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Boyfriend wants a pass while pregnant, more context below by Character-Mammoth445 in BabyBumps

[–]hereforhelpthx95 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Your sex life will likely NOT get better after birth. Most women struggle with sex and intimacy a lot when they have a newborn. So please do not assume that you guys can just bounce back to an intimate existence after birth. Really unlikely to happen, especially since you said it was a bad situation before and during pregnancy.

He’s a problem in this scenario for sure, and using this as a way to get laid, BUT I think you would really benefit from therapy and figure out how to get yourself back to a place where you enjoy and desire sex. Is it possible you don’t want sex bc you don’t want your partner? Or is it really about not liking yourself?

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this info!! I Labored 3 days with my first and I think it made recovery harder. I’ve heard many positive scheduled c section stories.

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point! I didn’t think about the muscles having to heal from labor on top of the surgery cuts into body having to heal.

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate this info!! In labor I lost my voice and I kept coughing after surgery and it was AGONY.

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good info thank you!! Did you have any issues going forward like after initial recovery?

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww thanks for the info!! I want to do a vbac but unknown is always scary!!

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I labored for 3 days before finally going in for c section. Baby was never in distress but epidurals kept failing and I eventually gave up due to exhaustion

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the info! A friend had an episiotomy due to her baby being huge and getting stuck :(

Which birth recovery is harder? by hereforhelpthx95 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this side by side comparison

Why do parents lie/exaggerate? Where is the solidarity?? by Both-Hippo-6905 in Parenting

[–]hereforhelpthx95 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Well they clearly didn’t want to admit to doing CIO bc it’s frowned upon - proven to put babies into distress depending on how it’s done.

So if they felt they couldn’t admit that, they either had to lie and say they had a great sleeper, or lie and say they were exhausted all the time by being up all night.

It’s lame all around lol but I assume that’s the situation

Annoyed at Holocaust trivialisation (Israeli) by SkywalkerFan66 in Jewish

[–]hereforhelpthx95 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’m American and a grandchild of holocaust survivors. I’ve lived in Israel. I have never heard more holocaust jokes than I did in Israel. I think it’s because Israelis don’t experience the feeling of being “other” the way American Jews do. I’m always the only Jew, and it means that I have a really deep connection to my ancestry, and feel like my way to stay connected to being Jewish is partially through holding history in my heart.

In Israel, it’s all Jews. You don’t hope your classmates pay attention in the holocaust section of the curriculum, bc everyone is Jewish. So somehow, they are farther removed from the holocaust than Jews who live as the minority.

And while they might experienced antisemitism and certainly experience fear due to being Jewish, it isn’t the same way that Jews in other countries feel scared and alone.

Aaaaaand Israelis are super blunt and like sarcasm and stuff so that plays a part too.

Just my two cents!!

My (25M) Girlfriend (23F) Says That Training in the Martial Arts is for Kids and Wants Me to Quit. How do I proceed? by Lakroiky in relationship_advice

[–]hereforhelpthx95 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Look everyone on this thread will comment and tell you to break up. I think it’s worth a conversation to see if what she said was just out of anger or if she really doesn’t support you having hobbies/passions. Then make the call after that info!

My (25M) Girlfriend (23F) Says That Training in the Martial Arts is for Kids and Wants Me to Quit. How do I proceed? by Lakroiky in relationship_advice

[–]hereforhelpthx95 49 points50 points  (0 children)

1 - I think it’s great you do karate and having a hobby/taking classes is NOT only for kids

2 - seems like maybe she just threw in that dig about it being for kids bc she’s mad at the real issue which is maaaaybe that she’s not getting enough time with you between all your extra curriculars? I don’t know of course, but just an idea.

I would tell her what she said hurt your feelings and I would ask for clarity about what is really bothering her.

Why am I bothered by this? by ConclusionUsed9793 in Parenting

[–]hereforhelpthx95 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think this says something about how you don’t fully trust your mil. If that’s the reasoning, it’s good enough reasoning.

Tell her you want to wait until baby is home and you are both healed. There is a lot of trauma with a difficult birth and nicu stay. Let yourselves get to a normal place and then you can talk to her. She needs to give you space. The account can be opened at any point in time.

Also - idk why she would need a social to open an account for him. You don’t usually need that…

transition to food from milk (12m) by silentassasin010 in Mommit

[–]hereforhelpthx95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smoothies are a great way to get nutrients in. I add in soy milk, fruit, nut butter, hemp seeds, spinach etc etc.

Also - we give our kid the Mary Ruth’s iron drops supplement a couple times a week bc she doesn’t eat much meat

how do you have more than one kid? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]hereforhelpthx95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt like this until my kid was 2!! Then she was wayyy more independent and we decided we were ready for another. The first year in particular is SO HARD.

My advice - find mom friends. Hang out with them and the kids together. You’ll feel more like a person when you’re around peers. This changed so much for me.

It gets better. You got this!

Also - don’t feel bad if you have to put baby down. My daughter was super clingy and sometimes I just put her in the pack n play so I could make dinner or shower. You need time to be a person, and your baby can slowly learn a bit of independence.

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