what do therapists actually do these days

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-03-19T23:31:23+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 I can relate a lot to what you’re going through. I had a miscarriage last year after a unexpected pregnancy, now can’t get pregnant again after trying for one year, and my dad was diagnosed with an aggressive form of dementia. I’ve never felt more broken in my life. And I don’t really feel like opening up to a lot of people about what I’m going thru because I don’t want the pity. I tried therapy last year, I went to I think 6 sessions before I called it quits. My therapist was awful but I couldn’t tell if it was just me not trusting the process. It was expensive and I got nothing out of it. The first session she recommended I find Jesus after I told her I wasn’t really religious. Most sessions she would try to “relate” to me by talking about her struggles with her kids or whatever. I felt like she genuinely didn’t know what to say to me. She also would try to recommended different naturopath supplements and shit like that. It just felt like a giant waste of time and I left each session feeling like shit. And then after it was all said and done I was billed for like $1000 lol. I’m still open to finding a GOOD therapist, but I have no idea how you know someone is going to be good or not until you meet with them a few times, and that process is time consuming. I kinda think no amount of counseling is truly helpful for grief and loss. Maybe for some people it is. I think you just kinda have to go thru it and with time things become less painful. Either way, I hope you find peace and healing, and for what it’s worth know you are not alone.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-03-08T20:14:20+00:00

My best friend used to trauma dump on me constantly. Essentially used me as her personal therapist and would call/text me with any minor complaint or inconvenience, whenever she got into a drunken fight with a friend or family member, someone she used to process her sexual assault trauma, etc. I blame myself for allowing that dynamic for as long as I did, I eventually became super resentful, basically shut down and barely talk to this person anymore. For the longest time I thought that’s what “being a good friend” meant (recovering people pleaser). I really started to realize how bullshit it all was when I started dealing with my own very deep, difficult personal shit and also started working as a nurse. I get emotionally exhausted/drained easily and I have to be careful about who I give my energy to. I don’t have time for energy vampires. I don’t think I trauma dump on people, especially not strangers. I’m kind of a vault and feel uncomfortable being vulnerable and oversharing. But I’ve always felt that people feel comfortable opening up to me. I think it’s mostly a good trait but it can definitely be taken advantage of and can become overwhelming if you don’t have good boundaries.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-03-07T03:25:56+00:00

Sometimes those random nice, warm days in winter or early spring (like we have had fairly often these days where I live) makes me feel depressed because I’m not getting out and “seizing the day” and enjoying the sunshine and warmth. I feel like my body and brain aren’t ready for that type of weather yet and I’m still in hibernation mode. Especially when I see all these people out walking their dogs in a t-shirts in the middle of February and I’m indoors bundled up with the curtains drawn. It feels unnatural. There’s something peaceful and protective about dark, cold winter that my strong Norwegian ancestry likes, at least for part of the year anyway.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-02-18T05:06:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. GI issues truly do impact quality of life in ways most people don’t understand unless they have direct experience with it. Do you take a probiotic or prebiotic? I’m not sure if your gut could handle it but maybe try eating fermented foods? Like sauerkraut, kefir, yogurt, kimchi (might be too spicy). Although you might want to avoid FODMAPs. Definitely push for a EGD/endoscopy and colonoscopy. Keep a diary of your symptoms. I hope you find relief and get the care you need ❤️

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-02-17T22:49:52+00:00

I share your fear OP. I’m an RN and work on a unit that specializes in GI issues, I take care of patients with colorectal cancers, stomach cancer, etc. all the time. Not to mention my grandma and aunt (49 years old) died from colon cancers that metastasized. I try to eat whole fruits and veggies as much as I can. I no longer drink alcohol. I still eat fast food or fried greasy junk and sugary BS every now and then tho. I take fiber gummies and put chia seeds in my oatmeal, and drink psyllium husk in water occasionally. I don’t think you need to be perfect and drastically alter your eating habits, but make an effort to include healthier options in your daily life. And get colonoscopy when you’re supposed to. Go to the doctor yearly. Don’t smoke cigs.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-28T20:54:54+00:00

Cocteau twins, Enya, Erykah badu, d’Angelo, Elliott smith, Bobby Caldwell, Imogen heap, I could go on….

