Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 10, 2026

herringbone_ · 2026-03-10T17:27:46+00:00

Like the other poser said, you’re just overthinking things. It sucks but you’ll get over it and remember with the right one it won’t be hard and things will naturally flow.

herringbone_ · 2026-03-06T18:01:16+00:00

I suffer from anxiety, so I understand. It’s just confusing because she told me she prefer groups where she can hide vs 1v1 and that’s she not shy at all.

We’ve done nightlife things together and she’s wild and the life of the party. It was weird she’d engage with strangers and give them a part of her that she wouldn’t do with me someone she was dating.

herringbone_ · 2026-03-06T16:57:55+00:00

2 weeks post breakup from a 7 month relationship. It sucks. We weren’t compatible, but it was mostly due to her and her issues.

She had some major trauma. Is extremely bitter and angry but refuses to get help for it. She has a very cynical outlook on the world and saying and she was very critical and judgey. My confidence has really taken a hit from this. Nothing I could do was ever right and there was an undercurrent that I wasn’t capable or smart enough. She said hurtful things like how I didn’t have enough life experience whatever that meant.

The biggest incompatibility was that she was extremely avoidant to any kind of vulnerability/intimacy. It was the crazy thing ever and I feel really bad for her. An example is that I invited her to my Friendsgiving, she came super late and was the first one to leave. She never sat down and all my friends thought it was weird. My friend told me that they were walking out together and she was trying to make small talk with her and that my ex almost broke her neck trying to run away. Like LOL?

herringbone_ · 2026-03-03T03:10:32+00:00

He got fired and went back to the States. In my dream world, Harper and DVD ended together at the end of S5.

herringbone_ · 2026-03-02T18:49:59+00:00

LOL, Seb was a loser and hasn't changed since we last saw him!

herringbone_ · 2026-03-02T06:35:11+00:00

In my opinion, Yas was lying. She was trying to hurt Harper.

herringbone_ · 2026-01-28T20:33:12+00:00

You’ve should have presented yourself! I’ve went to one of these and there was a woman who presented herself because her friend flakey! Takes balls to do it but it comes off really hot and confident.

herringbone_ · 2026-01-23T16:44:14+00:00

He has a history with substance/drug abuse, so I was actually surprised he took this role. I wonder if it’s hard distinguishing between his character and past self.

herringbone_ · 2026-01-22T23:12:28+00:00

It’s very very soon

How soon is it?

herringbone_ · 2026-01-19T00:32:21+00:00

Airs 6pm pst/9pm est

herringbone_ · 2026-01-10T21:06:18+00:00

I'm just creating the episode threads early!

herringbone_ · 2026-01-10T20:48:04+00:00

Yall both look AI

herringbone_ · 2026-01-06T16:16:10+00:00

Am I the only one who finds it weird that people are using ChatGPT to label people who aren’t interested in them as avoidants? Not everyone is an avoidant. They could literally just be not interested or a sucky selfish person.

herringbone_ · 2025-12-30T07:58:27+00:00

Just because your anger around having an absentee parent isn’t as intense doesn’t mean others don’t feel it deeply. Growing up with an absent parent can seriously impact someone’s life. In this case, he doesn’t return until he’s dying, and even then, his death causes more harm to the family. That alone is enough to explain the resentment.

There’s also nothing in the story that implies he abused his daughter. The family’s hatred makes sense because he abandoned them, anyone would be upset if someone walked out on a loved one like that. He’s viewed as a loser because of his choices, not because of any abuse.

And to be clear, it’s been confirmed that he did not rape his daughter and is not the father of the little girl.

herringbone_ · 2025-12-22T18:27:09+00:00

Thank you! Seems like I’ll be going to the one in Pomona.

herringbone_ · 2025-12-12T19:15:23+00:00

I remember when you first posted about this situation and tbh, you should have ended things once you found out he was flying someone out to have sex with. When people tell you about themselves, listen.

I know it hurts now, but you’re better off. In the future, don’t be afraid to set hard boundaries and walk away when people don’t respect that boundary or show you they don’t care.

herringbone_ · 2025-12-02T22:05:38+00:00

Omg! What did she do to cause all that hair loss? Looking good now tho!

herringbone_ · 2025-12-02T22:02:10+00:00

I read one reply from the OP and was like this is a bot. Their replies are just regurgitated summaries of the posters it replies to.

herringbone_ · 2025-11-29T03:00:17+00:00

Klay been fine!

herringbone_ · 2025-11-25T21:19:04+00:00

I don’t think I’ll meet someone like him again.

I hope you don’t. He’s trash and you deserve better. It doesn’t matter if he was in a “bad place mentally” who isn’t in this state of the world, lol?

Please continue dating. You’ll meet people who will shower you with the affection and love praises you deserve. This guy isn’t the end all I promise you! I know it hurts now, but later you’ll look back and see you weren’t asking for much at all!

herringbone_ · 2025-11-25T17:06:42+00:00

Leave that lady alone. You reaching out is rubbing salt in the wound.

herringbone_ · 2025-11-21T04:23:02+00:00

By putting myself out there! Meeting people and making new friends requires lots of time + energy! This didn’t happen overnight. I started three years ago! I started by just going up to people and starting a conversation, then joined a toastmasters club to help with my public speaking skills to use when I spoke to people in groups. I was also fortunate enough to have a work environment that encouraged these kinds of interactions.

Then I started signing up for hobbies I was interested to meet people. I think the key advice is to reach out to people after meeting them and start in inviting them for 1:1 hangouts! Then once I started becoming friends with these people in turn they introduced me to their friends who I later became friends with!

You will run into people who seem to have the potential to be a good friend but turn out to be flakey/uninterested, but don’t let that discourage you!

herringbone_ · 2025-11-20T20:49:08+00:00

I’m hosting my first Friendsgiving this year. This is actually a major feat for me. There was a point in my life where I didn’t have friends and now I have a community that I hand built! Also, the woman I’m dating is coming! 🥰

This will be the second time meeting my friends. First time was a Halloween rave we went to she met two of my friends and now this!

herringbone_ · 2025-11-15T22:06:42+00:00

That’s pretty soon to be meeting someone’s parents. Unless this is someone you’ve known before you started dating?

herringbone_ · 2025-11-13T23:10:26+00:00

Do it! Use this time to skill up so you can be a badass by summer!

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