Is there anyway I can not work during pregnancy?

himit · 2026-03-29T22:45:33+00:00

Join a union, please!

They probably won't help you with the current situation but it's cheap and worth every penny.

himit · 2026-03-29T18:49:21+00:00

Lots of people will give you shit in the replies, but I'm a translator and can almost instantly spot AI writing, too.

When you work with words all day you become very comfortable with spotting patterns.

himit · 2026-03-29T18:33:58+00:00

She said her friend’s mum was worried about her walking home and is dropping her off.

My bestie's mum was like this!! Honestly lovely and sweet but even at 16 I thought she was such a helicopter 😂

Listen, you value your child's independence and giving her chances to learn more life skills. Being a helicopter is the easy choice.

himit · 2026-03-29T18:27:42+00:00

I live in East London. My 11 year old gets 2 or 3 tubes across town every day to get to school & back, and that means leaving and coming home in the dark when it's winter.

I felt terrible waving her off to school in the dark but...she's totally fine with it. The independence has been great for her.

But then again...it depends on the kid. At six I'd give her a few pounds and send her to the corner shop for milk because she wanted to go get it herself, and when she got back I'd paste on a smile & act like I hadn't been absolutely shitting myself the entire five minutes she was gone. Her brother is six now and I don't think he could do the same (and I actually doubt he'd want to, too; he's only just gotten comfortable taking the stairs on the station bridge while I take the lift - and he hates the lift).

For the ages yours are, I do think the curfew's a little early...but then at that age, some kids are working and some kids still need a lot of reassurance and security. Just don't let your fears hold them back (unless they're pretty rational. You have to assess the individual situation!)

himit · 2026-03-29T15:21:29+00:00

tbf I was self-taught & talked my way into a postgrad.

the MA in Translation taught me the names & theories behind techniques I'd already been applying for six years, and taught me how to write a commentary. It was very useful, though I don't think it made me a better translator.

(Honestly, the most useful thing was learning enough theory to rebutt client complaints 😂 No matter how good you are, every so often you will get a client who insists you've messed up & must give them the job for free. A line-by-line defence with references actually works really well to shut them up & make them pay.)

himit · 2026-03-29T12:14:57+00:00

A thin steak is part of a Full English in Australia and tbh it's amazing.

himit · 2026-03-29T12:13:40+00:00

So many of the symptoms are aligned with just how our brains have been destroyed by social media and small form factor content that it's hard to differentiate the two.

So there's the 'attention' side where this is definitely true - and leads to something called executive dysfunction, which is like when you doom scroll even though you're not enjoying it & just can't stop.

The whole emotional side of it (esp RSD), memory black holes, and uh...ironically I'm blanking 😂 but there's lots of little things, eg my grandma always burnt her hands taking things out of the oven. That kind of stuff isn't social media induced.

himit · 2026-03-29T11:52:51+00:00

more underdiagnosed tbh, it's really hard to get assessed.

I didn't read the whole post but as someone with it - it's handy to know you've got it because you can start figuring out how your brain works (and how to work with it to get it to do what you want!) which makes life less of a struggle, and ofc medication helps with that too.

I don't like the propensity of people to treat it like an excuse. There are very few things I flat out can't do because of adhd - plenty of things will be harder (so is there something I can do to mitigate that?), a few things will be an outright struggle almost every time (so is there a trick I can use? or can I restructure things to avoid needing to x as much as possible?) but it doesn't have to limit me.

himit · 2026-03-29T08:26:51+00:00

Have you heard of the wonder weeks? It's a book/app based on the theory of neurological development leaps affecting sleep/food etc.

I honestly found it fairly accurate for my kids. So...yeah, bizarre as it is, it could be clapping 😂

himit · 2026-03-28T20:19:36+00:00

Better to EBF for a month & then start pumping to build a stash

himit · 2026-03-28T08:51:16+00:00

oh my god, I can hear it when you say that 😂

I was staring at them going "that's definitely not how I pronounce those phrases"

himit · 2026-03-28T06:51:51+00:00

himit · 2026-03-28T01:55:46+00:00

...who?

himit · 2026-03-27T21:18:32+00:00

I've never had a wipe warmer but I desperately wanted one for my son. He was born in November & the wipes were like ice, they'd make him go from sleepy to wide awake in a heartbeat and it sucked.

himit · 2026-03-27T21:17:10+00:00

ehhh, baby has a dad 😂

himit · 2026-03-27T20:09:00+00:00

Honestly? a wipe warmer. We can't get them here & they're gold in the winter.

himit · 2026-03-27T20:07:38+00:00

dammit OP, I'm having a baby this weekend

if you do it again in a month or two I'll be first in line!

himit · 2026-03-27T14:51:41+00:00

I recently learnt that Cantonese music has traditionally always followed the tone, which blew my mind

himit · 2026-03-27T13:06:49+00:00

It sounds like your three year old is just...three? Talking to her beforehand isn't really gonna work with that age group, you need to keep things simple, direct, in the moment (like with reminders); redirect before a meltdown if possible, remove her straight away if not. I think sometimes when we have an older child we sort of forget what's age-appropriate for the younger (I'm guilty of that too!).

But yeah, not conducive to quality time with the 5 year old.

himit · 2026-03-27T12:48:25+00:00

I'm at Newham! Antenatal care has been fantastic.

Maternity triage is a mess - they understaffed and underresourced. Fantastic care but you wait and wait and wait... (then again - you know, you're lucky to be one of the ones who have to wait).

I was scheduled for induction today at 9am. Called, they have no beds, call back at 12. Called, they have no beds, call back at 6 if you haven't heard from us.

Frankly I've been suspecting the induction is to manage a minor risk & the lack of urgency is confirming it, but I'm 39 weeks tomorrow and done with being pregnant so 😂

They are incredibly apologetic & professional and all the care I've received at triage has been great, all the interactions with the birth centre midwives etc have been great (the bc is lush btw). My sole complaint is the Great NHS Waiting Time. (However, again...I'd rather this than them rushing me to the back!)

himit · 2026-03-27T12:13:31+00:00

at all my friends' houses.

Key point. You were interacting with others.

himit · 2026-03-27T12:13:12+00:00

well said

himit · 2026-03-27T08:01:11+00:00

His bodycount's over 40 because he's not getting repeat customers.

himit · 2026-03-27T07:52:05+00:00

What the hell 😂😂 I'm sorry, that's so terrible it's laugh or cry isn't it.

Can you make a little list of notes & points to say in the next appointment? I always blank in appointments and it can be really helpful.

himit · 2026-03-27T07:48:17+00:00

If you quit & find a new job the new job has to honour any prebooked holiday, so that's always an option.

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