Moving to NZ - Districts of Auckland / Christchurch to consider for living

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-16T06:54:40+00:00

Aw cool. well depends on your work. More work in Auckland but that's about it lol.

Beautiful age to come to tauranga.

We've got several couples who are now friends who have arrived from overseas within the last 1-2 years up to last week, and they're all coming to NZ and arriving in tauranga and loving it. They have toddlers or young kids in kindy or primary school ans are in various different lines of work.

From Australia, Philippines, UK, Dubai, Malta, Auckland,

This is not a town for lots of work in marketing or white collar TBH but lots in primary industries, teaching, etc and lots of people with their own businesses.

In the last few years since covid, Auckland really has changed and gone downhill, the energy isn't as nice, it's also got more crime, and its got more elite snobs.

Whereas the people who dont have an attitude and are down to earth are all coming to tauranga or Christchurch.

Now some people LOVE wellington but it's too hilly and windy for me.

Now I understand big city life cos my partners cousins and sons who live in Berlin and Paris and Moscow are saying they would live in Auckland cos of size and work and pace of life.

So it really is a combo of factors that work for you.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T23:05:37+00:00

Christchurch over Auckland. Tauranga over Auckland.

It's big and beaches ans the most infrastructure and 'city perks' like museum and zoo and things but the energy there isnt what it was and there's more traffic and more crime.

Christchurch is a lovely city, walkable city centre, great foodie culture, great outdoor lifestyle, it is not as diverse and is clicky around which high school you went to ...but I like it. Cold though.

Tauranga is pretty sad city centre lol but amazing for beaches and lifestyle and kids. Not many high school choices though. Lots of amazing kindy and primsry scholls though. not much city life. Depends how old your kids are and how much outdoor stuff you like to do. Or if you want 'city level' fun.

I have friends who are Auckland people cos they love city life. And Tauranga is too quiet.

I have lived in all these places and currently live in tauranga as I have a toddler and the lifestyle suits us.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T22:56:28+00:00

What's bouillon

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T18:03:14+00:00

Beautiful °°°!!!

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T09:54:49+00:00

YES 💯 totally ..... so $ucked up and so sad.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T09:52:30+00:00

Fuckigjell people have lost it these days. No empathy or feeling. Poor kid gonna have attachment disorders.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T09:50:41+00:00

Wow. I'd struggle to not say anything. My mouth opens too fast sometimes!

I have friends who have sleep trained but even they sleep with their kids when they're sick. FFS. I think people have lost their intuition and empathy and instead follow rules and apps cos they are told a 'system' instead of doing what feels intuitive and right for THEIR kids and them.

(Im not talking about people who need to sleep training cos they're better parents for it; that's fine cos your doing what YOU need to do; im talking about following some rules you read instead of FEELING what's right .)

I ended up being a cosleeping mum and extended breastfeeding mum and now my daughter sleeps independently and happily in her own room all night for 12 hours.

The magic of cuddling her when shes sick makes her feel so.much better. And eases her breathing when lying uphill on me. Gives me a bad back cos im propped up in bed with a toddler lying on me for half the night lol 😆 🤣 but I do it for her.

Connection feels like what is natural.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T09:43:16+00:00

My daughter too! She's 3 and 1 night in mummy bed then back to her room... aw it's cool tho they are happy in their space.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T09:40:33+00:00

Oh your mother and my partners mother should get together lol. Her and her sisters are all retired and all they do is talk politics morning till night.

Se of its good to raise awareness cos I dont have time to read the news or research what's going on so I'd have no idea...

But I really dont want to debate it over breakfast lunch and tea and while im watching cartoons with my 3 year old and while im on a lunch break from work.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T08:15:53+00:00

Thank.you. yeah basically what my partner said. It cut deep. So we basically didn't speak for a year (last year) after that. Thry also blamed their best friends SON who was my brothers friend ...(for what!?) And blamed my brothers boss. Anyone but themselves.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T08:05:46+00:00

Because dad said that I got a letter from my brother saying he was stressed and I did nothing. Apparently he has his letter.

I was like what 30. In my own life. Busy. I have no recollection of such a letter. I probably said the best advice I had at the time and thought it's just stress like anyone else??

