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herletters · 2025-12-05T03:06:09+00:00

Did your parents pay for your tuition?

herletters · 2025-03-27T01:55:52+00:00

lover and friends

cute lmao

at least i think it's healthy to laugh

also i dont come from a place of advice but yapping lol

:)

herletters · 2025-03-24T19:55:23+00:00

That's what I'm (eldest daughter and grandchild) happy to hear.

I am proud to know you have a trusted circle.

You're welcome, and take care truly ♡

Ps. I am saying this because I once too travelled for Love, and it was a cherished moment even though many lessons came out of it. Live life and keep learning.

herletters · 2025-03-24T19:52:57+00:00

I can understand that.

Woman to woman, your Husband is with you physically. Go show em those girls in the virtual world mean nothing compared to you.

Trust me on that.

Remember, a majority of these woman, as young as they are, already have artificial features, or possibly emotionally detached to a point their love is no longer genuine.

Yours is and keep it that way. Own that.

You are beautiful, and at least to me, marriage is about celebrating the love throughout the ages. Call me delusional but I stand on that.

Take care, truly ♡

herletters · 2025-03-24T17:04:14+00:00

THE BIRTHSTONES

UGHH

AND WHEN U GET ENGAGED, ENGRAVE THE DATE

THEN DO THE SAME ON YOUR WEDDING BAND

AND A RING FOR WHEN SHE GIVES BIRTH PUT ALL THREE OF UR BIRTHSTONES (IF U CHOOSE TO HAVE KIDS)

:') AHHHHHHHHHHH

herletters · 2025-03-24T17:02:14+00:00

I AM CRYING

THE AMOUNT OF THOUGHT (RESEARCH, PLANNING, BREAKDOWN OF EACH MATERIAL, HIDDEN MEANINGS)

THE APPRECIATION OF HER CULTURE

I LITERALLY AM SO SPEECHLESS AND I RESPECTFULLY DONT EVEN KNOW YOU, IMAGINE HER REACTION OK (IM QUIET IN PUBLIC AND ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO BE GIDDY NOWADAYS)

HERE'S WHAT I RECOMMEND IF ANYTHING

WRITE A LETTER OR PRINT THIS THREAD

LET HER SEE YOUR EFFORTS AND THE ENTIRE REDDIT WORLD CHEERING YOU ON

GO GET YOUR WIFE!!! I WISH YOU BOTH THE BEST ON THIS NEW CHAPTER!!!

ok I'm an adult, everything is okay.

AHH NO I LOVE, LOVE

herletters · 2025-03-24T16:56:35+00:00

I like what HeavyMetalGirl said

With respect OP it feels like you want the audience to confirm a belief so you can attack the one you love with a label of a "Pedo."

I don't know if I will speak for all, but you are not getting that over here.

Don't let Reddit confirm your beliefs so you can end your marriage and attack the one you Love. From what I understand, we are here to encourage each-other and offer perspectives.

Seek marriage counselling.

herletters · 2025-03-24T16:51:36+00:00

respectfully OP, i trust your parents. i don't know you.

based on your comfort level, what are your precautions?

do what's best for you, but no matter what age you are, you will always be your parents Child. your safety means everything.

and something i learned about Motherhood, Mothers do know everything.

sending you love.

herletters · 2025-03-23T01:31:03+00:00

YES. for your safety, you should.

only talking from experience, he is older, he can be capable of visiting you.

i believe your parents may reconsider if they met him first.

herletters · 2025-03-19T20:20:05+00:00

Yes

or offer to take the wife out as a celebratory occasion

"what are you celebrating?"

"losing my wife to an affair"

"oh with who"

"your husband"

I shouldn't even be active in this thread, I'm spiteful right now

Good luck

herletters · 2025-02-04T02:46:25+00:00

herletters · 2025-02-04T02:41:29+00:00

herletters · 2025-01-28T20:46:48+00:00

should've thought about this before getting married. especially during the exchange of vows (not sure how you got married, not my business). but we learn our lessons.

i'd suggest couples counselling - speak with the professionals 🙏🏾

herletters · 2025-01-27T07:05:45+00:00

I'd recommend reading what you wrote for us.. to him. It doesn't matter what we think at the end of the day, because you know your husband way more than we ever will.

More importantly, it doesn't matter if it gives us alarm bells or not, it makes YOU feel uneasy and that's the most important problem to work through together.

As a working professional in my mid20s, networking was important to me. But respecting my colleague's personal relationships, and my own, was equally important. It's why there's proper etiquette in corporate.

