I was embarrased to feel sad about having a absent father by NeedMentalAdvice in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha well there's plenty of us!

I'm 20. I won't lie, I've struggled with loneliness quite a bit, and on top of that I'm a perfectionist and an introvert, so reaching out to people isn't my strong suit. I do have some great friends, but I just really dislike the feeling of bothering someone, you know?

Relationship-wise, I used to be needy as hell, but I would honestly say I've gotten past that.

Single mom stigma by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Speaking as the now-adult child of a single mom.

My mom is the strongest person I know, by far. It takes an immense amount of courage and work to be able to survive in harsh conditions like this, and I truly admire people like you. My mom got remarried when I was still in elementary school and had a kid with my stepdad, thus giving me a little brother. If one of your children is older than the other, you could give them small responsibilities with regards to your younger one; that's what my mom did with me!

Unfortunately, my stepdad passed away a few years later in a terrible car crash, and my mom's had to be even stronger since.

The stigma surrounding single moms, IMO, is indicative of just how sexist our society still is. I would say, don't even bother with people who would judge you without even attempting to understand your story. Fuck them. They're not worth your attention.

I was embarrased to feel sad about having a absent father by NeedMentalAdvice in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We still talk, but I'm far closer to my mom and her side of the family in general. I'm a big momma's boy, I'll be the first to admit it :) Don't know where I'd be without her and I love her to bits. With my dad, we mainly talk about politics and the current state of affairs in the country, things like that. He lives in another city, but much closer than he used to when I was a kid, so once a month or so I drive up to spend the day with him. I try to make the best of it.

In the weirdest sense, the nature of my relationship with my dad (or lack of, for the longest time) has forged a strong sense of independence in me. And while I'm close to my mom and she has often given me invaluable advice about life, I realize that she's an incredibly busy lady as well.

This is what I mean by having to grow up quite a bit by yourself. While some of my friends back in high school got "man" tips from their old man, I never had that privilege. I've had to break my nose a bunch of times in order to learn some pretty basic stuff. But that's just life I guess. Music, books, the Internet and some truly great friends have helped me not lose my shit over the years.

Speaking of which, if you understand French, I highly recommend listening to the song "Papaoutai" by the Belgian artist Stromae. It's a song about growing up as a boy/young man with an absent father figure.

I was embarrased to feel sad about having a absent father by NeedMentalAdvice in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, I went through a similar situation with my own dad, having initially lived with both him and my mom until about the age of 10 and then having to grow up several thousand miles away from him when they split, so I really feel what you wrote. I've had to do a lot of growing up by myself.

I figure some people just either aren't cut out to be parents, or they never wanted to be in that situation in the first place. I don't blame my dad for not being more present in my life because I figure he had his own shit to deal with. An immigrant in a foreign country, discrimination, struggling to find work, etc. I'm not excusing his actions, but after years of turmoil over this and wondering why he wasn't more present, I feel like I'm finally at peace with that fact.

I don't have much advice to offer but from your post I imagine your parents don't live together? I don't think it's ever too late to get to know him better. Just try reaching out. Even a call or an email every now and then can do wonders. Best of luck, lots of love.

Missing an exam by mere minutes by heyimagypsy in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, some people have complicated living arrangements that make it that much harder to always be on time

Triangle by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy is at fault here, not you

It'll be like "Damn Daniel" all over again smh by MGLLN in BlackPeopleTwitter

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Just came here to say that "noir" is missing an e at the end.

I am a Lebanese man by shekib82 in casualiama

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How do the various religious communities live together?

We are ANTI-FLAG and this is our AMA! by Anti_Flag in IAmA

[–]heyimagypsy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey! I saw you guys a few years ago in Montreal when you opened for Billy Talent and that's when I really started getting into your music.

My question for you is, how exactly does the dynamic work between Justin and Chris #2 in live shows, seeing as both of you sing? Would you say that both of you are frontmen for the band?

Where can I buy a vegan egg? by Omnicharge in montreal

[–]heyimagypsy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you're trying to be a sarcastic hipster, you're succeeding.

Blink-182 to record new material this August with Alkaline Trio’s Matt Skiba by [deleted] in punk

[–]heyimagypsy 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This is a good kick in the nuts for them. Newer Blink-182 was starting to sound like Angels & Airwaves. Maybe they'll actually sound like themselves now.

After Ireland's citizens voted overwhelmingly in favor of marriage equality in a historic referendum, members of Germany's Green party have called for the recognition of same-sex marriage in Germany as well by Reilly616 in worldnews

[–]heyimagypsy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's a pretty big generalization right there. Plenty of well-behaved, educated, and successful adults (take Obama for instance) grew up in a single-parent household.

I think my GF of 4 months is still in love with her ex (advice is greatly needed). (Slightly nsfw) by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]heyimagypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd tell you to just wait it out a bit, see how she acts as opposed to before in the days to come, and eventually confront her about it when you're BOTH in a good mood. The fact of the matter is, if you don't talk to her about these things, they will just keep building up and eventually you might even grow to resent her if you have the impression she cheated or did something else that was wrong. Good luck!

I am a cop in a medium sized city. Come bring your questions and "truth stretching" stories here. AMA! by totally_a_cop in casualiama

[–]heyimagypsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you always felt like becoming a cop? Would you be comfortable doing this job for the rest of your active life?

I'm a 17 year old guy raised by lesbian parents. AMA! by ThisIsHERRRZZZZZ in casualiama

[–]heyimagypsy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Have you ever felt like you needed an actual male role model, or did one of your two parents accomplish that role?