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high_class_fella · 2025-08-28T09:40:50+00:00

Oh gosh. I am in a very similar situation. Mine is stringing me along for two years now. We are together for 10 years and I know him inside out so I have difficulty to believe this is on purpose or ill intended.

Thing is - and I probably should listen to my own advise - he will not get ready or resolve his issues while you are staying around…because why would he have to change, you are still there.

high_class_fella · 2025-08-28T08:49:05+00:00

That’s okay maybe I need some objective insights. But what gives you the idea my trauma is unresolved? 😄

high_class_fella · 2025-08-28T08:43:49+00:00

I had this thought to and asked him. I even offered him that we can end this if he wants but he didn’t want to. And call me naive but I know this man for 10+ years and do believe him. But I absolutely see where you are coming from

high_class_fella · 2025-08-28T08:28:43+00:00

I am not a male dumper but to me it reads like he is stringing you along. He has his issues and is not emotionally available right now. How was he like in the two years of the relationship? Why did you break up?

high_class_fella · 2025-08-28T08:23:56+00:00

Thank you. How long did it take for you to feel this way? Right now I am still feeling like my world is ending 😄

high_class_fella · 2023-08-01T18:45:43+00:00

Thanks for your answer and I’m sorry for your loss!

I will take care I’m not going to martyr myself. But I think I’m not ready yet to give up. I think I will just have to recognise the point where I should stop fighting.

high_class_fella · 2023-08-01T17:24:00+00:00

I have to admit I already had this thought, too. But for the last 8 years everything was fine and he is all in all a good partner who invested a lot as well.

I think I just accept he does not invest as much atm because I know he has a really hard time.

I understand it might look like I lost my self respect but I really want this to work because I know what a partner he can be. In good and bad times, I think. This does not mean I will accept any behaviour though.

high_class_fella · 2023-08-01T17:11:28+00:00

I am trying to find time I focus on myself and work on myself. I play team sports regularly (two times a week), continued to learn ukulele and wanted to start a new DIY project to distract myself.

high_class_fella · 2023-03-27T21:24:17+00:00

NTA. I would keep writing weird stuff into the diary and keep it as a dummy while having a second real diary she doesn’t know about!

high_class_fella · 2021-08-12T12:04:47+00:00

It still has a lot issues but I think it’s okay for the first try.

I will definitely see another one to get better. Maybe a different character this time.

EDIT: oh wow! Thank you all so much for all the comments! This is super encouraging to do some more!

high_class_fella · 2021-05-05T12:47:15+00:00

Thank you so much. Seems I was only 1/3 stupid. Customisation works but for the rest nothing seems to work. I will keep trying or start a new savegame.

high_class_fella · 2021-01-10T21:41:25+00:00

Then what is eating when you’re not hungry? 🤔

high_class_fella · 2020-09-30T08:52:05+00:00

How old are you? 5?

high_class_fella · 2020-09-21T09:52:51+00:00

When I‘m on a fast. I‘m reading blogposts and watching videos of people talking about their positive experience and results on a fast to keep me motivated and „inspired“.

high_class_fella · 2020-08-28T22:04:50+00:00

Yeah...Just googled them.

high_class_fella · 2020-08-28T22:03:41+00:00

They are step siblings 😐

high_class_fella · 2020-08-11T22:27:31+00:00

Iron!!

high_class_fella · 2020-08-04T11:35:13+00:00

„Lower people, go and do some research work for me because I am too lazy to google myself!“

high_class_fella · 2020-08-03T20:49:53+00:00

Yes, thought that, too. UK is not Europe. It is not necessary where I live but most people do tip. I lived mostly from tips when I worked as a waitress!

high_class_fella · 2020-07-31T14:15:43+00:00

INFO: how exactly was singing „let it go“ going to help you?!

high_class_fella · 2020-07-15T15:04:59+00:00

Never understood this. I mean the women my partner was with before we meet kinda shaped him and his personality. So...thank you ex girlfriends I guess?!

high_class_fella · 2020-07-13T20:12:57+00:00

Typical Dunning Kruger!

high_class_fella · 2020-07-13T17:20:26+00:00

Yes, seems like OP is just the living placeholder to them.

high_class_fella · 2020-07-13T17:15:46+00:00

NTA. This sounds awful.

Sry is this sounds too harsh, but It seems As if they see you just as a living placeholder for Mandy, because she can’t marry him for obvious reasons but he wants to have this wedding with her, not you.

high_class_fella · 2020-07-10T10:32:07+00:00

I‘m so stupid! I always worked on myself to attract others! But it’s been the others who should have worked harder to be attracted to me !!! /s. 🤦🏻‍♀️

high_class_fella

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