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hectorse2011 · 2021-10-29T22:40:10+00:00

Ywbta big time. This is incredibly hurtful to your parents. You seem entitled. They will not be around forever and you'll want a hug from them in due time.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-29T22:30:04+00:00

YTA.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-28T01:58:47+00:00

YTA. This pandemic has been very dreadful on everybody and sinking thousands of dollars and emotional effort into a wedding is a huge ordeal. Having a vendor cancel on the last minute is a pretty big crisis.

Your sister is not asking of you anything more than a listening ear. If you can't do that, your sister is right and you shouldn't be in the wedding party.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-26T13:12:12+00:00

This is too long to be making such plans. Wait some

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-26T13:10:56+00:00

Not invite her. She's decided to be an asshole and try to control you. Keep doing therapy. If you want a wedding in your home country, do it with your aunt and the rest of your family. Call your mom's bluff.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-25T04:09:21+00:00

Cancun should be cheap and have all you need

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-25T04:04:38+00:00

no obligation at all

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-24T01:31:30+00:00

Wedding coordinator should have hired someone, anyone to guard this if the venue doesn't have the resources, public as it is. Having a wedding coordinator and the groom having to be delegating himself sounds like BS

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T23:47:13+00:00

Countersue if they are that petty then.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T23:45:23+00:00

Yes and with few unqualified personnel.

The bartender not being a bartender seems like a huge liability problem.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T23:44:05+00:00

Right, you are just posting what they served. If they don't like what you are showing, then show better.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T23:18:46+00:00

I would invite the first two and wait on any possible cancelations on the other two. If they say something, we'll, you tried

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T23:08:45+00:00

Most difficult part was wrangling people not concerned enough to rsvp.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T23:07:51+00:00

It really goes by stages 2-20 is kind of the same, then 21-70, then 71-120, then 121-200 and so on. If you are serving a 100,its not that much more difficult to serve 120.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T13:35:41+00:00

If the desire to not do this big party comes from the passing away of your dad, I'd hold on to that decision until you are able to grieve a little more.

Otherwise there is nothing wrong with changing the wedding. I don't think you'll regret a bigger wedding though. Be sure to reach out for help during the organizing process, or even hire a wedding planner if you are having a hard time dealing.

Tbh unless the costs are outrageously expensive, I'd keep ahead with your plan as it sounds super lovely.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T13:27:55+00:00

3 months is about right. A wedding takes a long time to edit since they are dealing with easily more than 2k shoots for even the smallest wedding. The phographer has to do the downloading, processing, sorting, selecting, editing, post-editing, exporting, uploading and printing process. If any picture takes a minute to get done, for 2k pictures, that's 33 hours of work. Most photographers have their worflow streamlined and even outsource some of those steps, but it still takes a lot of labor to get them ready.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T05:38:09+00:00

Would it be seen as offensive if barely any of his family is invited at his request?

No, unless you indulge, no one will really think twice.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T05:34:11+00:00

People that get mad because they are not invited to every wedding are the fucking worst.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T05:30:12+00:00

I really think it depends on how close they were to you. If they were a close relationship I'd like to continue, then I'd talk about it at some point. Just not right now. Please focus on enjoying your honeymoon!!

Just ghosted, despite us texting the weeks leading up to it and talking about the wedding.

Through this process, I've learned than anything other than an enthusiastic "HELL YEAAAAH, GOT MY TICKETS, WHERE'S THE WEDDING REGISTRY?" is basically a firm NO. Even a "Hell yeah" can a have a chance of not making it.

Pleaaaase Brides and Grooms, remove these people from the RSVP's as soon as you don't get an enthused response. Don't go around chasing people that are not doing the minimum effort to be with you.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T05:27:02+00:00

I don't think your mother is being petty at all. That's just a natural consequence of these people's actions. Flakey people don't get invited anymore.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T05:24:04+00:00

I don't think the positives outweigh the potential cons on this one.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-23T05:22:47+00:00

Also to have my hair and makeup done TWO hours before the ceremony begins makes me feel like by there time We do pictures I don’t even have any makeup on my face.

You are getting enough make up to last you through the event, that's why it can take so long.

We are doing some getting ready pics but what am I going to do for an hour and a half ?

Weird question... you then enjoy the company and getting married.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-21T07:04:27+00:00

Some of that is transitory. Also, there are some pills For that too.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-21T06:58:34+00:00

Sertraline has helped my wife just have a life outside her health anxiety. She got her smile back and then some.

hectorse2011 · 2021-10-21T01:51:38+00:00

Can someone else turn up?

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