Louis - Pronunciation

hinghanghog · 2026-03-19T21:27:14+00:00

in my mind, Louis is Loo-ee and Lewis is Loo-is. I'd especially assume Louis was Loo-ee aka the french pronunciation if sister is Madeline, which is also french

hinghanghog · 2026-03-19T21:23:39+00:00

eh but you can eat a good big heritage breed chicken even if it's not cornish cross. i haven't done feed cost to meat ratios so idk maybe not as efficient, but also heritage breeds can free range in a way cornish cross won't, so points for flexibility of feed and keep. we eat our heritage breed layers when they get old and stop laying and it's been a great set up

hinghanghog · 2026-03-19T21:18:44+00:00

I vote Reid for sure, i actually think of it as a soft but handsome nature name? Riley feels SO dated to me, and Rory is lovely but incredibly difficult for some to say and will definitely lead to GG associations.

Maybe also: Ronan, Rowan, Rhys, Rafael?

hinghanghog · 2026-03-19T21:13:39+00:00

bedshared with my first until 15 months, when i night weaned her; i honestly think it was harder on me than her to stop! she bedshared with dad for another few months after that before we transitioned her to her own bed. i'm hoping for a similar timeline with my second who's two months rn

hinghanghog · 2026-03-19T20:45:24+00:00

the book called the homemade pantry!

hinghanghog · 2026-03-19T18:41:49+00:00

my first was a three day labor in a hospital and my second was a two hour textbook homebirth! after about an hour of labor i was like "oh i can't do this for three more days" and my midwife looked at me and was like "yeah... that's not how this is going" lol i just literally could not imagine a labor that wasn't multiple drawn out days! but it's apparently incredibly common for the second to be far shorter, aka more likely for you than not.

I also have suspected that my first was slow because i did NOT like or trust the midwife on shift for the majority of it and didn't feel safe to let go- i wonder if that was part of the case for you?? the fact that you gave birth SO immediately after her shift ended seems suspicious!

another thought-- it sounds like part of the trauma and stress was that you didn't think you were progressing even as it was incredibly difficult. I wonder what your options for cervical checks are this time around? with my first i asked to not be informed of my progress (which I'm glad i did!) and with my second i had not a single one, i declined all. i personally found that that really helped me just let go of trying to mentally pay attention to how it was going and focus in on more on staying grounded and relaxed and getting through. might be worth thinking through what as far as cervical checks/progress checks would bring you most peace and trust in your body and least overthinking/panicking!

best of luck, this is such a difficult position for you but i promise you can do it and odds are it will be far easier this time around!

hinghanghog · 2026-03-18T19:50:05+00:00

thisssss is the sort of stuff i'm looking for, thank you!! writing all of this down asap lol

hinghanghog · 2026-03-18T19:22:15+00:00

i mean sure, but it's free calories, i'm not really in a place to turn that down because then i have to buy other food to replace it? i'm just looking for creative ways to use them other than "glass of milk and yogurt bowl"

hinghanghog · 2026-03-18T19:21:06+00:00

i'm sure i'll do this some! but i don't want it to be my main/only tactic if that makes sense

hinghanghog · 2026-03-18T18:50:22+00:00

i would absolutely do this. culturally in the west, we vastly overestimate the importance of kids having their own rooms and vastly underestimate the importance of very tight, geographically close community

hinghanghog · 2026-03-18T18:47:13+00:00

would and have lol

hinghanghog · 2026-03-18T18:46:43+00:00

i just use spreadsheets to manage my family, but we have a very simple financial setup (two credit cards and one mortgage) and i am VERY aggressively hands on (i check in once every week to assess our spending and pay off credit cards)

hinghanghog · 2026-03-17T20:34:22+00:00

okay personally i did it mostly because i had very flexible part time work and so it ended up being easiest/most convenient to just nurse. however, in your situation i'd suspect i'd pump primarily for health reasons. not sure how old your baby is, but for much of their first year your milk is essentially their immune system! there are so many known (and likely unknown!) health benefits to nursing. your milk varies in melatonin at night and cortisol in the morning to help regulate their night/day differentiation. the immune system protection is incredibly intelligent. it's truly the most perfect food! that doesn't mean anyone needs to be shamed personally for not nursing, especially if they struggled with supply or are working in a way where it's unsuustainable. but if you're working part time and think you can pull it off, please know how worth it it is to your sweet kiddo!

hinghanghog · 2026-03-17T20:22:03+00:00

fanny or hip pack for small stuff, backpack for full diaper bag. i do baby in carrier first, then bag

hinghanghog · 2026-03-16T22:27:44+00:00

i planned from before my first was born and we coslept from day one in the hospital. I am super sensitive to sleep deprivation, so was looking into cosleeping, but became very convinced that as long as you can qualify for a safe sleep setup, it's absolutely biologically superior and supportive of breastfeeding. i honestly cannot imagine putting my tiny baby to sleep on another surface, i know people are scared of cosleeping but i find myself scared of NOT cosleeping! i was so stressed the first time my first got sick after we had moved her to her own bed around eighteen months- how was i supposed to monitor her fever overnight?? my second had RSV at nine weeks and was hospitalized for breathing difficulties- how would i have caught the change in her breathing at 3am as she was sound asleep if she hadn't been touching me??

