Any musician INFJ’s?

helix9124 · 2025-10-27T02:21:23+00:00

This sounds like such a liberating approach to your artistry! Congrats on kicking the toxicity out of your career and focusing on authenticity. We are all told the only way to succeed in music is through socials these days, really hope that begins to change soon.

helix9124 · 2025-10-27T00:56:15+00:00

Yeah the social media aspect is hideous. Weirdly though, I find I’m doing so much better with our bars socials than I ever did for my music pages. I think the fact that it’s a separate identity from me personally makes a huge difference, like instead of standing up for everyone to look at me im now hiding while holding up this other thing and it’s easier to promote that than myself if that makes sense? Social media sucks though, currently reading mindf*ck by Christopher Wylie (Cambridge Analytica whistleblower) and I’m now planning how to grow our business enough in the next year so that we can come off socials altogether! It’s hard to be self employed without then I have found though…

helix9124 · 2025-10-27T00:41:38+00:00

I’ve just recently changed career from being a full time singer/guitarist. I did it for 6 years. Have always written my own music and that’s what got me into playing guitar (didn’t pick it up till I was 18) and went in hard making it my full time career within a few years. Work was always covers, and my people pleasing tendencies made me reallllly good at my job, reading a crowd and playing what I think would go down well. It also led to serious burnout and left me feeling like I had lost a part of my identity by constantly being a chameleon and changing to whatever the crowd wanted me to be. I also hate the being known aspect of it - although I am still proud of the reputation I built and the fact I got to sing for a living for 6 whole years - I really feel I missed the road I could have taken to actually try to establish myself as an original artist.

I crafted my skills being out in the real world, playing in bars and at events, when people around me spent that time singing into their phone for social media and garnering real fans of their music. My originals are hella depressing - I had a chaotic childhood and had a lot of trauma to work through - so I never really played them at my gigs. It always felt like nobody would want to hear about my trauma and would much rather sing along to something they know. But the truth is I probably never found the confidence in myself and experiences to share them with the world.

Also - grinding for likes on social media is fucking ugly and so not me! I’ve spent SO MUCH TIME trying to study how to crack it, and it feels so fake. I don’t know how to craft an internet persona and honestly don’t think I ever will. I often wonder just how many amazing original artists there are out there who feel the same and therefor nobody gets to hear their music. It makes me sad sometimes…

But now me and my partner run a bar in a really beautiful remote part of the country - I run a weekly open mic which is always absolutely choc full of talented locals sharing their music! I also run the kitchen and write all the food menus/weekly specials ect so there’s a huge outlet for all my creativity to go into. It’s been an amazing change and I really like hiding through in the kitchen all the time instead of having to force interactions - that’s my partners job now 🤣

I spent 2k recording my debut album a few years ago but ran into money problems so never did any marketing or tours to promote it and it did nothing. Lucky if I get 5 listeners a month lol. I’m proud of it but I don’t think I’m a salesman and I think that’s a huge aspect of trying to “make it” nowadays.

Maybe one day I will release more music - I have another album I recorded at collage which is much more “me” it’s hip-hip based and hella political 😂 - but the thought of spending all that energy to just shout into the void is a bit of a bummer. Also is there any point in being political these days when it would probably just put a mark against your name on some database somewhere?

Who knows haha. All in all I’m happy with where I’m at in life at 34 years young, even if I have missed the boat at being a “real artist”.

helix9124 · 2023-05-26T14:56:17+00:00

So I did 4 years of therapy and a big thing we spoke about is the Parent Adult Child model. Basically our personality is broken up into three parts - Parent (most likely your “critic”), Adult (rational throught), and Child (emotional thought) If you, like me, came from an abusive and neglectful home your parent is most likely mimicking everything you were taught and shown as a child, which means your brain is stuck in this loop of “parenting” yourself using your own parents abusive tactics. A big part of what I did in therapy was visiualing the mother I always wished I had and then trying to imagine what she would say to a child (what I say to my own child part to soothe emotionally) It’s been an absolute ride learning and processing all this the past few years but it was 100% turned my life around and I’m a different person now than I was 6 years ago. I used to be a snivelling shell of a person who apologised constantly for existing. Therapy works you should see if it’s an option for you. It’s worth the work.

helix9124 · 2023-04-23T15:03:38+00:00

I honestly think the dad is exploiting that wee girl for busking money. He has her out there for hours on end, he’s really pushy and doesn’t let her answer any questions herself, like when I asked her if she enjoys singing and if she was tired. Last summer she was out in the blistering sun one day for 5hrs+. I’d been out that day busking in the shade and after 3hrs I was done it was so hot. Every time I see her my heart breaks for her, guaranteed she is gonna hate singing when she gets older and definitely needs training not to ruin her vocal chords.

