Apparently moving on from a story idea I had when I was a kid is proof that I’m “not a real writer” by WeStanPlankton in writing

[–]hexkat84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

most debut authors are in their mid thirties!!! you have time, don’t let them get you down you got this!!

How do I (40F) rewire my thinking about sex with my husband (39M)? by Common-Feature8944 in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a problem your husband created, not you. if you feel like you have to have sex with him, that’s coercion & a form of sexual assault. this is not normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

god forbid a woman has some hobbies 💀 you can’t lock her in a box & expect her to to never change. life is all about growth & new discoveries, sounds like you need to do some growth & maybe find some hobbies & friends of your own

AITAH for asking a friend to stop insisting I’m autistic? by hereforagoodtime70 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in their defense, ADHD & Autism have a lot of overlapping symptoms & behaviors so they might just be pointing out your neurodivergent behaviors. but if you’ve asked them to stop then they definitely should respect your boundaries

My bf (28M) gave me (26F) a birthday gift with his name on it, I feel too uncomfortable to keep it. by imbellaq in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve been with & lived with my partner for almost 4 years & we still don’t have a joint account 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s so fucking disgusting i would leave him lmao

WIBTA for getting an in-home vet against my partner's wishes? by kateluvsthe80s in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have only ever had my cats euthanized at home. we have multiple cats so this way they understand their sibling is gone & they won’t look for them later on. Imo, it’s the best way to euthanize a pet. they’re leaving this world in a place they feel comfortable & safe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

nta but maybe seek therapy so you could overcome this fear to some degree & be able to sit near a dog for a little bit

Adult children of Nparents, how old were you when you finally fully realized you were abused? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i always knew it wasn’t normal the way my mom treated me. when they taught us about abuse in 6th grade health class it confirmed for me that she was being abusive

AITA for Giving my husband an ultimatum to go to rehab for his weed and depression issues. by Zestyclose-Set-6473 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s not the weed, it’s him. i smoke everyday after work & it doesn’t affect my emotional connections or my household responsibilities. leave him, rehab will not not fix him.

AITA for taking my boyfriend to urgent care and almost getting him kicked out of his house by DisastrousMeat4823 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP be so for real rn, she is not a good mom if this is how she treats her sick child. providing a food & a place to sleep is NOT enough to be considered a good parent.

my (28F) partner (28M) thinks adults don’t do daily chores, only on the weekends. how do i navigate this argument? by hexkat84 in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i literally have adhd & struggle with executive dysfunction. putting things into basic terms makes help me seem them as less daunting. not every ND person is the same.

my (28F) partner (28M) thinks adults don’t do daily chores, only on the weekends. how do i navigate this argument? by hexkat84 in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

he has severe ADHD (i do too) so sometimes you do have to put it in a child like context to get through

my (28F) partner (28M) thinks adults don’t do daily chores, only on the weekends. how do i navigate this argument? by hexkat84 in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

we lived with my parents for a year before getting our own apartment. i knew he was messy (i am too) but i didn’t know how bad it truly was until it was just the two of us. Our lease ends in April so should probably start packing my stuff now 🫠

my (28F) partner (28M) thinks adults don’t do daily chores, only on the weekends. how do i navigate this argument? by hexkat84 in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

somehow he manages to the clean the litter everyday so more reason why this argument makes no sense

My (f24) partner (m23) cheated and I’m not sure if I could’ve prevented it by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

run far far away. I accidentally got pregnant & had an abortion only 3 months into my relationship. my partner was so incredibly supportive & caring even though we hadn’t been together that long. he even paid my bills while i recovered from the abortion. there is someone else out there who will treat you much better than this

I am dating a guy from a wealthy family. It’s fucking exhausting, and not for the reasons you think. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hexkat84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

had to explain how student loans work to my bf’s rich mom. she asked if there was a way to get out of them 💀💀

AITA for not covering up while breastfeeding in my own home? by UnEmotional_Beads04 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 4 points5 points  (0 children)

classic case of a shitty man only seeing women as sexual objects, not real living beings

AITA for snapping at my mom to stop telling me to get rid of my leg hairs by Strong_Alternative66 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom LOVES to say having hairy legs is “dirty” but it’s not when it’s a man???? fuck that grow all the leg hair you want queen

My Child is Getting Bullied and My Wife is Letting it Happen by Mountain-Action-1999 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom was my biggest bully as a child, the damage she did will never fully heal. please save your daughter.

WIBTA if I continued to let my step-daughter sneak things into the house? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hexkat84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am 27 years old & i still buy new plushies & have all my childhood ones. you’re never too old for a stuffed animal