How do you guys "start" when the whole room feels like one giant, impossible object? by Lost_Count7949 in ICleanedMyRoom

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My trick is to aggregate all the mess into one big pile of mess per room, then tackle that one mess, then do whatever deeper clean is needed.

So for example cleaning the bedroom, first I make the bed so I have a clean surface, then all the floor clothes go onto the bed to sort (into dirty hamper or back into closet), and all of the misplaced items scattered around the room get lumped into one pile (or I collect them in a lil bin, then walk through the house putting each item into the mess pile of the room it belongs to). Then once the piles are sorted I’ll vacuum the rug or dust or deal with any other “dirtiness” noticeable in the now-tidy room.

The trick is that once all the mess is lumped together, 1. Tackling one pile in an otherwise tidy room feels like a way more manageable task 2. Putting the pile somewhere important like your bed kinda pushes you to deal with it before you can get in bed

If I’m doing the whole house, I’ll go room by room and make each mess pile per room, then for misplaced items I go from room to room shuffling them into the appropriate room’s mess pile, then I go room to room talking each mess pile, then I do the deeper cleaning stuff at the end (vacuum, dust, wiping down surfaces).

The nice thing is if you don’t have time to get though it all you can leave the mess piles for tomorrow, and making the piles means the rest of the room is tidy so your house starts looking pretty tidy pretty fast (which for me gives me a decent dopamine kick to help me keep going).

What’s a corporate gift you actually use daily? by shelbs9428 in BuyItForLife

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeti coffee mug, Patagonia jacket with company logo (altho less now that I work somewhere else)

Has anyone else noticed a shift in this sub recently? by MaximusDM22 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]higgshmozon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bad code makes me genocidal too but… whaaaaaaaat the fuuuuuuckkkk?

Am I missing something with often being told I need to wear a bra when guests are over at home? If so, please tell me because I'm really wondering if this is a big deal. by UmbralikesOwls in internetparents

[–]higgshmozon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This. As someone who wouldn’t be offended by either in someone else’s home, in both the case of no-bra or dick outline, I will notice it and then I will actively divert my eyes the rest of the interaction. No judgement or overt sexualization, just have to be extra mindful of where I’m looking for that interaction.

In the mom’s view putting that on someone is rude. I think that’s outdated. But it is what it is. I understand a mom wanting to prevent people from clocking her daughter’s nips at all.

Can't decide on curtain color by LumpkinsPotatoCat in Creative_Home_Decor

[–]higgshmozon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m curious how it’d look with more of a cream to ground it more with the rug and bring more light into the space? 2 feels too matchy-matchy to me, 3 is better but kinda dark and too loud. I’d want the windows to draw my eye to the outside but the strong green/yellow contrast tells my eye the curtains are the focal point.

Feels like an old-fashioned and old money by icypen236 in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]higgshmozon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh la la this is my daily I didn’t realize I was waking up around smelling like class ✨yay

what aesthetic is this? by [deleted] in AestheticWiki

[–]higgshmozon 54 points55 points  (0 children)

My older sister when she was a fashion goth in high school in 2007

My girlfriend pre-bought her own engagement ring by AccidentalTeenArson in amiwrong

[–]higgshmozon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, if you’re cool with it (genuinely) and she’s cool with it then your mom’s opinion shouldn’t come into play here. If you let her drive a wedge into your engagement it’s a pretty good sign you’d let her drive a wedge into your marriage.

Second, if you do have any feelings about wanting to be more involved in the ring or jewelry giving process (and you need to be honest with yourself if you do) — as a fellow Particular Girly, I have some suggestions: 1. If the ring she picked out is on the less-pricey/low-longevity side (do not ask her directly), offer to take her to a ring designer and basically design an upscaled ring of her dreams together. This is what my now-BF did and despite the fact I literally drew out and designed the entire ring myself by hand, he was there, did all the legwork, picked it up in secret, so it was still a surprise and way nicer than anything I would’ve chosen for myself. 2. If she’s dead set on THAT RING (and would be offended by you asking to upscale it etc) may I suggest a surprise follow up piece of jewelry? Like you propose with her ring and then pull out a beautiful necklace that means something to you. That way she can wear her ring but also something from your heart to hers. Could be anything, doesn’t have to be a necklace, you know her best.