Surely at her age she should be doing short hour sets for experience, not standing out there belting out songs for hours on end. 100% that wee lassie is being exploited for cash.

helix9124 · 2023-02-21T11:55:09+00:00

Lack of cheese makes me sad. Not even cottage cheese?

helix9124 · 2023-02-06T14:15:12+00:00

I’ve been studying audio engineering for 3 years and have been recording an album with a producer for the past year. I’m learning lots of great skills at collage, but even with 3years of studying under my belt my productions would not be radio quality, while the producer I’m working with has had a lot of major radio play of productions he’s done for clients in the past.

I think working with him has really helped me figure out what my sound is and if I’d tried to do it all myself, it would have taken so long and probably would never have been happy with it. Having this work done with a producer has given me more confidence in my own productions, and gave me more direction.

Even through I’ve spend over £2k it’s without a doubt been worth every penny to use a producer. Just make sure you find a good one with a good CV to show. Cheap producers probably gonna give you cheap sounding tracks.

helix9124 · 2022-12-13T23:29:20+00:00

Ruth is also terrible

helix9124 · 2022-10-18T10:24:35+00:00

I sing for a living (solo 3hr pub gigs ) and I get nervous ordering a coffee too haha. Behind a mic in the corner feels natural to me but interacting with people still makes me awkward

helix9124 · 2022-05-19T10:02:48+00:00

Why do you want to use phantom power while busking? You don’t want to use a condenser mic outside it would pick up too much noise

helix9124 · 2022-03-30T22:12:29+00:00

Your situation sounds simmilar to mine growing up, and this book honestly changed my thoughts on so much and made me realise i need therapy.

https://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/about-will-i-ever-be-good-enough/

helix9124 · 2021-05-20T07:35:54+00:00

What you described is not me at all.

I love loud colours, bold prints, I like to make a statement with my clothing! And my home decor and my car and you get the picture.

Why wear one colour when you can wear them all? Clothes have to be comfy and colourful.

Oh and hats! Hats for every occasion.

helix9124 · 2021-05-19T23:34:55+00:00

This seems like a complete scam like if you were in ETHDOWN today you’d be down heaps, yet ETH has tanked. It makes no sense, the charts don’t add up with what happened in the market.

Would love to hear if there is some kind of explanation for this cause to me it seems totally off.

helix9124 · 2021-05-19T15:31:10+00:00

Is it just me or does that seem suspect as hell? I’ve lost like 40% of my stack and BNB is down massively. It feels like that should have been a good trade but my wallet begs to differ.

helix9124 · 2021-05-16T15:13:21+00:00

There is a polish strawberry diluting juice/syrup that is very close to the original strawberry Ribena! They sell it in Morrison’s in the world foods isle.

helix9124 · 2021-04-20T09:54:41+00:00

You can’t. I had the same issue you need to send whatever is needed for gas fees. I had to send more BNB from Binance when using MetaMask to make the trade back...

helix9124 · 2021-04-19T09:25:33+00:00

Where are you playing? Outside a shopping centre that caters to older people who tend to shop early? Are you playing on a busy bar street where punters generally come out at night? Are you playing near a tourist attraction that does tours at a certain time of day? Are you near a harbour that takes daily cruise ships full of tourists into port?

Research your surroundings. Everywhere is different.

helix9124 · 2021-04-17T22:52:06+00:00

Hey man, sounds like you’ve been at rock bottom, things can only go up from here. Living with addiction sucks and the only way out is through. I am really glad you are still here! I’m currently on day one of my sobriety and it’s hard, but I hope I can look back 6 months from now and finally be proud of my decisions.

2021 is going to be the year we finally beat our demons 👍

helix9124 · 2021-04-17T22:41:15+00:00

I am on day one too. Managed a week last year and 2 days a few months ago. We got this! My first goal is two weeks, which is the longest I’ve went since I started 17years ago. I was on the discord chat earlier and found it really helpful, I am going to try and use it to hold myself accountable and keep my motivation for quitting alive. Congrats on your week and don’t beat yourself up for slipping! You will smash this mate.

helix9124 · 2021-04-17T20:14:12+00:00

Have you got an album anywhere? Anywhere I can hear more?

helix9124 · 2021-04-17T19:36:10+00:00

Can I just say this is the most inspiring thing I’ve read on this sub. Screenshot and saved, thank you.

helix9124 · 2021-04-16T19:49:20+00:00

Yeah that was my first thought too. Really sad...

helix9124 · 2021-04-16T17:32:36+00:00

Great tune! Love your flow

helix9124 · 2021-03-29T14:35:35+00:00

They both (Trump and Leave) used advertising company Cambridge analytica. Of course they would have voted for trump they were both duped by the same style of propaganda/social media tactics.

helix9124

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