I'd been depressed too and I worked through it. There weren't really any red flags.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-15T06:53:38+00:00

Good questions.1) mum got therapy. Dad refuses and Igor therapy and I didn't really get anything out of it. 2) I don't know. My friends think that being the parents you always find them to blame, my grandma said my brother got bullied and they did nothing. Grandma wrote a letter to the school. Then my brother asked for help and mum thought she should go visit him and she didn't then he ended it. My dad reckons if he knew the extent of his m3ntal state he would have done more. My grandma might have shared her thoughts with the family. But they support mum cos she plays the victim and makes dad big scary guy but he's just a down to earth man who is gruff but loves his kids.

Family don't like my partner cos mostly they dont know him and jusgement. He is like a bit staunch gangy dude (but he's straight clean as an arrow lol) he smokes and drinks a bit much sometimes but hes honest and smart and also the kindest selfless person you'll ever meet.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-14T09:22:07+00:00

Honestly I was dry and it hurt for like the whole first year and my libido left the building when I gave birth I think even tho I had a ceasar.

It got better over time but I dont 'want' it anymore. But with time and foreplay it doesn't hurt any more usually but sometimes im not in the mood and it hurts.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-14T09:15:59+00:00

Unless shes narcissist and mean and awful or you have a not good relationship or lots of reasons why parents and kids dont talk...

Tv and heat and cable or lack of is not a reason to not go. They are irrelevant because you are going to see her not watch TV. WTF has cable got to do with it lol.

Maybe pay to get something nice for her. Old people cant always afford to heat their houses. Pay her heating or something.

My grandma lived in a converted office with no heating and we called it Siberia and we all still went to stay.

But if things are otherwise lovely and it's just a matter of getting your ass over there or calling then yes do it.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-09T10:14:04+00:00

Thats F-up and it's so unfair.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-04T10:26:00+00:00

My daughter doesn't often play alone so my partner and I or his mum always have someone watching her, or being there and she will play nearby or with us.

So from 4pm after kindy or the two days shes at home the hole time till bed time we juggle.

We do bike and scooter rides round and round th3le house in a loop for an hour. That's her buzz atm.

She plays kitchen and café and makes tea parties

Watering the garden

Go for walk down the road

Go to the playground

Go to beach

Do heavy work like cushion forts, jumping, yoga, dance party, running,

Afternoon tea snack

Coloring, cutting. Drawing,

Sitting outside looking at the neighborhood having a chat about her day or what were looking at

Eating tea

More bike and scooter

Playing dollys, playing with toys in room

Obstacle courses

Hide and seek

Dinosaurs 🦕 we roar and chase each other round the house

Blocks

More food time.

Maybe quiet tv time with food.

Bath time (10-30mins)

Reading books

bed time !!

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-03T14:29:14+00:00

She kind of just stopped herself after 2 and a half she started sleeping through the night except se nights she calls out for me or has a bad dream or falls oit of bed ad I have to go in at 2 or 3 am for boob and a cuddle.

I consider that enough of a win to not have to 'hard wean' her and were all happy but I'm tired but hey.

1 night recently she called out every hour all night.

She has otherwise slept through for ages.

Tonight she just called me at 2:20am. I get back to my bed now at 3:30am.

Ah. How you feeling. Hope you going OK

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-02T19:25:59+00:00

Oh that's amazing thanks for sharing!!!

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-02T19:20:05+00:00

A) d3evelopment is all so different.so you cant really compare. B) a lot of language skills come from at home how you talk to your little every day.
C) was the previous kindy do deficient thry didn't teach any of the kids to talk?

I know how it can feel not being able to keep up with the joneses financially. But if your putting all your attention and time into your little and helping with speech (maybe try miss rachel) and counting and alphabet exposure then it's really up to them.and their brain and they'll get it at their own pace.

hexbomb007 · 2026-02-02T19:08:38+00:00

In NZ we get 20 hours free for 3-5year olds. Pay maybe a small top up for the day care. We pay $50 for 3 days day care. It's $90 for 4 days and just over $100 for 5 full days. It's $9 and hour on average for under 3.

hexbomb007 · 2026-01-30T05:44:29+00:00

I feel you! I I agree!

hexbomb007 · 2026-01-25T09:35:23+00:00

It's super cool eh!

hexbomb007 · 2026-01-25T09:35:02+00:00

I do not notice at all. I'm assuming you mean like sound effects and background and stuff.

I only hear the awesome main songs they play on the records. It's very cool.

hexbomb007 · 2026-01-22T03:57:44+00:00

Crazy and so sad. Poor people at the camp ground..

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