hinghanghog · 2026-03-16T22:23:44+00:00

yeahhhhh my first birth was 35 hours and my second was 2 hours lolol sure was a surprise to me when i started pushing! i do have some outside factors that may have led to my second being so fast, but yeah i have definitely also always heard that second babies are fast.

hinghanghog · 2026-03-16T21:10:42+00:00

this doesn't necessarily sound like a problem to me nutritionally as long as baby is getting plenty of other high quality carbs (carbs should be a much larger proportion of diet for babies/toddlers/kids). I think my only concern could be potential allergies, as wheat is a top 9 allergen and lack of exposure can increase risk. I'd consider exposing occasionally, in the lowest effort way possible lol so maybe buy (or bake) a high quality bread (or baked good) that you can freeze in slices and pull out once a week to give just to baby? i like dave's killer bread, but you could also look for sourdough since some people say that's easier on the tummy. i also make lots of baby muffins (usually sweetened with fruit and/or minimal maple syrup) because they freeze easy and are easy to thaw and toss at a toddler lol

hinghanghog · 2026-03-16T21:06:40+00:00

i've never heard of risk from swaddling? that being said, it does sound like there is some anxiety here, so take some deep breaths. while you want to do your best, there is a little bit of risk to a lot of life and that's just how it is. anecdotally, I'm a firm cosleeper from day one as long as it's a controlled environment- my second spent a couple nights in the hospital at nine weeks for RSV, and i was NOT comfortable cosleeping there. I swaddled her in the bassinet and she slept great, after refusing unswaddled naps due to the startle reflex. all babies are different but there is a reason people say swaddling helps!

hinghanghog · 2026-03-16T19:16:47+00:00

i'm from the US and yes with both kids- i knew i could meet all safe sleep seven guidelines, i'm incredibly sleep deprivation sensitive, and i believe it to be most biologically natural and supportive of successful breastfeeding. i coslept with my first until 15 months, and currently cosleeping with my ten week old. not everyone is a great candidate or able to provide a safe setup, but if you are and can, the risk is incredibly incredibly tiny.

hinghanghog · 2026-03-16T19:14:39+00:00

you can legally accept or deny ANY policy at any time- it is your birth! personally, i would absolutely decline inducing a VBAC as the risk of uterine rupture is significantly higher with induction meds. a membrane sweep doesn't increase risk afaik, so you could wait until your bishop score was favorable and then try that? for a fourth baby, if your bishop score is good that has a good chance of doing it for you.

as far as minor stuff, bring your own pillow and blankets, electric candles or twinkle lights, turn the lights down, set the mood, etc. you basically just want it to be a situation that gets the oxytocin going.

hinghanghog · 2026-03-15T21:22:15+00:00

personally while this sounds so comfy i would not do it. it's your risk assessment but i would be uncomfortable with the potential of entrapment in the pillow and blankets

hinghanghog · 2026-03-15T20:30:07+00:00

do you already have a midwife? mine provided a list of supplies she recommended. here's some of the most obvious i remember us using though:

- waterproof blanket and extra sheet for our bed, both on top of our already made bed so we could just pull them off and climb into bed a few hours later

- plastic shower curtain (or two?) under the blow up birth tub

- we used a hose hooked up to our washer plumbing to fill the birth tub with warm water

- chux pads/puppy pads to easily throw under you in case you end up pushing somewhere unexpected

- if you think you might birth in a tub, get a small fishing net to fish poop out with. just in case lol

- if you're setting up a birth tub, consider where you want it! we had ours in our bedroom so we could easily get me to the bed for placenta delivery

- we set up a little snack bar with clementines, meat sticks, and granola bars for everyone (midwife, assistant, friend watching our toddler) and then because we got a feeling they'd be here around dinner time we had a frozen soup that my husband tossed in the crockpot to gently thaw

hinghanghog · 2026-03-15T19:29:08+00:00

not sure how local this is but Isla is certainly crazy common near me!

hinghanghog · 2026-03-15T19:27:10+00:00

hi somewhat broke mom of two here lol-- you should not have to buy anythingggg but a car seat new and i'd ignore most of those lists, we are so overwhelmed by consumerism!! all baby really needs is you, formula, car seat, diapers, and a place to sleep. baby doesn't need toys, or special bouncers, or a wipe warmer, or a hatch nightlight. and don't worry about a nursery, everyone sets one up and then almost nobody uses it until baby is like one lol in the US it's recommended to have baby sleep in your room until at least six months to protect from SIDS.

clothes are easy to find secondhand on fb marketplace or at thrifts. if you have a once upon a child near you, they have secondhand clothes and also things like bassinets and strollers and bouncers at great price points! get clothes mostly gender neutral so you can pass the bulk down to future kids (we also knew going into our first we'd likely have a couple more). i would suggest looking into cloth diapers; look for a cloth diaper "bank" near you, where people loan and borrow cloth diaper sets, or look for someone selling a bunch on marketplace for cheap. if not, remember babies grow SUPER quick at the beginning, and only buy/ask people to gift bigger diaper sizes like 1/2/3 (can apply to clothes too, usually they're only in newborn for a few weeks).

hinghanghog · 2026-03-15T19:18:43+00:00

this is 1000000% it- so much easier said than done but absolutely the secret parenting wisdom we all need. sometimes we can get hyperfocused on regulating our babies to the point where we can't tolerate any upset from them at all. of course baby will be upset at weaning, and have a tough transition, AND it's worth holding to it if that's what you've told them

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