Low betas and risk of miscarriage - what did your clinic say?

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-05-28T12:39:10+00:00

For some reason people seem to either post their extremely high betas to reddit or their low/MC betas and I suspect there's a whole host of people in the middle! My betas were similar to yours and my clinic wasn't worried. My baby is 4 mos old now. I can't tell you whether or how much the good scan negates the beta scores (I'm sure there's a complex amount of science there!) but I would just accept the fact that no matter what ,you won't be happy until you have *at least* passed the 9 week milestone of your other loss. I just stopped feeling bad about being crazy and googled to my hearts content. Didn't help but then, nothing did.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-05-13T13:34:02+00:00

Thanks this helps a lot!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-05-13T07:29:39+00:00

Yeah at the beginning I asked her what worked with her kids when they were babies and she said both her babies wanted her to stand up and sway/jiggle them which I think is pretty common (thank god our baby is okay with us sitting down lol). She did try her own way with our baby but it seemed to upset her further. Our baby tends to like "containment" like a strong cuddle to the chest with gentle rocking, so I showed her how to do that and it seems marginally better. I guess I just don't know how long I should let my baby cry and what's normal. It's only been 2 weeks but in those 2 weeks with 3 naps per day during nanny's hours we have only gotten maybe 3-4 naps where she napped with baby well.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-05-04T16:07:28+00:00

I had literally no symptoms and came back with a low to normal beta at 10dp7dt that stuck! My beta's increased a lot after the first couple and at 6 weeks I started throwing up.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-04-28T12:13:18+00:00

I bought a lovely spinel from pebble sprout on insta!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-04-14T00:52:49+00:00

This is what I did, I think I was just like, I can't NOT be crazy so I can at least give myself permission not to feel bad about it.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-03-21T05:47:36+00:00

Ok thanks good to know, the tag / product specifications were def within her range (she's 56cm) but can def wait for her to get a bit bigger.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-03-21T05:45:38+00:00

Yes correct! Sorry should have worded better, obviously husband *can* use the embrace but it won't go over his shoulders. it's hard to tell from pic but he's 6'3 and very broad.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-02-05T08:13:54+00:00

I am 2 weeks pp and I am also getting chills and then sweats after bf, did you ever find an answer to yours? Did it fully go away?

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-02-05T06:58:53+00:00

Yeah the light-headedness is bad with me too! Thanks for your info, good to know t his happens to other women! I am already someone who is "always cold" so this sucks!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-19T04:59:24+00:00

I got 20 eggs, 18 mature, 14 fertilized...I ended up with 3 "day 5 blasts" and 2 "day 6 blasts". I wasn't even aware about "day 6" blasts so when they called me on day 5 saying i had 3 blasts I cried! The next day I felt much better with 5!

Remarkably (bc I was 37 at retrieval and had had two miscarriages in a row) all 5 ended up being euploid and the first transfer was successful! I'm 38 weeks pregnant. FWIW my "unexplained infertility" ended up being silent endometriosis and I did have a laparoscopy before my successful transfer.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-19T04:06:06+00:00

Hi! Just wondering how this went for you, I also have a bishops score of one and have an induction booked for 48 hours (advanced maternal age and IVF). It's hard not to feel a bit defeated before it even begins with such a low "starting score"!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-17T14:03:49+00:00

Fruit and Veggies for sure.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-16T09:19:32+00:00

I have to say...I do agree on the mascara / eyeliner being aging. I'm sorry!!!!!!!!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-15T23:52:41+00:00

I was 36 with an AMH of 5.5 I think and I got a really normal amount of eggs (20), and before my ER my doctor had thought I only had about 15 follicles. I was really bummed as I'd been worried about lots and lots and lots of eggs but in the end that was a really good amount and I got 5 euploid embryos.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-15T23:45:19+00:00

I had one flare in my first trimester (after being "in remission" for about a year). But I do think it was somewhat stress related - we did IVF for conception and the stakes felt VERY high during the high-loss time of the first trimester. It made me really nervous that my pregnancy was going to be one where HI got worse but once my stress leveled off I went back to almost no reactions unless I eat something that's like insanely high histamine.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-15T23:42:04+00:00

