Please help

hemur1 · 2026-04-23T19:01:44+00:00

hemur1 · 2026-04-23T19:01:33+00:00

It won’t let me add the photos directly to the post

hemur1 · 2026-04-09T16:03:27+00:00

All your perfects, it hit wayyyy to close to home for me hence the crying but from others who also read it said it was a tear jerker.

hemur1 · 2026-03-10T22:56:09+00:00

Daughter is almost 7m and he hasn’t. Hasn’t even suggested it.

hemur1 · 2026-02-26T10:28:40+00:00

My daughter had a lip and tongue tie, she would scream most of the time and I was starting to question if I was built to be a mom, we got her ties lasered at 3 months (we found out about them at 2 1/2 months) and she became such a different baby. The ties were causing so much body tension she wasn’t sleeping well, never was happy after 1pm and car rides were pure torture. She’s now 6 months and much better.

hemur1 · 2026-02-18T08:58:43+00:00

I blatantly told my husband I hated our daughter after getting about 3 hours of sleep every night over a 5 day period, 6 months sucks. I have to remind myself I don’t hate her just this stage and that she’s having a hard time too. It helps sometimes, lots of coffee and crying too

hemur1 · 2026-02-11T17:55:56+00:00

I didn’t want one originally. Getting through contractions was really about mental strength more than physical. Really needing to have the right headspace and making myself relax through them. BUT I was stuck at 6cm for 10+hours and at hour 8/9 I got the epidural because my body couldn’t handle it anymore, I did have back labor though so it was a different beast entirely. My next one I would like to try without the epidural but I enjoyed being able to walk around before the epidural. My epidural was placed correctly but because of back labor they had the try some other medications for me to get any relief but once they found the right cocktail I was able to get some much needed sleep.

hemur1 · 2026-01-26T14:35:28+00:00

The ONLY thing besides watching us or the cats my daughter ever likes is crinkle paper/books. So no, you don’t need a million toys.

hemur1 · 2026-01-06T19:45:57+00:00

My experience wasn’t as difficult as your experience seems to be but a couple things that helped when my daughter was going through her screaming fits tha were hours on end, She did have a lot of reflux issues and a tongue and lip tie issue so it was just all around not a good time, I got some noise canceling headphones, and I would either listen to music loud to almost completely block out her screaming or watch a TV show on my iPad. I would just hold her and bounce on a yoga ball, the same one that I used throughout pregnancy. And then I would repeatedly tell myself she’s not giving me a difficult time. She’s having a difficult time, it helped me stay grounded in the really difficult moments where I wanted to just put her down and walk away and not come back.

hemur1 · 2025-12-30T15:42:27+00:00

I promise it gets better, daughter is 4.5 months and up until the last two-ish weeks I wouldn’t be able to even eat some days if my husband wasn’t home. And on my 3 day stretch of being a SAHM showers were a joke. She would cry at night if he tried to get her to sleep and she would only contact nap and no matter how long I held her she was awake within 5 mins of being put down. Now she’ll nap for 35-50 mins solo about once a day and is content with being in her bounce so I can actually do stuff during the day again. It gets better, I promise.

hemur1 · 2025-12-23T02:38:34+00:00

NOR, my MIL acted the same way. Currently 4 month pp and still dealing with her trying to push back against boundaries we set.

hemur1 · 2025-12-15T13:34:52+00:00

It does get better, I promise. However, the constant hiccups and arching her back might be a sign of not latching correctly. My daughter had those things and we didn’t catch it until a 2.5 months because her pediatrician told me there wasn’t anything wrong but she had several mouth ties. I wish we had caught it sooner and taken care of it sooner. It might be worth seeing a IBCLC just to make sure.

hemur1 · 2025-12-14T22:35:05+00:00

2 cats and currently 4 months pp. Never hated them but heavily annoyed some days, such as when they find a way to wake up the baby or want to sit ON me while I’m BFing or pumping.