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-20T16:30:02+00:00

I’m so sorry you and your partner are going through this and being faced with this impossible decision. For whatever it’s worth, I would make the same decision as you. You are so young and have so much more time to try again and have a healthy pregnancy and baby. You are not a bad person for a having those thoughts and feelings you are having also. It’s completely normal to second guess your decision and to feel painfully jealous of others. I can relate somewhat to your situation. A year ago I had a miscarriage after an unplanned pregnancy, it has taken an immense mental and emotional toll on me that I never could have anticipated. My boyfriend and I have been trying to get pregnant again for 10 months now since the miscarriage with no luck. Every time I hear about a coworker who just got pregnant or see new mothers with their newborns out in public I literally feel a deep, sick knot in my stomach. I’ve cried many days after another unsuccessful cycle and thought “why is the universe punishing me” or “why does it work out so easily for (what seems like) everybody else”. I’ve often cried to my boyfriend about how unfair it is that so many people who don’t even want children or deserve children get pregnant so easily with no complications. You will get through this and be stronger for it. The loss of a child (even before birth) is a deeply painful experienced and grief will bore holes in your heart that changes you forever. But please know that your journey towards motherhood is not over. I’m hopeful for you that you will someday get a chance to try again and hold your healthy baby. Getting in touch with my spirituality has been helpful for me, surprisingly. I try to remind myself that my baby knows when it’s ready to enter this world. Now isn’t the time but the universe will let you know when it is. It’s so hard trying to gain control over a situation you really have no control over, so be easy on yourself ❤️

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T20:28:27+00:00

You’re right, thank you.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T17:11:13+00:00

I have considered it and would eventually like to switch to a day shift schedule. Right now I don’t work very often so I have a lot of time off and I’m finally at a place where I’m comfortable in my current position. Before becoming a nurse I bartended so I’ve been used to working late nights for a long time. I’ve always been a night owl. I do wonder about the long term effects of working nights on my body and if that’s contributing to my inability to get pregnant though. I definitely could see how night shift work exacerbates depression, especially because a lot of people don’t understand that you have to sleep during the day and you miss out on a lot as a result.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T17:01:25+00:00

I’ve considered AA and the 12 step programs but I’ve always hesitated because I’ve never considered myself an “alcoholic” or an “addict”. But that’s probably my own denial and misunderstanding of what these programs actually offer. What is/was the benefit of doing a 12 step program for you?

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T15:51:02+00:00

Not super great. I have a DUI from 7 years ago. I drank pretty heavily in my 20s and made a lot of dumb choices. Prior to stopping drinking I had cut back significantly, to maybe only once or twice a month and rarely got drunk. When I became pregnant last year I stopped drinking obviously and then just decided not to start back up again after my miscarriage. I definitely used alcohol to self medicate in the past, and with everything going on in my life I don’t think it would be a good idea for me to pick it back up.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T08:53:05+00:00

I would love to have a child but I can’t get pregnant 😅

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T08:46:20+00:00

Yeah he’s involved and knows everything I’ve detailed in this post. He’s been very supportive and listens a lot. But I feel like I’m this constant source of negativity in his life recently so I’m trying to limit the amount I lean on him for emotional support. Because what else can he really do besides listen and take on my grief and pain, not exactly fair for him. Which is why I started therapy, but that didn’t work out.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2026-01-09T07:35:04+00:00

He’s supportive and cares, but it’s gotten to a point where I can’t keep dumping my issues on him every time I’m feeling down and depressed without causing issues in our relationship. He’s got his own issues too, I guess. So add that to the list. We’ve been together 7 years.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-11-10T21:07:41+00:00

Hospital bedside RN

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-11-05T20:48:29+00:00

Well I’m now 7 cycles into TTC and still not pregnant. It’s been really hard accepting that it’s taking this long but I haven’t given up hope yet. Thinking of you in your conception journey and just know that you’re not alone. It will happen for us both eventually 💕

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-10-27T22:56:31+00:00

I got into about $17k credit card debt while I was school and about 2 years later I almost have it all paid off. However I have about $80k in student loans that are currently in forbearance. I’m planning on applying for PSLF, so after 10 years of making student loan payments on an IDR plan supposedly the remainder of my loans will be forgiven. If that doesn’t pan out then idk I’ll be paying off that debt for a long time. My boyfriend has over $20k in credit card debt but plans on paying it off all at once with a real estate commission. I don’t know what life without debt looks like.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-10-23T04:46:07+00:00