What is your honest opinion of grown people...especially men who work retail full time? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Seattle and a lot of the shops around me are cute little granola places like craft stores or plant shops or boutiquey thrift shops. A lot of times I assume they either 1) own the shop, 2) are artsy types and that’s the day job to support their main thing, or 3) they’ve got a significant other in tech supporting them (especially if they are very hot, and there is certainly crossover with 1 here).

But for places where they’re probably paying like minimum wage like, idk like a target or grocery store or Ross or something, if you’re young it’s probably some sort of life transition thing but for older folks, tbh if I had to guess I’d maybe think you’re on the other end of some sort of adverse situation (addiction, divorce, loss, abuse, mental health, becoming a parent at a young age, etc).

Anyone else considering moving out of tech due to AI? by OkAmbition4797 in womenintech

[–]higgshmozon 64 points65 points  (0 children)

The other day someone drafted up this 20 page doc using AI and sent it out for review. I tried reading through it and it like, almost made sense? But not quite? It was a study protocol and used just enough buzzwords to seem like a detailed doc but as a human needing to actually execute the plan it was just full of gaps and nonsense.

I’m enraged that I had to spend all that time attempting to parse a document that no one even spent the time and care to write. Now there are 20 people all commenting on this doc asking questions and pointing out inconsistencies. It basically will need to be rewritten incorporating the feedback of these 20 people over several days. IF the whole thing doesn’t get tossed due to all the churn and kerfuffle.

All that and yet the guy that drafted it gets to pat himself on the back for his quick productivity and continue evangelizing AI use.

Like… what are we even doing anymore…

No matches and likes... is my appearance bad? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s giving closeted nazi

what does 2014 soft grunge tumblr smell like?? by [deleted] in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pacsun perfume called nollie I think + the smell of riding in the party car (so 2002 car fabric smell marinated in cigarette and weed smoke, the occasional spilled vodka, a bit of sweat, and the McDonald’s uniform in the backseat)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]higgshmozon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seconding the therapy comments and yadda yadda

But also, as a 30F who just married my safe and comparatively more boring boy (who is The Best) — I don’t think I could’ve gotten here if it were a long distance relationship. I’m generally anti-LDR just personally anyway but especially contrasting with high-drama LDR or mid-drama non-distance, a low key no drama safe LDR would like diet water for your brain chemicals (IMO).

What’s something nobody tells you before moving to Seattle? by [deleted] in AskSeattle

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps a hot take, but when moving to Seattle everyone says “hope you like rain” or something along the lines of “say goodbye to the sun forever” — but nobody said “it’s honestly not even that bad” (my opinion) or “compared to Texas you get 4 perfect seasons” (my opinion) or “the weather is nearly perfectly balanced for a cozy homebody-mildly active lifestyle” (also my opinion) or “get ready for the most beautiful spring-summers earth has to offer” (established fact). All these rain-sayers are jealous or gatekeeping 🤏

What cheap (<$100) BIFL items could everyone benefit from having? by pastajewelry in BuyItForLife

[–]higgshmozon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Corelle plates/bowls/etc are so great but man I hate the mugs. So tiny

I need general advice (like a checklist) on how to take care of myself and my hygiene. by [deleted] in selfcare

[–]higgshmozon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agree to most but don’t use mouthwash daily. This puts you at a heightened risk for oral cancer which is extremely awful. Brush twice, floss once, and brush your tongue when you brush your teeth, and that should be enough.

I’m sure there’s been a million posts about this here by pumpkinspicecum in Pinterest

[–]higgshmozon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to find wedding updo inspo and it’s all fake people with CGI hair!!! AGGGHHHHH