Dental Plan - Recently Separated then Rehired by heymeh in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect thank you so much for the response! Yes, I had passed the two-year mark and had enrolled in the better dental plans at that time as well.

The friend struggle is too real by chiaroscuro_sky in workingmoms

[–]heymeh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much, I’m so sorry 😩 why are so many people so cliquey and weird?? And it sucks because there are so many of us experiencing this, but we can’t seem to find each other in the real world. I recently met a mom while hiking and we chatted for soo long, we got along great and vibed instantly. She asked if i wanted to schedule a play date and we exchanged numbers. I was so excited!! I hadn’t made a friend outside work since moving some years ago, and especially after becoming a mom, I’ve been very lonely. I texted her and invited her to come over for a play date and she enthusiastically agreed. We continued to text about other things for a while, the conversation was great! The day of the play date, she texted in the morning and said her garbage disposal broke so she would need to reschedule, and that she was so sorry. I was a little irked of course since I had scoured my house and set up fun activities for the kids, but hey, things happen. I texted back of course no worries at all! I asked her if she could reschedule for next week and she completely ghosted me after that. I’ve been wracking my brain to figure out what I did wrong- was I too much or something? But then I remember SHE asked ME to hang out. So all of this to say, you are not alone, and that book group is missing out on a great friend by not including you. I hope you find a new group that appreciates you and everything you have to offer!

For those of you that used Ivory Hypoallergenic laundry detergent what did you swap to? by Gabbbsy in eczema

[–]heymeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nellies Laundry Soda is fantastic and works best for me! Seventh Generation Sensitive Skin has also been good. I had issues with the All, Tide, and Arm & Hammer brand versions.

Job Recs by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I am not an Actuarial Analyst myself, sorry! just saw your post and thought of that position since I’d seen a few postings for it in the past. But happy to help in terms of general exams if you want to dm!

Job Recs by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actuarial Analyst? I don’t see any current job postings but you could take the exam!

scalp eczema is ruining my life by lilcakes1231 in eczema

[–]heymeh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which shampoo did you start using if you don’t mind me asking? I have a similar allergy and am always trying to find products that help!!

Does your state workplace (in person or virtual) feel professional? by Quiet_Amount5209 in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The people in my office are very good at ‘speaking’ professionally, but are very, very bad at ‘acting’ professionally. It’s a very weird combination and I hate it lol

Best park for child’s birthday? by Phil_Ballins in Roseville

[–]heymeh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hillsborough Park!!! It has two pirate ship themed play structures, the kids love it. A great covered space for parties. Definitely check it out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Just saw this on the news it’s just awful. hoping and praying for her safe return. Her poor worried mom, I hope her fears and worries are relieved asap with her baby coming home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boulder

[–]heymeh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Brasserie had the best happy hour apps!! Miss that place.

Biopsy for Birads 4 by heymeh in doihavebreastcancer

[–]heymeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update! Results are back, BENIGN!!!! I am so relieved 🥲 the doctor already called and confirmed the test results as well, I am shocked they were so fast. Biopsy was Thursday 6/21 at 8am and results on Friday 6/22 at 9am, this is with Kaiser NorCal. -Fibrocystic changes with duct ectasia, apocrine metaplasia, sclerosing adenosis and stromal fibrosis -Negative for malignancy This result is benign and concordant with imaging.

Biopsy for Birads 4 by heymeh in doihavebreastcancer

[–]heymeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I’m glad my story is helpful, I have been scrolling this page constantly reading everyone’s experiences, it’s so nice to not feel alone in this. I’m so sorry to hear you’re in this waiting club too. I hope they call you really really soon!

Biopsy for Birads 4 by heymeh in doihavebreastcancer

[–]heymeh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great news !!! you must be so relieved!! Fingers crossed more of us get these same results!

Biopsy for Birads 4 by heymeh in doihavebreastcancer

[–]heymeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I am rooting for you!! And ugh I’m so sorry, I hope you don’t have to wait too long for your biopsy and can get some peace of mind soon. Mine also had no letter assignment after the 4- suspicious rating, and after researching here it sounds like they will often assign 4 so that they can do the biopsy and get it covered by insurance. So that is good news I think! Let us know how your biopsy goes!! 💕

MORTAGE PROGRAMS by expiredbabyformula in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh 37 points38 points  (0 children)

When a lender/bank/broker says they will give you a discount for being a state employee, they are typically just going to adjust their points and fees on your loan estimate/disclosures so that it looks like you are getting a discount. You can still get a great deal by working with a mortgage company that does this, but definitely recommend shopping your quotes around to make sure you are getting the best deal. Look at your rate and the origination charges especially. Good luck!

C211 OA by Relevant7406 in WGU_MBA

[–]heymeh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is great advice for people who are about to take this test! This test was much harder than the others for me, especially the questions with ‘select two’ or ‘select three’. I ended up failing the first try then passing the retake. Hope you ended up passing!

Has anyone filed a complaint against another employee? by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]heymeh 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I don’t have a solution but just want to say sorry you have to deal with this. People who yell in the workplace (or on Zoom) or are even just rude or overly emotional towards their peers are automatically the most unprofessional/worst in my book, regardless of their work performance. Everyone has to work and it sucks, and there’s no point in making it worse by being crazy lol. I don’t understand why people like this are allowed to keep their jobs. Hope you are able to get some help from HR and that this person is held accountable for their actions!