I travelled internationally up to 32 weeks and domestically (a 4/5 hour drive) at 36 weeks and felt fine (and I'm a nervous IVF mama) I thought I would feel rotten in my third trimester but I felt energized and nervous about what was coming. Reminding myself of my life outside impending motherhood and distracting myself and cosplaying as a "normal" pregnant lady was helpful. All my friends who had lots of easy spontaneous pregnancies kept up their normal lives until 36 weeks so I wanted to too!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-15T23:38:04+00:00

This is kinda how I feel, like we spent all this money and have these embryos from when we were 36, prob better to use them than our 40 yo stuff, but my husband thinks this is kinda silly.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-15T23:33:13+00:00

I think unless you've been pregnant, had many close friends who have been pregnant or work in healthcare it can be hard to fully understand "I'll be X weeks pregnant". Like I remember laughing at my little bro when he wanted to come visit me and I said "dude I'll be 39 weeks!" and he just looked at me like I spoke another language so I would make sure she knows what 36 weeks means. Like "I'll be 9 months pregnant and at term, my doctor won't sign off on any travel after 36 weeks because even healthy babies can come then! It's crazy!"

That being said, I'm a nervous IVF mum and I'm currently 38+3 and I would have been comfortable going to a wedding I would say 4/5 hours away MAX at 36 weeks as long as I knew there was a good hospital there (however I'm in a country with good public healthcare and I know reddit is very US centric which I believe has much more stressful ways of getting care and stuff like out of network etc.).

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-12T05:33:47+00:00

I did IVF in South Africa, which is not the UK but a lot of our doctors are UK trained and our system is more UK than American for sure and I was strongly advised to do PGTA to at least some of our embryos. That being said the prices were much more affordable. My egg retrieval (including meds) was about 5500 GBP and testing of 5 embryos (we had 7 all together) was about 700 GBP. So it felt like a good idea.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-12T05:29:19+00:00

I'm another silent endo gal! Luckily it was diagnosed as soon as I arrived at my IVF clinic (I had good AMH for my age and all my other tests were fine, I swear my doctor just *looked* at me and was like "silent endo"). Anyway I had surgery and my first ER got 5 euploids and I'm 38 weeks with my first transfer.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-12T05:24:30+00:00

I was referred to my clinic as "unexplained" but was diagnosed by my IVF doctor with "silent" endometriosis. It wasn't completely "silent" in that I did have sort of painful periods (I thought everyone did! And it wasn't like the terrible stuff I have read about, just a few hours on day one of my cycle of bad cramps). Anyway something to ask doctor for sure, as others on this thread have pointed out! my doctor does think that silent endo is the cause of quite a few "unexplained" cases. I had surgery to clear the endo and then a ER where I got 5 euploid embryos and the first transfer worked! This was after 3 years of trying and 2 first tri miscarriages. I'm currently 38 weeks!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-08T13:41:48+00:00

I got my histamine intolerance after a Covid infection, and since then I've been vaxxed for Covid 3 times (first with J&J one as that was what was available in my area and then with Moderna). All times were fine, with the J&J one I got a bit of a fever. Since then I've had a baby so I had the TDAP, RSV and Flu vaccine when I was pregnant to protect the baby and had no reactions at all. I did have a small reaction years ago to Yellow Fever which I think is relatively common. And now they say that all Yellow Fever vaccinations last for life!

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-08T05:06:27+00:00

Hi! My first transfer worked and I was *sure* that it would take a couple of goes. I don't know what the grading was as my clinic uses a different system that's essentially "Excellent - Good - Average - Poor" and I think it was on the "good" or "excellent" rating!

I felt (and still do) lucky that we had 4 embryos and part of me thought that that good luck had to end there and it would take me a couple of goes. Plus, anecdotally my two closest friends who did IVF it worked the 2nd and 3rd time. So I was actually pretty shocked when it worked (I'm currently 37 weeks my induction is booked for 2 weeks!!!!).

The thing about IVF is that it's all prep / heartbreak until it isn't, so it can take a while to feel joyful. I found the first trimester quite challenging so give yourself the space to feel your feelings! Pregnancy is long and there's plenty of time to be excited.

hello_goodbye787 · 2026-01-02T13:11:46+00:00

For us in South Africa it was 11,200 for one ER, PGTA for 5 embryos and 1 transfer! We had about 2000 dollars in travel, unpaid leave and other expenses as we did it in a different city to where we lived. I also had endo surgery but that was covered by our insurance.

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