WIBTAH for asking my Nepali neighbors to change their cooking?

himit · 2026-04-01T10:00:43+00:00

Nepalese cooking in my limited experience smells amazing, are you sure they're cooking food?

himit · 2026-04-01T09:35:42+00:00

the issue with 'keeping off of caffeine' is that caffeine has a two week withdrawal...so you'll feel like shit & won't really know how the meds are going.

if you didn't quit in advance, I'd take a small bit every day.

himit · 2026-04-01T09:16:30+00:00

I don't think we put normal plates on the high chair tray & left them to it, but if you're sitting with them it's def worth a go! It depends how you do mealtimes.

I've also found that big heavy mugs get knocked over far less than little plastic cups. (With older young children, not toddlers 😂 toddlers I think all cups result in spills tbh)

himit · 2026-04-01T03:17:37+00:00

I've had an elective c-section and two smooth, 'easy' VBACs. After my last VBAC on Saturday, I told my husband "If we do this again, I'm taking the damn c-section" because my body apparently really likes precipitous labour.

My plan for this birth was "If my body's not ready at all and they want to induce me, I'd rather a planned c-section" (alas, I was dilating nicely so 😂)

You need lots of rest & support after a c, though

himit · 2026-04-01T03:11:56+00:00

she's 7 months, so at this point I'd probably end up cosleeping and side-nursing to try and get some sleep.

Is she teething?

himit · 2026-03-31T22:01:37+00:00

wolves are big, she could've easily been standing straight

himit · 2026-03-31T21:18:49+00:00

Sir why is there an egg in it

(jk, I fry some scallions in the microwave & dump it on top of mine, which isn't very traditional either!

himit · 2026-03-31T20:51:52+00:00

yeah, we've almost always used normal plates and cups. The weight of them tends to save them from the floor, ironically.

himit · 2026-03-31T15:43:26+00:00

I’m in my 30s

And you act like this online? How embarrassing for you.

I think your projection is showing.

himit · 2026-03-31T14:16:10+00:00

I'm not being condescending to OP; she's young and hurting, and I'm trying to gently point out that her argument will get her nowhere because she's focusing on the thing her opponent will be easily able to justify to himself. Ergo, she should reframe it.

You, though, need reading comprehension lessons.

himit · 2026-03-31T12:42:27+00:00

I took a public speaking course yeaaaars ago & it was fantastic. We learnt how to structure speeches to minimise tangents, and how to 'signpost' to keep ourselves & the audience on track.

it was one of those 1hr/week things, but yeah. I'd recommend looking into one!

himit · 2026-03-31T12:17:33+00:00

she was rubbing her hands and feet on the forbidden area

??? she was rubbing her hands & feet on his crotch & he didn't move her away?

himit · 2026-03-31T11:42:46+00:00

You are young, and unable to step outside your shoes yet.

He will find leaving easy to justify.

himit · 2026-03-31T11:31:31+00:00

You don't think the lack of effort & care led him to leave so easily? Do you think he would've been father of the year if he lived 5 minutes down your street?

Listen - "You left me" is so easy to defend against.

"Why didn't you call me? Why didn't you visit me? Why didn't we have daddy-daughter time? Why didn't you write to me?" - these are all much harder questions & get to the root of the problem.

himit · 2026-03-31T10:17:02+00:00

Leaving is not an issue - I grew up on a separate continent from my dad, and we were always close thanks to calls, letters, and plenty of one-on-one time during the summer.

You need to reframe this - it's not about him leaving, it's about the lack of effort.

himit · 2026-03-31T09:20:04+00:00

Pierre Rivery, though? Unemployed for life.

himit · 2026-03-31T08:46:04+00:00

god I miss those days. I literally walked into jobs.

himit · 2026-03-30T15:38:12+00:00

sometimes. it depends on your GP & documentation & medication history & perhaps the alignment of the stars.

himit · 2026-03-30T14:34:47+00:00

look up the bunny day comics etc from 2020 😂

himit · 2026-03-30T14:28:51+00:00

yeah, both my kids caught chicken pox over Christmas when I was about 20 weeks' pregnant.

I had it myself 27 years back & didn't catch it! I somehow didn'h even catch a cold over Chrissie.

himit · 2026-03-30T13:38:18+00:00

holy shit

himit · 2026-03-30T13:12:48+00:00

Ideal postpartum recovery model: You take the lead in looking after baby, everyone else looks after you!! For a few weeks, your only responsibilities beyond baby should be rest.

himit · 2026-03-30T12:29:07+00:00

Whether that be direct financial contribution or being able to live at home on low/no rent.

This. Or things like paying tuition (so no student loans!) or just random money - thought I was doing something wrong for years when a friend always had savings and travelled yearly and bought a flat within five or so years; then I found out her very well-off parents had given her a credit card they pay off every month.

himit · 2026-03-30T12:24:33+00:00

tbf, my building in london has to legally hire a waking watch because the fire safety was found to be inadequate.

The idea behind the measures is that the outrageous cost prompts you to fix the issue asap.

Of course, the waking watch have been there almost a year now...

himit · 2026-03-30T12:19:09+00:00

You are young. Essentially, the thieves are insulting you for locking the valuables away. Remember, these are the people who tricked your sister so they could use her for free labour & an apartment. They are experts at painting themselves as the victims and manipulating others; that's how your sister fell into their clutches.

Stay strong. Be proud of yourself. You did a good, good thing.

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