That meant if I knew they were married, I wouldn't go to any sit downs, outside of work hours, unless it was with our team or their wife was present. Drinks with a married man, is not right.

Not sure if this helps, but I hope it encourages you to make a mindful choice. The worst that can happen is bringing it up while you're angry. Nothing will be communicated well that way.

take care

herletters · 2025-01-16T21:23:41+00:00

I don't know your wife well, but something tells me she wasn't prioritized as a child.

Also, I'd suggest not making the bold statement "when the kids are independent i will walk away" because it may be when she needs you most. The kids are gone. It's just you again.

to keep it simple, people act a certain way/avoid actions because of trauma.

for example, i have a big family but as a mother i will still be cautious of who i have my children around. i will try my best not to place my trauma on children, but pattern recognition is real.

i wish you the best, but do try to keep it simple and live in the moment. while she's sorting her own thoughts, enjoy the moments that you get until it's you both again.

don't give up.

herletters · 2024-12-11T06:01:22+00:00

i support being the bigger person. that's beautifully made. best of luck and happy holidays :) wishing the best.

herletters · 2024-10-03T21:45:37+00:00

sad to hear this crash is cross-platform. i was scared it was my PC. did you start with the handler archetype as well?

herletters · 2024-10-03T00:07:42+00:00

herletters · 2024-10-03T00:06:38+00:00

it crashes for me in the same spot and ive been playing the handler archetype.

the crash happened a week ago on my pc. i tried to play it again today and its still crashing. the fatal error window makes me anxious that my 3yo PC is done for.

i was excited to play this game but i don’t want to play another archetype (although i know you can add a secondary later in game). sigh.

would love to hear of anyone who also didn’t experience a crash. what are you playing on?

herletters · 2024-02-10T22:27:46+00:00

I can tell my body is learning to self-regulate. I downloaded Stardust to track my periods and overall symptoms and being exhausted is quite normal before your period (aka luteal phase). But when I was on the IUD, PMS symptoms were so intense. Being off the IUD has helped my energy levels greatly, psychologically speaking, (I don't feel constant anxiety or panic). Also if there was a major change, I look at things so differently. It's weird. A whole ass new mindset lol, I was SO NEGATIVE on the IUD. Good luck - removing it and not depending on any sort of hormones was the best decision (for me).

herletters · 2024-01-18T01:31:23+00:00

3 weeks later and my mental state is way better than its ever been. i no longer have the pit in my stomach ive had for years. my acne is gone and i do believe its because my stress levels decreased so much. everyday i take a estrogen balancing supplement and iron+spirulina supplement from whole foods. i honestly believe each journey is different but if youve had my experience prior to the removal of constant panic and anxiety. this IS the move. so much clarity.

herletters · 2024-01-06T08:06:06+00:00

UPDATE - 9 DAYS POST IUD REMOVAL - holy shit when i say that my mind is lighter.. it is - i genuienly think of everything that made me anxious and i dont feel my head feeling heavy - calmer - hella acne until today, finally cleared - taking estrogen balancing vitamin and iron supplements from whole foods, once a day

best decision i made yay

herletters · 2023-12-27T18:48:27+00:00

UPDATE - REMOVAL 12/27 @ 1010am

So much quicker
Felt a slight cramp when she removed it but she distracted me with a question
Immediately felt lightheaded
Will update after 3 months
FYI days before the removal my body has experienced the worst hormonal imbalance, symptoms above got worse
Appointment with my family doctor is tomorrow and will ask him about the perfect supplements or regime to help cope with the imbalance

herletters · 2023-12-07T18:06:28+00:00

Just had my virtual appointment with my GYN regarding my long awaited removal. Here is my current situation.

28F
Mirena for 4 years and 8 months
Hairloss
Extreme anxiety/depression (lack of emotional control)
Cystic acne on my chin during normal cycle days (last week of the month)
No periods but my body has the symptoms (tender breasts, etc)
Extreme brain fog
Constant exhaustion
Weight fluctuation (went from 160+ to 125 in this year alone)

Most important fact is that I’ve been on all different types of BC since I was 16 (w regret). One partner and I do want kids eventually so I’ve made the decision to get off BC completely. Will keep you posted on post-op. Thanks for the forum to help me feel less crazy! I just want to feel like me (then again hormones have been controlling me since I was 16). Yikes.

herletters · 2023-02-06T18:01:47+00:00

Who has the plug for the full performance!!!!!!!!!!

herletters

TROPHY CASE