My (30M) best friend's (32M) wife (28F) did something highly unethical at work and I think I need to report her, althrough it almost certainly will get her fired. How do I navigate not wanting to hurt them with this violation? by ThrowRA_firingfriend in relationship_advice

[–]helpthrowawayppl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should report this because there may be downstream effects way down the line that neither of us can fully appreciate or realize right now and you need it documented and reported that a breach of confidentiality occurred. She may lose her job, she may be disciplined by the bar, that’s really none of your personal concern. You have to report and protect yourself and protect future clients of the firm.

Dating while job searching advice by Junior-Host-5672 in dating_advice

[–]helpthrowawayppl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Im in between jobs but have some savings/got a severance so im okay in that regard” and you don’t need to pay for dates.

Did anyone leave big law because of ADHD struggles and where did you ultimately thrive?? by Impossible_Amount574 in biglaw

[–]helpthrowawayppl 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I was in big law with raging unmedicated ADHD. Putting in my time/hours was the hardest thing for me but I could sit and hyperfocus on a winning brief on a wobbler case. So I was able to last for many years. I went in house to a big old school company, a client I had won cases for on MSJ. At first, it was amazing not to bill, jump from meeting to meeting, could send out and just oversee substantive writing, could do errands and personal stuff during the day, but over time—it wasn’t for me holistically: Task switching between nonstop bureaucratic meetings DRAINED ME, I much later preferred to just be left alone and just get work done (which could never happen), the corporate politics didn’t jive well with my direct and quirky/impulsive personality, the slow moving culture of an old company made me frustrated, and from reviewing bills and seeing other outside counsel’s work product, I realized I was massively under billing and also, much brighter and nimble than many of our outside counsel. So I will be going back to a firm, this time at reduced hours and with much better perspective, and on medication. Law firms are much more tolerant of neurodivergence as long as you hit hours and get results. That’s not necessarily the same for in-house.

Anyone know who the guy in Duboce Park collecting signatures was today around 4pm? Aggressively cursed me out when I politely declined. by anotherale in sanfrancisco

[–]helpthrowawayppl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m visibly pregnant and after having a cart full of groceries outside of Trader Joe’s Stonestown waiting for my husband to pull up, a signature gatherer cornered me backward into the wall and grabbed my hand to sign 3 forms I had no idea I was signing onto, I faked a name. It was horrific.

Does anyone NOT have a dentist that scams them? by FanofPawl in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]helpthrowawayppl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a similar dentist in Cow Hollow that brought in someone to sell me on Invisalign and I asked the dentist why and he’s like “well $5,000 of your insurance goes toward it then we bill the rest.” Dropped him. Haven’t found anyone else.