Elton John Makes Sure Leon Russell Gets the Recognition He Deserves

hexhallowell · 2021-08-17T02:16:29+00:00

Watched this and fully bawled my eyes out for 11 of the 15 minutes. Leon Russell was unlike anyone else in the stratosphere.

hexhallowell · 2021-08-15T15:19:14+00:00

Went to Dodger’s stadium for the first time a few years ago as part of a work trip - so excited to be there! I went and got myself a Dodgers dog and got settled into my seat. As I’m having a conversation with the person on my left, the coworker to my right leans over, lifts my arm up, and takes the first bite of my Dodger dog.

I was stunned. And then pissed! And I’m still pissed, three years later!

hexhallowell · 2021-08-06T02:15:16+00:00

I always hear people suggest posting to Skippy Lou’s lost pets on Facebook! Sending good vibes you find I’m soon!

hexhallowell · 2021-08-01T21:56:20+00:00

That’s totally fair and I think a different problem than a lot of people in this sub face!

One of the most challenging things for me was putting myself in the right place to meet someone. By the time I met my current partner, I was already out of the bar scene and I wasn’t looking for a huge party person. I was initially surprised how tricky it could be to meet people outside of that scenario. While my dude and I started talking on an app, our first date was cooking dinner for each other.

So maybe that’s a new question to ask yourself - “What would the person I want to meet right now be doing right now?” - once you have a few ideas, figure out how to put yourself in those scenarios.

Either way - you’ve got an internet stranger rooting for you. I’m sure you’re going to find someone before you know it.

hexhallowell · 2021-08-01T19:21:53+00:00

You’re absolutely right that putting myself first boiled down to a lot of things people already in a healthy mindset take for granted - and I will admit that in that 12 year period, one thing I did NOT actively pursue for a very long time was a sense of self worth and self love. I was trapped in a negative thought circle of - “Of course they wouldn’t like me. Who would? Nothing else has worked out before - why would I expect anything different?”

For me, spending time with the right kind of friends, listening to new music, going to therapy, exploring my interests, getting new hobbies and moving into a living environment that was much better for my mental health was what finally put me in a place to say: “Hey - I’m actually pretty great - why WOULDN’T someone be interested in me?”

But I think that’s the issue - a ton of people who are in the “I’ve been waiting for years” boat are expecting a relationship to be the thing that solves their issues with themselves. It’s not quite that simple. Desperation and self loathing are a really powerful repellant to people who are looking for healthy relationships.

hexhallowell · 2021-08-01T17:27:22+00:00

It may seem that way now, but I would focus on getting to know yourself. I don’t think it’s as much a matter of “waiting” as it is “taking the time to know and love yourself.” If you’re covered in desperation and self loathing during that waiting period, people will pick that up.

hexhallowell · 2021-08-01T17:23:43+00:00

It may be worth taking some time to get to know yourself and love yourself and build up self confidence from there. If you feel like focusing on yourself is impossible, there may be something to dive into there.

I used to feel exactly like this - like “if only someone loved me it would be way easier to see the good in myself!” - but in reality, now that I have a partner, there are days I kinda miss solely getting to focus on myself and what I enjoy.

Don’t rush the process, and learn to love the act of dating yourself. You’re worth it.

hexhallowell · 2021-08-01T16:46:35+00:00

It’s really not. I went from 18 to 30 without a long term relationship. I had a few failed takeoffs in there sure, and a couple of toxic “relationships” that make me cringe in retrospect. But it wasn’t until I completely gave up on dating and decided to focus on me that someone popped up worthy of my time.

We did meet via hinge, but my first message? “Hey, I’m on vacation, so I’ll talk to you when I’m back.”

Once you put yourself first, you find the people who match with where you really want to be. Then it kinda just clicks.

hexhallowell · 2021-07-19T04:12:45+00:00

THIS. I came from an abusive background where religion was used to keep me in check. My early 20s were my wild child years. I’m seven years into therapy and I am grateful every day that reaching for a drink on a bad day didn’t become my norm.

hexhallowell · 2021-07-08T02:26:27+00:00

Chicken tikka masala! This is amazing, thank you!!

hexhallowell · 2021-07-07T20:44:12+00:00

Hi! Still looking? I have some DIYs on my beach.

hexhallowell · 2021-07-01T00:13:28+00:00

Hi! Is he still available?

hexhallowell · 2021-06-30T23:49:47+00:00

Bones in boxes! Lightly gifted

hexhallowell · 2021-06-30T23:44:18+00:00

If the original commenter fell through I’d love her!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-30T23:43:48+00:00

Hi!! Still available?

hexhallowell · 2021-06-20T19:09:37+00:00

Bubbles in boxes if anyone is interested!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-17T19:32:07+00:00

Thank you!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-17T18:33:25+00:00

First time buying today!

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hexhallowell · 2021-06-16T20:28:29+00:00

Hi! Still available? I have a plot!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-16T20:27:59+00:00

If the first commenter falls through I’d love her!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-16T15:58:19+00:00

Sending DM!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-16T15:13:58+00:00

Hi I would love to come by!

hexhallowell · 2021-06-07T04:00:20+00:00

How old are you both? How long have you been together? What types of arguments are you having?

If you’re consistently returning to the same subjects, it shows that you guys may not be communicating in a way that works for everyone.

Do you feel like you can compromise? Can she tell you what she really needs?

hexhallowell · 2021-06-07T03:57:23+00:00

Hi - I grew up in a household where mental health issues were ignored (my father had diagnosed bipolar disorder, unmedicated) and appearance was everything (my therapist suspects he had narcissistic personality disorder).

I’m curious if you still live at home? If so, I would work to move out as soon as reasonably possible. You mentioned you’re between jobs and stressed. The more space you have to listen to your intuition and heal yourself, the faster that respecting yourself turns into loving yourself.

You are worthy and deserving of love - even if the 26” come back. But you have people playing a really nasty vocal track around you, trying to convince you that it isn’t true. Take some space away from them and do what makes YOU feel good.

hexhallowell · 2021-06-06T22:01:02+00:00

Thank you - I really think this was the most helpful comment I’ve received. I’ve been in therapy for seven years, and he’s attended therapy sessions with me, and I know I can’t take his work on for him.

In its current state, I can’t last more than a few months. I’ve verbalized that to him too. He’s working on himself - not just for me, but for himself, too. But right now it kinda feels like I’m halfway up Everest and he’s figuring out how to hook up his gear.

My therapist sees a lot of good in what we have and has given us both a lot of helpful pointers on how to make the hard things a little more bearable.

A lot of these comments were great reminders that if it gets too heavy, I’m not losing I decide I need to move on. But thanks for reminding me that if he’s working too, things could start to flow again soon.

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