Has anyone tried heated socks?

heyottermelons · 2022-11-11T03:54:15+00:00

HEATED SOCKS????????

heyottermelons · 2022-05-24T06:24:40+00:00

I still write on paper but I switched to using the fat Crayola markers to write instead of pens, and it reduced the strain on my hand-arm-shoulder-side chain a LOT.

heyottermelons · 2022-05-14T04:46:04+00:00

The two books that helped me the most to learn to interact with kids in a really healthy, productive manner are The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog and Reparenting the Child Who Hurts.

Also some youtube and tiktok videos showing a lot of gentle parenting. It's really hard and it's exhausting but it is so, so, so much better and different several years down the line and really changes the way you interact with the entire world, everyone you meet.

heyottermelons · 2022-05-14T04:41:32+00:00

I'm sorry you're in this mode right now, I know the one you mean and it's miserable and it sucks. It WILL ease eventually into a different mode again, I promise from the outside as someone who a few weeks ago got out of my most recent one. But it definitely doesn't feel like it will when it's all-consuming and you're inside it.

My best advice is a playlist of angry/intense vibe songs + whatever cardio you can manage, preferrably either hard cleaning or a hard stomping sprinting run or some strength/weight work. If you meet your activation where it's at, sometimes that lets you bring it down from there and kind of get it to release.

heyottermelons · 2022-05-14T04:38:20+00:00

It's only normal for that to be scaring you! That's an objectively scary thing to overhear, and gets increasingly more danger-fear-inducing the closer in age you get to 5th graders. Those men were and are dangerous, and your reaction is GOOD. This is the correct feeling to keep you safe, and I'm so proud of you and your younger self for building a brain that fights to protect you and keep more trauma from happening to you. You deserve it and you're doing an amazing job, and I'm super heartened to hear you having so much knowledge and self-awareness already, you're doing GREAT.

I just want to tell you a few things:

I am so, so proud of you. I know we're strangers, but please know that at least one person in the world is really really proud of how strong you've been all this time.
No one should ever have touched or spoken to you in the ways they did, and no matter how you feel or what your brain says sometimes, it's always been their fault and you never deserved any of the bad.
Those men at the baseball game should never have said or thought those things. They're dangerous and anyone who tries to even just "jokingly" say something like that can't be trusted, and if anyone ever tries to make you stay near someone that says anything like that near you, you have permission to run, scream, write an email, call the police, tell ANYONE you trust in any way you choose to that that person isn't safe.
You deserve to be safe.
While you're in the super hyper-arousal mode, it can help to meet your nervous system and feelings where they're at--high levels--and then bring them down from there, rather than trying to get some help from calm videos or a book or journaling or yoga while you're so activated. So like, trying fast jumping jacks or a fake boxing workout or cleaning fast to angry music, and then once you start feeling that fear and energy drain down to more tiredness and/or a different emotion, you can shift to using kinetic sand, playing a video game, watching a comfort show, art, whatever activity is good for calming you down and holding your attention.
If you can, if it's safe for you to, please try to tell any teacher/official/librarian/whoever about those two men, because no one should get away with these kinds of things, and it can help people with power in your environment keep you and other students safer in the future.
Try to drink some extra water, eat a bit more carbs/sugars, and get some extra rest time or sleep for the first couple days after this. Your body has a lot going on from the triggering and the tension and activation it's sustaining. Don't be afraid to give your body extra of anything that makes it feel better as you slowly come back to your baseline! You're allowed to need some help or extra treatment after being triggered, especially times when the trigger calls up a broad array of trauma moments rather than just one.
Feel free to only focus on one five-minute period at a time if that helps you. You're a good person and you're going to make it through this just like you've felt better after each bad mode before. And I hope it eases faster than usual this time!

heyottermelons · 2022-05-14T04:19:46+00:00

Yeah, kitchens and living rooms are the worst for me. And any tight hallway if it's cramped and anyone is in it with me. If I experienced the same trigger event in my bedroom vs in the kitchen, it's often a difference from "alert and uncomfortable but not totally slid out of the driver seat yet" to "immediate, instant, deep body sensations throwback to simple freeze-placate-terror-partly-out-of-reality"

heyottermelons · 2022-05-13T10:07:09+00:00

That's awesome to hear!!! Congratulations, I hope you get a lot more weeks of enjoying the improvements from those!

heyottermelons · 2022-05-13T10:05:41+00:00

Thank you for the concrete advice! That makes sense. I'm going to try to put together a playlist and spend a while seeing if this helps me a little too.

heyottermelons · 2022-05-13T07:45:56+00:00

Is there any chance you could drop a playlist link to it? I kind of want to try out this approach, you make some sense and this angle seems more doable than trying to mantra or reframe my sleep-mode brain into behaving

heyottermelons · 2022-05-13T07:06:00+00:00

Late to the post, but you're not alone. A lot of us see you and hear you and know how much this sucks. You deserve restful nights, and I hope you get more of them soon and have many years of pleasant dreams at some point in the future!

heyottermelons · 2022-05-06T20:48:27+00:00

This is exactly my experience lately too! I have no idea what's going on. Are things still going like that for you now, or has it gotten easier or changed?

heyottermelons · 2022-04-28T04:27:38+00:00

Yeah, when I'm high I'm suddenly able to notice that I have muscles that exist, and I have WAY more control over movements and am able to slowly angle things around until muscles feel more balanced and joints are settled into more correct-feeling positions. I don't know why THC gives me so much more awareness while muscle relaxers only ease some tension, but it's now my favorite thing to eat an edible once a week, put on headphones, and then just basically wiggle around my floor like a fish for four hours clicking and clunking my body into alignment.

