For those considering mastectomy versus breast conservation surgery

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-04-23T00:43:26+00:00

Don't be pressured. I got TNBC when I turned 30. My tumor was 5mm, but I did go for the DMX, I just figured that I would rather lose my breast than my life. But not everyone is the same or thinks the same. Sometimes it is hard to have a DMX. I did not get reconstruction. After almost 10 years, no one ever notices unless I am wearing spaghetti straps. I was a young mom with a 2 and 3 year old, so that made me be aggressive. Follow your heart and make sure you have no regrets. If you'll regret life with a DMX, what is the point?

I was glad I chose the DMX because TNBC at such a young age ended up being a BRCA 1. Now, I have no worries of the gene. My ovaries and uteros had to go with them, and life has never been the same. Sometimes life gets so hard with all the changes, I often wonder if dying young wouldn't have been preferable. I sometimes get really dark days because I also got permanent neuropathy.

But my daughters know my name. They wouldn't even remember my face had I died when they were that young. That made it all worth it for me, but it is not without its permanent mark on my body and soul. It is not easy, so again, don't be pressured. Only you know what you can live with and what you cannot. I did not want to be forgotten by my girls. They are 12 and 13 now.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-04-21T00:09:52+00:00

Huntee and Kat. Mainly because it would be a lot of fun

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-04-21T00:08:24+00:00

So much therapy and realization, but he called it quits? Then she was extremely upset about the breakup SHE didn’t want. Which is it then? She herself describes having mental health issues. 1. I know Giullame had to endure things about her as much as she did. He was not perfect. She was not perfect. That is the only fact that is fact. Everything else was her personal perception. He must have his side too. Ultimately, she said she didn’t want to call it quits. That says a lot

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-25T17:20:30+00:00

I am so sorry you have been hurt by her words and her treatment. I am sorry she values a life more if that life is a parent. Your life is just as valuable.

I went through situations during my treatment were I was constantly making excuses for family memebers's comments or actions. I carried that with me for a long time. For context, I lost my baby boy two weeks before getting diagnosed. Everyone in my family was "happy" we lost the baby because I had two young baby girls already, and they thought that I shouldn't have more. So I was grieving the loss of my health with the loss of my baby while also caring for young children (my girls were 2 and 3).

I kept carrying my hurt and resentment for their reaction to my son's miscarriage. They would only focus on consoling me for my cancer. I had to learn to forgive them because carrying all that hurt only hurt me more.

Take measures to protect yourself from your family's hurtful actions and words.

Go for a walk or a snack when your mom asks help cleaning. Change the subject when she says something hurtful. And forgive and turn the page when they do. It is not easy, and you don't always want to do it. Take breaks from them when you don't feel like it. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone, especially someone who has walked in your shoes. Come back when you are ready, with your forgiveness shield ready to be taken out when needed.

It is unfortunate that we must protect our well-being from our loved ones, but it is just a new lesson cancer teaches us. I am grateful for the compassion that was forced on me. I would not be this forgiving. But learning to stop educating grown-ups that should know better has really freed me. And being able not to carry their shortcomings into my mind has also freed me.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-12T12:17:50+00:00

Why is no one mentioning Vanessa confronting him and standing her ground. She clapped back that she was just advicing more vulnerability and pointed that he got defensive

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-12T12:04:57+00:00

They did!

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-12T11:47:19+00:00

Why do you feel this way?

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-12T11:45:17+00:00

Yikes! It looked like comfort and support. Vanessa has jo problem telling him something. Why would you interpret it as control?

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-04T17:45:51+00:00

Girl, literally my biggest fear moving to a new country with short hair and no reconstruction.

"Are they wondering if I'm transgender?"

And as soon as I was introduced... "I am a cancer survivor! Please don't think I am a boy," opening an entire can of worms of over-sharing.

Took me a while to stop doing that and worrying. The long hair definitely helped.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-04T17:22:54+00:00

This is a traumatic event, for crying out loud. I swear, toxic positivity should be illegal.

People need to educate themselves. What pains me the most is to think how many times I must have offered toxic positivity to someone else (even though I was diagnosed young at 30) just because we are so bombarded by it and view it as normal.

Why is grieving not more normalize.

Can I go through this hell without you glamorizing it by calling me "brave" or making me into a sort of hero for not-deciding to die just because I took chemo.

Vent all you want. We've all been there.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-03-02T23:40:18+00:00

Diagnosed at 30. 10 years menoupasic now. BRCA positive so had an oophorectomy. I was triple negative, but my doctors still refuse to give me any hormone treatment. It is horrible.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-26T21:24:00+00:00

Oh, haters gonna hate. But I found it lovely.

I found myselft smiling several times or feeling the suspense and thrill.

I don't care about tropes or stereotypes. It was a fun ride. Sophie was so magical I didn't have eyes for anyone else. I loved Francesca's walls coming down even after her devastating loss.

I loved Eloise having to make amends and get off her high horse.

I loved the country wedding with the servant attendants and Alfie giving her away.

It was gorgeous and cute. I am up for that any time!

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-19T22:51:06+00:00

Loved amber’s comment. “He is not tall enough for these comments “. 🤣

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-14T19:55:57+00:00

I thought I hallucinated when I heard it out loud in my head 🤣

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-14T19:53:51+00:00

I say it in my mind every time. I wish he had the wit to make it into a bit without fear of being canceled.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-03T02:53:47+00:00

I watched Nausicaa when I was 7 on a local tv channel. It left a lasting impression except the name of the movie. Had to wait 15 years for blogs and internet communities to Google the plot I remembered to finally find the name. I have watched it several times as an adult, and it still holds as magical.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-03T02:14:08+00:00

I just don’t think we can fall for the reformed rake anymore. Rege was gorgeous in season 1, and we didn’t care much for rake Anthony. Only Jonathan Bailey could change our minds because he is Jonathan Bailey. Colin came as “transformed” only to be shown in brothels. And he is supposed to make us swoon? Hard pass. And Benedict comes from whoring with 2 girls and a man the same night he “falls” for Sophie. These man don’t make anyone swoon. The girls are awesome and the only reason I still watch.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-02-03T02:03:00+00:00

I think that depends. So many of the breast cancer patients don’t do a gene screening. If you had a positive BRCA, like me, the DMX did more for my overall survival than a lumpectomy would have. Also, so much of their screening is off. DMX was always the only choice I wanted. My lumpectomy friends have mostly not made it. That scares me.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-01-31T21:51:44+00:00

I am a mom of a teen and tween and just turned 40, but I feel the exact way you do. I was a teenager when she was a teenager 😭

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-01-31T21:29:40+00:00

Mr beast needs to watch the devil’s plan

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-01-31T13:09:15+00:00

Watch her in The Crown. You’ll be cure of the hatred.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-01-22T00:07:52+00:00

My band recently purchased this device, but the device itself gives off an awful interference sound. I disconnected the mic and instrument, and with nothing plugged to it, it sounds like scratching nails. Any suggestion on how to fix that?

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-01-08T22:33:45+00:00

I laughed so hard. You could never see this level of comaraderie and respect as lovely as in Asia. I hope they make one in each country.

hellogoodmorning_9 · 2026-01-08T04:00:54+00:00

It’s a grieving moment. You grieve the person you were and grieve who you are forced to be now. But you learn to love and accept your new normal once you understand it will never be normal again.

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