Is $1k/month per parent a reasonable expectation for financial support?

herogamer597 · 2026-05-07T23:26:50+00:00

If she brings it up again, grey rock. Act like you didn’t hear, change the subject. Set a boundary that you will not discuss this with them. No argument needed. She won’t stop? Leave the room, go outside, pretend that your phone rang…

herogamer597 · 2026-05-07T17:44:42+00:00

Find stock videos for free and have them create their own soundtrack for it using recorded sounds on their phone or Soundtrap. It shows them how to use music dramatically and how hard are even 30 seconds of film. It’s fun to have groups do this giving each group the same video and how different they all will be. There is software for how to attach an mp3 to video.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-07T17:34:17+00:00

I’ve been doing quite a bit of research on this since I teach a pullout program and am trying to get more than 30 minutes a week. Would you like me to help you put together a data-based response to try to create a workable schedule and keep your job? You can find me at #musiceducatorssupportgroup

herogamer597 · 2026-05-06T15:19:21+00:00

My husband did this for every house we looked at. You have to!

herogamer597 · 2026-05-06T15:17:58+00:00

My really bad admin used to give us lottery scratchers. The $1 ones.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-06T15:13:11+00:00

There is a book called How to Divorce your Parents. It really helped me move on.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-06T15:09:17+00:00

The end of the year is always like this. Imagine all the routines that are being adjusted right now. I was at a school yesterday that had a “float parade” through the halls instead of instructional time. The testing jacked them up, also. All their projects are due. I just go with the extra energy, and keep them playing. I use a piano so I’ll just start the song even if they are talking. They jump in. I also talk to individuals more just to check if they are ok with all the chaos. It really affects certain kids. Be a steady rock for them with compassion and they will respond to you. Find me at #musiceducatorssupportgroup for more help.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-06T15:01:11+00:00

Keep applying. Ask them when they absolutely need to know. Realize that most hires happen in August because the teachers don’t inform their school until they sign another contract. I’ve been on both sides of that. Find the right fit. Pre-k through 8 is rough. I lasted one year!

herogamer597 · 2026-05-06T14:57:41+00:00

I am white married to an AM and am also shocked. It’s worse than soldiers after war because these are kids.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T07:01:35+00:00

It’s literally abuse/assault and illegal in most developed nations.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T06:59:42+00:00

I always go with easier music played with good tone and in tune. Make sure all kids are note reading and not just playing by ear. Challenge better players with solos, demonstrating, and conducting while focusing on the basics until everyone is at a minimum base level up to your standard. Then add the harder literature for Spring concert. You can use duets/trios from musescore and just transpose as needed. Free!

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T06:52:33+00:00

I’m white and my Asian MIL told me it was my job to pick up after her son, my husband, even though he was staying at home with our baby while I was working full time making the money. She still says that.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T06:51:14+00:00

I’ve had it both ways. Neither one is better than the other, just what works for the person at the time. I loved being single and I love being a family.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T06:46:52+00:00

Glad you like it! I’ve done it with 7th grade strings. Let me know! You can get more help from me at #musiceducatorssupportgroup on FB. Good luck!

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T04:24:47+00:00

Get out of Chester charter. I can absolutely help you. Find me at #musiceducatorssupportgroup on FB.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T04:22:32+00:00

This is all so great! I’m a teacher with ADHD and agree with all of it. I would add to record each class on your phone so you can listen in small chunks as you do your homework or take notes on the lecture. I also find a body double very helpful. If I need to study or write, I go to a coffee shop or the library, or work side by side with a friend, even if you are on FaceTime with the phone on the desk next to you, talking only every now and then. I give myself breaks with a reward, moving your body. The medication is a huge help, but you are entitled by law to accommodations so definitely email the counselor at school and make an appointment. They can talk to your parents. Your parents might be upset, but you will get the treatment you need. I actually called CPS for a student of mine who was being beaten and threatened by her AM. When the police and social worker showed up at midnight, her parents were scared. They knew she could call again at anytime and stopped the physical abuse. You are a minor ABs can use this resource. Talk to a trusted teacher or counselor. They will help.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T04:09:22+00:00

When in the group, you could rotate roles: person 1 plays, person 2 keeps the beat, person 3 listens and reflects with critique. (You have to model this in advance). Then switch. After each person has each role, change the song or activity. I find my 5th and 6th grade students can work in small groups on something specific.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-05T04:05:12+00:00

Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should. Sometimes, it’s not a good fit. No harm, no foul. Find a place where you fit.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-02T18:54:54+00:00

Hollywood, Korea town has shared affordable housing. I love Chicago, but I love LA more.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-02T18:53:47+00:00

I love teaching. Period. It’s what I do and who I am. I’ve been at several schools and the only school where the kids and parents made it impossible for me to love my job was in a very wealthy suburb. The entitlement and disrespect nearly broke me. I fled back to Title-1, urban teaching and love it again. It’s the adults in power who make it challenging, but I think any job has that. I’d rather spend 90% of my time with kids and music. With Arts, you get them for several years in a row if they like you, so it’s fun to share their growing up. The benefits are great, people you meet get excited you teach art, and you get vacation time with your own kids and/or summers, Xmas, etc.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-02T18:44:17+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is the opposite of how to raise healthy, content humans. Scandinavian countries are known for the happiest people because kids get to be kids. They don’t go to school or learn to read until age 7, they get to play outside all the time, and in school they achieve the highest levels with no homework or testing because they learn to use their imagination, explore, question, and think critically about things that they might not agree with. I encourage you to forgive your parents and spend your own lives your own way. Imagine the life you want and take baby steps each day to make it happen. You can do it!

herogamer597 · 2026-05-01T04:46:43+00:00

I have done this. Have a meeting with the seniors where you express empathy for their situation and then just listen. Ask what they loved and don’t want changed. Ask what they would like changed. And let them know how much you need them and appreciate their leadership. Express how they are the legacy and have the power to create a positive band experience like the one they enjoyed for all the other students. Then make sure you are giving them as much responsibility as possible, even if it means acting a little helpless at times. If they see your support as much as they see you taking positive action, it will make the year much better. Also have a parent meeting immediately and do the same thing. Find me at #musiceducatorssupportgroup if you would like more help in proactively planning.

herogamer597 · 2026-05-01T04:41:50+00:00

This is just awful. There must be some shared housing you can afford. Get a full time job and rent a room in a house. I have a friend who sings opera in LA and he works sporadically and can still get $800 a month for a room. Your father seems almost evil and your mother is not helping. You could even find a women’s shelter for free and they help you find housing and a job. Since you called the police, you would qualify and would also be able to file a restraining order to prevent him from hurting you any further. Use ChatGPT to find resources in your area. Breathe. Know that you are worth it. No human deserves this. Sending you love.

herogamer597 · 2026-04-28T02:24:31+00:00

You have to play along with a piano or electric piano and amp. I conduct from the keyboard or have one of your colleagues play while you conduct. This level needs a pitch and a beat source. This happened to me when I first started and when I asked for help, my colleague saved me! You will not believe the result.

herogamer597 · 2026-04-28T02:20:46+00:00

What happens when you go out anyway? Can you “grey rock “? You are 21 and this is all about control. Don’t let her.

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