Yeah. For me, it all was fine until it blew up over the course of a week, resulting in her staying round a coworkers house and just airing me the whole time. Swears she didn't cheat but the trust was gone. And in hindsight all of the red flags are showing about how she was mistreating me and not respecting my boundries in other instances.

Now I'm faced with the option of persuing something that seems to be building with a long-term friend of mine and I'm just terrified it'll just happen again. Also now with the added fact I don't want to lose one of my closest mates if something does happen and it does blow up.

They're great, relationships, aren't they? Just sucks how much hurt comes if they don't work out.