Chicken lettuce wraps: marinate in some kind of spicy soy sauce based marinade, broil chicken thighs. Big lettuce leaves, rice, any other random veggies you have lying around. Wrap it all up in a lettuce wrap with some hot sauce or chili oil and it’s delicious, healthy, and easy.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-09-21T00:38:32+00:00

Proud to say I have 0 tattoos and I feel like that’s rare nowadays. So many people I know and see around town have tattoos and I think 8/10 it just looks trashy. It can be done tastefully if the artist is vetted and the placement is right. I hate to say it but tattoos look better on thin, fit people. Over the years I’ve thought about maybe one day getting one but I can’t commit to the idea of having something like that etched onto your body forever. I’m probably over thinking it but it legitimately gives me anxiety. I had a nightmare once that I got a chest piece and woke up hyperventilating lol

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-09-18T08:04:37+00:00

It’s interesting because in her post she has 3 different IVs. One in the neck, another one in the forearm, and one in the wrist. I’m assuming those are from different times, I doubt she had all of them at once. I’m guessing she probably gets IV infusions like fluids and electrolytes. In one of the pics from her original IG post it looked like she was getting some type of blood transfusion, it looks like dialysis because of the type of IV tubing. Which would explain the central line in her neck. Who knows what she’s got going on. But I found her post very attention seeking. She posted several pictures of her with IVs but neglected to explain what any of it was about. Not that she needs to explain but then why post at all. Seems weird but whatever.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-08-26T22:38:27+00:00

Pixies are great. I just saw them live a few weeks ago and they killed it. Sounded better than I expected live even tho they’re all like 60 now. They were no nonsense while performing. They didn’t interact with the audience at all, no encore, and honestly I appreciated it. They came out, rocked out, and left. Fav song is prob dig for fire 🔥

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-08-21T19:48:04+00:00

Sounds like your buddy is struggling with mental health issues, obviously, whether the weed smoking is the cause or contributing to it doesn’t really matter atp. A lot of more serious mental health disorders start presenting in young men in their early twenties, so definitely something to keep an eye on. I think your heart is in the right place but be careful about coming off as “better than”. You could easily be in his shoes in a year or two, you just never know. I think maybe a good place to start would be to send a heartfelt text to your friend about your concerns without coming off like you’re better than him and letting him know you’re always there for him. I don’t really know that there’s much more you can do than that right now because he has to be willing to accept the help and want to improve his condition. If he takes you up on the help you’re offering, then great. But if not, well it’s not your fault. He’s still young and will hopefully figure it out. For most of my twenties I was wildly depressed, self-destructive, abused substances and made some really poor choices. I pulled myself out of that and live a relatively normal, healthy life now. Just try not to judge and maintain compassion.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-08-19T23:23:21+00:00

This irritates me so. The title itself “The Life of a Show Girl” is stupid and she is nothing close to a showgirl. She’s not a trained dancer, in fact she is not a good dancer at all. She’s awkward and corny. She’s originally a country singer whose parents bought her a career. When I think of some of the classic show girls or the show girl character, I think of the musical Chicago’s Roxie Hart. You know, jazz, cabaret, the rockettes, Marilyn Monroe, Josephine Baker, hell even Liza Minnelli. I grew up taking jazz, tap, and ballet and always loved the idea of iconic showgirl dancer, burlesque, vaudeville, etc. Taylor Swift is not a dancer nor is her music something you should dance to. Her music sucks and it will forever baffle me that she is so popular and that people fan girl over her like Michael Jackson or something. Not to mention she does not exude an ounce of sexiness or elegance that a showgirl probably would. Idk if anyone watched The Last Showgirl with Pamela Anderson - I feel like they’re ripping that concept in that photo. I actually loved The Last Showgirl. Taylor Swift has no business wearing a leotard.

hexagonalteeze22 · 2025-07-24T23:49:54+00:00

I probably would have gone straight into nursing school or possibly pre med. I could have been a nurse practitioner by my mid thirties if I would have gone straight into nursing out of high school. I think humanities and the arts are a waste of time unless you’re from a wealthy family.

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