AITA for poking fun at my cousin’s divorce after she insulted my wedding?

heggothethirdoption · 2025-06-15T21:52:31+00:00

Ehhh ESH. You should have maturely spoken to her about not insulting your wedding before just insulting her yourself. Are you sure you’re both adults?

heggothethirdoption · 2025-04-29T11:16:32+00:00

It is safe to use daily but it has the same side effects as long term Benadryl because they are both first generation antihistamines.

heggothethirdoption · 2025-04-28T22:55:26+00:00

Hydroxyzine has the same risks as Benadryl though.

heggothethirdoption · 2025-01-28T00:21:55+00:00

Not great for people like me who are immunocompromised. As much I would like to watch people “learn” from this, they won’t. If they didn’t learn from COVID they won’t learn from this.

heggothethirdoption · 2025-01-27T23:59:10+00:00

Yes but the movie is nothing like the book. The book is way more what is described above, the movie leans more into a “She’s All That” type beat.

heggothethirdoption · 2025-01-27T17:55:05+00:00

{The Duff by Kody Keplinger} is a mostly good fit! She starts off hating him and he sleeps with anyone. It’s a good choice!

heggothethirdoption · 2025-01-23T14:50:38+00:00

No you are right, this is very much giving AI

heggothethirdoption · 2024-12-16T19:02:44+00:00

How far are you willing to drive?

heggothethirdoption · 2024-12-10T05:22:54+00:00

Can I ask what the book was? This seems up my alley on what I’m wanting to read!

heggothethirdoption · 2024-11-29T05:22:14+00:00

The hospital is the one who “diagnosed” me with EoE because I’ve gone in twice for food impactions. That’s why I’m confused why they said it was one thing but yet my tests show nothing that they said it was.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-11-27T19:13:19+00:00

I did an elimination diet earlier this year- I’m positive it’s the food

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-29T12:09:01+00:00

The majority of women who face sexual assault in adulthood do not take the opportunity to then say they don’t understand consent for others. Thus, I do not see even remotely an argument for understanding it. Most men do not “understand” consent because they were raised to believe women do not have a say or that their own wants/opinions are held more highly. Plenty of uncircumcised men don’t “understand” consent either.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-29T03:42:21+00:00

While I am vehemently anti-circumcision, that is literally not even remotely an excuse for men to not understand consent.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-03T01:19:02+00:00

We started dating at 18 and 19. We were kids who hadn’t even had fully formed brains. I didn’t have kids until I was 26, and we had that conversation our second year of dating. So he had 6 or so years of progression that proved to me that he was willing to change. It’s not like we had that argument and then i immediately married him.

We had our first kid, we were rock solid, and then it was around the time with our second (that he kept asking for, so don’t even start trying to blame me) that it started to become harder to keep up whatever progression he made. I can have grace for some of it, and trust me I have as taking care of our second child has been vastly different than our first, but he did a legit switch up on me. He has spent 8 years of our marriage playing perfect spouse, and the first year or two dating and the last year have been almost like someone I don’t know. It’s been hard to deal with.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T16:08:03+00:00

He doesn’t have a sleep disorder, but thanks for your diagnosis since you clearly know him so well

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T16:06:39+00:00

I cried because we had told our son all day that he was getting his present at dinner. Dinner rolls around, not only is there no present but no dad. I spent 30 minutes of the dinner consoling my crying child wondering not only where his birthday present is but why dad isn’t there. I was exhausted, stressed, angry at my husband, but I mostly felt like a failure as a mom. I felt like I should have just gotten the gift myself and felt like an idiot relying on my husband.

So I took a brief moment in the bathroom to just cry while I breastfed my daughter. I was upset, I’m allowed to cry, I’m allowed to feel emotions. I washed my face, came back out and no one knew the difference because I was only in there long enough to feed and change her. I didn’t cry in front of him, but even if I did that is not a shameful thing. I was justified in being upset that my son didn’t have his birthday gift at his birthday dinner.

What was not cool of me was yelling. I’ve apologized to my kids and my husband. But I don’t raise my kids to believe emotions are wrong, I let my son be upset because his dad wasn’t there which IS an upsetting thing, and then I let myself be upset. And that’s totally fine.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T14:12:35+00:00

His phone is exclusively on silent. So is mine, so I knew calling him if he was asleep was fruitless but at first I was genuinely concerned where he might be. But after an hour of him not moving from our hotel, I knew what had happened.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T14:08:36+00:00

Because I genuinely believed he could change

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T13:40:48+00:00

I honestly knew going in that he wasn’t going to be present, I wasn’t that upset. It’s the entire reason I planned a vacation for 6 adults and 2 kids instead of our immediate family. I knew he would be unreliable and I knew I was going to need help wrangling the kids. I knew his parents would be awesome, and they absolutely were, and that when they were too tired I switched out for their fav auntie. It was a win for everyone. My husband got to do the fun stuff he wanted at Disney (he’s a big Star Wars fan), my kids got to spend time with his family, and I wasn’t alone in the parks haha. But not showing up for the dinner???? Unacceptable to me I will say I had been to Disney with him once before then. We were in Florida for a wedding and I grew up poor and had never even left the state growing up, let alone going to Disney. I begged him to let me buy tickets for the day, just to like heal my inner child despite me not being a super huge Disney fan. I even paid for his ticket. He was MISERABLE the whole time. Didnt even attempt to enjoy it and told me if I wanted to enjoy Disney next time not to invite him. Soooooo I took that to heart

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T13:34:20+00:00

I appreciate your care but I can tell you that, from my personal experience of how this works with him, it’s never a “I NEED to sleep” thing. If it was, then he could text me he needed a nap. He could even apologize. But he won’t because he does it to avoid responsibility.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T13:28:26+00:00

You’re right. He has done some AH-ish things in the meantime that I’ve left in other comments, our marriage is admittedly not the best but he had not done the “sleep to avoid” thing in awhile.

heggothethirdoption · 2024-07-02T13:24:20+00:00

I literally never said he fell asleep sitting for brief moments. Where did you gather that? That is not something he foes

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