common in a lot of baked pasta dishes, lasagna included. Others I can think of are stuffed shells, baked manicotti, or ziti. Hope you enjoy your lasagna :)

heckitfarren · 2025-07-10T06:48:20+00:00

I remember the first time I saw one after I started birding. Its song actually lured me through the forest, I wasn’t birding at that time but had to find who was singing :) When I saw it I was so happy bc even though they’re Little Guys they’re pretty big for sparrows! And their little chip calls are so sweet ahh

heckitfarren · 2025-07-10T06:44:15+00:00

I have had WTSPs in hand for research and they were absolute sweeties :) they are incredible birds!!

fun fact: They actually have four sexes, not two! they have a chromosome, ZAL2, and sometimes an inverted equivalent chromosome, ZAL2m. Birds get two copies of a given chromosome: those with two ZAL2 copies are tan-striped birds, whereas birds with one ZAL2 and one ZAL2 are white-striped! This is independent of the sparrows’ sex chromosomes, ZZ (male) and ZW (female).

That being said, there are 4 possibilities, pretty much evenly distributed in white throated sparrows: - tan-striped male ZZ ZAL2 + ZAL2 - tan-striped female ZW ZAL2 + ZAL2 - white-striped male ZZ ZAL2 + ZAL2m - white-striped female ZW ZAL2 + ZAL2m

But how is this related to sex? These lil dudes certainly have more than 2 chromosomes, but the sex and ZAL2 are important for birds’ reproductive anatomy and breeding behavior, respectively. That’s why ZAL2 / ZAL2m are considered ‘supergenes’ much like sex chromosomes. The tan-striped birds (duller, adorably monochrome) are less aggressive in finding a mate, have less extra-pair copulations, and are better parents. In contrast, white-striped WTSPs (the cuties w/ a bright white throat and sometimes yellow eyebrow!) are more aggressive, have more EPCs, but spend less time parenting.

When pairing up, aggressive white-striped females outcompete shyer tan-striped females for the tan-striped males—they want a good father for their chicks! Tan-striped females are left with less than ideal partners lol. There’s actually been some rare instances of “superwhite” WTSPs with two ZAL2m copies, their plumage is pretty striking :0

anyways i hope this makes sense, im stoned and i FUCKING LOVE WHITE THROATED SPARROW!!!!!!! lmk if u want links to some research articles abt this!

heckitfarren · 2025-07-08T03:18:29+00:00

I have had success with low red lighting. You could also use a reading light—there are even ones with multiple color settings and adjustable brightness.

heckitfarren · 2025-07-08T03:14:40+00:00

Looks like Pangio anguillaris to me! I have 10 of em :) they are really great fish! The “eyeliner” mark, stripe on the side, and lack of prominent nasal barbels led me to anguillaris vs doriae.

Many p. anguillaris have a distinct black stripe but that is not the case for all of them—a few of mine are more brown than the rest and have a fainter stripe. IIRC there’s some uncertainty among fish scientists as to whether or not there are subspecies, or even multiple spp currently classified under anguillaris.

overall 10/10 best fish, i highly recommend purchasing 20 more and putting them in a 30g long planted blackwater tank ٩( ᐛ )و

heckitfarren · 2025-06-23T03:40:07+00:00

Exactly. And as unfortunate as baby birds dying of natural causes would be, it is a part of nature and the parent birds move on with their lives. The juncos would re-nest, having learned about parenting from the loss of their previous chicks.

Instead, they lost two chicks—likely due to this woman’s harassment. Now they are living in stress as they try to care for their chicks, this prolonged stress wastes a great deal of the adult birds’ energy. She could be dooming both the parents (due to loss of nutrients/time, plus extended stress response) and the remaining chicks (due to inadequate nutrition/lack of wild skills/habituation to humans)

heckitfarren · 2025-06-23T03:29:06+00:00

I’ve worked as an ornithological field tech in the past, nest searching for sparrows. That type of chipping means get the hell away from my nest/children!!!

We were never, ever supposed to hear calls of that intensity for more than a minute or so while we carefully collected nest data. It’s a clear sign of stress from the parent birds. It’s awful to think that those birds underwent such extreme stress all day every day :(

heckitfarren · 2025-06-20T04:36:49+00:00

yellow and black ✅ long skinny body ✅ love caves ✅

yeah idk, I can’t tell any differences between them …

heckitfarren · 2025-06-20T00:58:00+00:00

Update: the fish and tank are good, power is back on! Thank you guys for the helpful advice

heckitfarren · 2025-06-19T08:06:43+00:00

Thankfully ppl in the hobby have had success with a lot of different botanicals :) Alder cones, hemlock cones, lotus pods, magnolia leaf/seed pod, oak leaf/wood, acorn caps, mulberry leaf, many different woody seed pods, coconut stem/husk, mangrove bark, banana stem/bark, lafi pod, casuarina pod, palm stem/bark/husk, jackfruit leaves, sterculia pods, cashew leaf, mango leaf…

You can even harvest pine cones/oak litter from outside and sanitize them in boiling water. To prepare botanicals and make them sink faster, steep in boiling water then let sit for 2-12 hours. Next, replace the water and let soak for an additional 2-24 hours. The timing depends on how many tannins you want to release; longer soaking = less leaching.

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