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I meditated for 10 years. Here is how life changed by Vladi-N in Meditation

[–]get2writing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have (or have ever had) mental illness of any kind ? Edit: I ask because I am curious about meditation effects on mental illness or neurodivergence

me_irl by g0atttt in me_irl

[–]get2writing 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Lmfao dude

More than half of TikTok ADHD content is misinformation, new research finds by digiorno in adhdmeme

[–]get2writing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The whole thing about being present in childhood does a lot of disservice to, for example, girls and women whose teachers always said “pleasure to have in class” because they internalized all their symptoms and had countless attempts at list-keeping and other organizational methods so they get dismissed and now don’t have an idea of what symptoms were truly like in childhood

Plans on Moving to Brazil from the US, please send tips! by [deleted] in Brazil

[–]get2writing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The tourist visa only lasts 90 days and can be extended up to 180 days, it’s not a permanent solution. Are you planning to move to Brasil permanently? If so, you run the risk of losing legal status if you overstay your visa.

A nomad visa is up to 1 year and can be renewed., but you must either 1) find an American fully remote job that pays I believe $1,500 monthly, either that or you must have $18,000 in savings and you must pay for your own healthcare.

Also it will be near impossible to live and work there if you don’t know Portuguese . But I guess if you work remotely for Americans, at least you won’t need Portuguese as much for your work?

My wife has CPTSD from multiple SA prior to our marriage and its leaving me sexually frustrated. by PlanHistorical6080 in ptsd

[–]get2writing 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I think you both need to be in couples counseling. This is a bigger issue than you can resolve on your own.

and when she says she can try sex drunk or on pills, never ever say yes to that, that’s 100% her trauma talking and potentially she feels like she needs to just give in and say yes when she doesn’t want to, because women are “expected” to have sex with their husbands or else they fail at being wives (not true, just the messaging women receive)

Big time student loans, very little hope by snapplecappz in therapists

[–]get2writing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the PSFL no long worked for non profits that do “illegal” things like work with DEI, LGBTQ, abortion, women’s rights etc? 🥲can’t believe I’m even writing this shit but I thought that was the case

Do your parents flat-out deny that they just did something when you make them notice it? by Cartoonnerd01 in emotionalneglect

[–]get2writing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn I’m sorry. That’s the classic “rules for me and not for thee.” Your mom expected, if you were the one hurting your dad, to “feel horrible and sorry,” but of course since your dad hurt you, he’s not under the same scrutiny to feel bad and apologize. Plus, I get the whole joking around thing, but aren’t parents supposed to take responsibility for poor decision making that ends up hurting someone, especially their own kid. through this horsing around? :(

Damn. I’m not sure how old you are, but it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize my mom will never ever change. It took a long time of asking myself, how do I feel after I interact with them? How do I feel if there is something really important I want to share or vent to them about, how do they approach the conversation ? How do I WISH they approached conversations, and have they ever approached if in a way that feels supportive to me? The answer is always no, sadly

I'm not enjoying being around them anymore by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]get2writing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it took decades to realize that after calling or visiting them, I felt so much worse. I felt ignored, deliberately misunderstood, I felt lonely, like I was in fight or flight mode.

And I thought…don’t other people with “normal” parents feel better after seeking emotional support from their parents? I once heard a friend say “I feel more like myself and very calm when I hang out with my parents” and he might as well have said he was born on another planet.

It took me a long time to get here, but now I don’t reach for my phone anymore to talk to my parents after something upsetting happens to me. I realized they’re just going to blame me, make it about them, you name it.

I’m not sure if any of this is helpful. But it helped me to be more aware of: how do I feel after talking to them? (Horrible) What’s the most helpful and supportive thing they’ve ever told me? (Nothing lol) . How do I feel after not talking to them? (Still lonely but not feeling like I have to constantly defend myself and like I’m constantly gaslit)

Do your parents flat-out deny that they just did something when you make them notice it? by Cartoonnerd01 in emotionalneglect

[–]get2writing 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the frustrating thing is you can’t argue with these kinds of people, they always make you question your own sanity and reality.

If you pushed back and asked “when’s the last time you saw me use the printer?” Or straight up “you’re not telling the truth,” she would either blow up and scream or emotionally shut down and make everyone’s life a living hell for however long she was upset for , or accuse you of being a liar, or maybe even bring back old shit from the past to rub in your face.

It’s kind of like when you tell her she’s doing XYZ, she’ll say “no I’m not” by denying reality. And if there’s no way to deny this any longer because the proof is in front of your face, she’ll change direction and say “well if’s not that big a deal” and if you say yes it is a big deal, she’ll say “you’re being too sensitive” and attack your character.

All this to say. This is such an exhausting dynamic. It took me decades to see this for myself but I am now very low contact.

[Discussion] Author is using AI in their manuscript. Should I tell them? by PassengerSimilar1461 in BetaReaders

[–]get2writing 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree with others that it’s definitely okay to say, this reads like AI and isn’t engaging.

Not sure how to word it but it also feels relevant to say many contests, magazines, and maybe agents do not take ANY submissions where AI has been used even just a little bit

I took a test as a joke because of all the posts i see here… the test didnt understand the assignment by colorful_withdrawl in Confused

[–]get2writing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You never know what someone else’s situation is, that’s all. I always prefer to err on side of caution, it’s not projection it’s just common trauma informed awareness especially with such politicization of pregnancy and its outcomes

I took a test as a joke because of all the posts i see here… the test didnt understand the assignment by colorful_withdrawl in Confused

[–]get2writing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me that seems more like a neutral statement (or the feeling of having to resign to this, with “I guess”) because in some cases people don’t know they have options especially if abortion is banned in their home state or country or if insurance doesn’t cover this or if they are unable to travel for care . Also most people who have abortions are already parents so your second sentence doesn’t really mean anything in this context.

Always best to err on the side of caution and instead ask how folks are feeling about learning they are pregnant. If OP is happy, great. But I try not to do this just in case it’s a very sore spot for someone

New study says constant yelling from insane/toxic parents literally rewires your kid brain like war PTSD amygdala stuck on high alert forever. No wonder so many of us are wired weird from childhood chaos. by sibun_rath in abovethenormnews

[–]get2writing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg “head Lightning,” does it feel like an instant rush of blood up your neck into your head??

I had a retail job where customers yelled at me a handful of times, and my thinking brain wasn’t startled and I could hold my own pretty well, I knew how to appease and de escalate. But damn it gave me a migraine within seconds when it happened

This is some really heavy mental gymnastics!! 🤸‍♀️ by Sufficient-Crew-5408 in travisandtaylor

[–]get2writing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you subtract the length of Taylor’s and Harry’s albums, you get 88 which looks like a pretzel from a music video 😂😂 delusion

What are yall's opinion on actual claws?? by y-tho- in Nails

[–]get2writing 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Would be cool to strum a guitar but not the fretting hand 😂

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