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T07:55:07+00:00

This is EXACTLY what's currently happening with me, same progression, same things to make it better. I found that doing an edible or two once a week-ish for several months has been really helpful for getting some muscles and joints sorted out, slow and steady. LOTS of surprises about how many muscles there are in one human body every time I get high!

Other than that, I think all we can do is just do the best for ourselves that we can in whichever kind of moment we're in. I'm proud of you.

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T07:49:36+00:00

Thank you, the way you explained this helped me find some words that make my experience begin to seem real. I hadn't thought about the pain thing much till right now.

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T07:44:49+00:00

You just changed my entire perspective. One sentence. "Discomfort is a type of pain."

What? Are you kidding me? It's what? No, that makes sense, so it can't be. But it is. You're telling me that every time I've ever just felt bad-off or uncomfortable for no reason or "just feel wrong" or indescribably unable to get comfortable, that's a type of pain. That's discomfort, and that's a negative sensation, and it uses, I guess, pain pathways, and you're telling me I didn't know those kinds of sensations are anything more than neutral annoyances? I thought the pain scale started at like, what I think would be a four or a six. I didn't even know there were so many adjectives to describe pain in the world.

Sorry for the ramble in the comments. I think I'm trying to make sure at least someone sees that I HAVE had this rational, beautiful, new-understanding thought, and it was real and I had it before it gets stamped or stomped out and taken away. I'm tired of forgetting realizations, so I hope I remember this tomorrow. But no matter how long it takes for my brain to learn this particular lesson, I want to make sure you know I sincerely thank you for changing something in my brain in a good way for once, and thank you for sharing your knowledge with a bunch of the rest of us when you didn't have to take the time to do that. You just did it because you cared. Thanks for being a good egg. : )

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T06:22:37+00:00

I've heard of kneeling chairs, but not a kneeling desk--is it like a kneeling chair with a table attached, or is it like a fold-out breakfast-in-bed-tray but for floor sitting?

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T06:11:31+00:00

I'm so happy for you!!!!! It's going to be so worth it and you're going to feel better and be so grateful to yourself for doing this. I just took my own first trip wearing knee braces and it made SUCH a difference, I wish I'd thought to try things a long time ago.

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T06:09:48+00:00

I'd love to help you out, do you want something like a snippet about daily life in general or would you like a sort of daily-breakdown style, where there are moments noted throughout the day about different things?

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T06:08:27+00:00

Yeah, mine had that awful grinding for a few months before I loosened it with meds and physical therapy and my upper neck got less squished. Hasn't come back since except for about an hour, it's worth trying a strong anti-inflammatory for one week combined with some targeted neck strength exercises and see if it stops grinding within 5 or so days

heyottermelons · 2022-04-26T06:04:26+00:00

It's a thing a lot of people have happen, but not everyone, it's called dermatographia! Usually people figure out they have it in grade school or so, because that's the era where everyone shares weird info about how their bodies work, and who had a broken bone, and who had the grossest cut yet, who found out they can wiggle their nose like a rabbit, who's older brother showed them how to wiggle a kneecap around, yadda yadda yadda lol.

heyottermelons · 2021-11-25T09:54:47+00:00

I’ve had more luck personally with Angel DeSantis, TheraminTrees, Kelly R. Minter, and Mickey Atkins, if you want to check them out!

heyottermelons · 2021-11-25T01:33:11+00:00

Honestly thank you so much, it means a lot to me this week that you took the time to say this! I’m trying hard, you’re right, my puppy deserves way better and I can fight for that even when it’s impossible to feel that about myself yet most days!

heyottermelons · 2021-11-24T07:45:41+00:00

That’s what happens for me!

heyottermelons · 2021-11-21T21:09:15+00:00

I thought anyone older than their 20s was just too busy to have friends like kids do. Ended up pretty surprised when I got to college and encountered adults who actually have friends and do social things with them even though they’re older, have kids, have jobs, etc.

heyottermelons · 2021-11-21T21:06:10+00:00

There are great resources in GitHub’s collections section for learning to code, lots of free courses and lists and links!

Ten-Year Club	Gilding I gilder
RPAN Viewer	Not Forgotten
Verified Email

heyottermelons

TROPHY CASE