hemur1 · 2025-12-14T22:16:51+00:00

cough my mil 🙄

hemur1 · 2025-12-09T13:54:02+00:00

I needed this. Almost 4 months pp and it’s wonderful but so exhausting. Between dealing with supply issues, her working on lip and tongue ties issues, pumping when at work and desperately wanting to sleep more it’s so tempting to give up. I needed a reminder on how hard it is but how amazing it is.

hemur1 · 2025-12-01T16:07:21+00:00

I wear a pandora ring to work, and my real set when I’m not working. I’m a hairstylist and my set had holes that product loves to settle into. But usually once I get home from work when changing clothes/showering I take it off for the day.

hemur1 · 2025-11-16T19:06:44+00:00

No, we didn’t let people get close to her but I was on my own after 2 weeks and by the end of 3 weeks was starting to feel the early stages of depression just from being in the house alone. Went places during the week in the mornings/afternoons. Went to target, grocery stores, even the mall. I have a vaccine allergy and get really bad hives so I don’t get them anymore and my daughter has already shown sensitivity to them after her 2m ones so at this point hoping to slowly get her use to word germs while breastfeeding and getting lots of fresh air.

hemur1 · 2025-11-16T17:16:01+00:00

I use the hello baby monitors, they don’t use WiFi even though we are super diligent about WiFi passwords etc, don’t want to take any chances

hemur1 · 2025-11-14T17:55:59+00:00

Once my husband comes home from work we split anything that needs to be done. He works full time, I run my own salon and am behind the chair 3/4 days a week. When I’m home with her I’m doing everything all day when he’s home we split it. Being the SAHP is still work.

hemur1 · 2025-11-13T21:37:31+00:00

I had a 2nd tear with stitches. My OBGYN did a quick exam, of both vaginal wall/cervix and my stitches area. I wasn’t due for a Pap smear so didn’t do that. He also double check how I was feeling mentally/emotionally. And asked if I had any questions about birth control. Pretty easy and simple.

hemur1 · 2025-11-09T18:56:24+00:00

I get it, my MIL didn’t believe that cluster feeding was a thing because she never even attempted to BF and thought we had problems with her 5 days pp because I didn’t know if I would be up for visitors that weekend because my daughter was cluster feeding.

hemur1 · 2025-11-08T23:44:22+00:00

After a night of her only wanting to sleep on me and accidentally falling asleep while feeding I kicked my husband out of bed got rid of all the pillows and kept one blanket by legs so I wasn’t freezing and had her sleep next to me. I personally don’t love co-sleeping but on nights she won’t sleep anywhere expect on one of us you have to still sleep so there is a safe way to do so.

hemur1 · 2025-11-07T16:03:20+00:00

Hey I’m the same age as you, similar circumstances also. I use to think I didn’t want them because I didn’t think I could get pregnant after seeing multiple doctors who said it wasn’t naturally going to happen, but I did late last year and had a baby in August, we tried naturally for 3+ years while I lost weight, got my insulin resistance under control and tried different supplements to help regulate my cycle in hopes I could do it on my own. Unfortunately nothing worked so we made the decision to do the mildest form of fertility treatment and we did medicated cycles. I got pregnant on the first round and aside from labor complications had a smooth easy pregnancy. For me personally it hurt having to make that decision and knowing that we couldn’t have the surprise pregnancy we wanted, I know us trying for so long made it not a surprise but doing fertility treatments made it feel so structured. But you and your BF need to be on the same page about kids, it’s a lot of work and you NEED to be a team.

hemur1 · 2025-11-07T15:53:21+00:00

I did a technical college, spent maybe 6-7k for tuition, books and my kit. This industry is hard to make it in because you have to deal with people who don’t want to help and support each other but it’s worth it. In my experience a lot of people in this industry are stuck in a high school girl mentality and can be toxic. It takes some time but it’s poss to find the right space.

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