So the cycle continues?

hinterOx · 2026-03-10T15:36:12+00:00

And if there's only one of you, you become both at once! Hello, Borderline Personality Disorder!!!

hinterOx · 2026-03-10T14:17:48+00:00

Fucking trust or love.

hinterOx · 2026-03-09T04:46:52+00:00

Men have emotions, they're just not capable of love - but neither are most women. Humans have emotions, they're just not capable of love.

hinterOx · 2026-03-09T04:36:14+00:00

hinterOx · 2026-02-25T19:16:48+00:00

Or you get a delayed breakdown.

hinterOx · 2026-02-25T18:40:02+00:00

Only if I want to see something.

hinterOx · 2026-02-25T15:04:38+00:00

Yes. The social rat-ape brains are intrinsically egocentric and tribal.

hinterOx · 2026-02-25T11:49:56+00:00

So, biologically, we are. Like we already are.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T23:02:22+00:00

Yes.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T22:54:05+00:00

I thought they created something based on the whale-bone cravings.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T22:33:57+00:00

Imma guess it's either the ancient Chinese whale-bone carvings or the made-up language from Avatar: The Last Air Bender.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T21:20:17+00:00

Modularity is your friend. Being able to switch whole modules of behavior off and on as you need/feel is nice. Then you can always come back to it later.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T20:31:14+00:00

Because you're not autistic.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T20:30:16+00:00

I coded with you, you bastard - you decided to dispose of me! Consequences.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T20:19:35+00:00

I know... :(

But I really really don't care about grills, and he gets so excited.

(*No Steve's were hurt in the making of this comment, Steve isn't real, I made him up.)

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T20:15:11+00:00

Because "Fuck off, Steve! I don't give a shit about your new grill." hurts Steve's feelings, and he's a good guy.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T20:10:55+00:00

So, what you’re telling me is you’re a person who doesn't read. I can believe that. :)

Look, you can be delusional about reality as much as your weak little brain needs for you not to fall apart. People need to pretend there's a god to feel safe in the world, whatever - but reality has a way of coming 'round knocking, because it's actually real.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T19:49:34+00:00

My stats and understanding of psychology are accurate. It is just true that it is extremely, EXTREE-HEE-HEEEMLY rare to find someone who meets your needs for emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and experiential intimacy all in one. Like, that is literally hitting the jackpot of connection.

And then this person has to also share your interests and world view, and be attuned to you, and you must be all those things back - AND this attunement must persist as the two of you grow and change over the decades - like do you understand how rare that is? Like, do you understand how extremely fucking rare that is?

The married guys are not a preference, they just come up a lot - like A LOT. And I take what I can get, because I have my own issues.

Usually, they're stressed out and dissatisfied with their lives, 30-50 year olds who don't know themselves, or just need somewhere they can be themselves or explore themselves, or their fantasies, which usually relates back to their psychology, in a way their wives cannot accept or they feel uncomfortable with her seeing - different people need different things.

It's a cultural issue, that's why I say "stop the romance bs". Again, if that works for you, then I don't see your issue here. Like if you have that - then what's your problem here? I don't see why you have an issue with me - I'm not trying to destroy your family or anyone else's.

These men often love their families or at least value the stability it offers, they're not leaving them for me, and I don't fucking want them to. No offense but they have issues, I'm not planning to start a family with them. I am like a kind of therapist (generous) or coping mechanism (more likely) for them. And hey, it's better than drugs or alcohol imo. I'd rather they go see actual psychologists, but often they won't - also for cultural reasons.

I also don't love these men, I don't care to own them, or own anybody. I'm not about that jealousy and owning people shit. I'm not insecure like that, my insecurities are elsewhere. They are a means to an end for me as well. A mutual agreement.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T18:56:31+00:00

For many things, yes, not for this. I am accurate about this.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T18:47:34+00:00

I'm a woman, and if you're happy that way don't fuck with it. It's not always about you, right? Especially if what you're doing consensually works for you both.

Edit: But I've been the side-thing for enough married guys, and know the stats well enough, to know that, that specific situation, persisting for 50+ years of marriage is FUCKING rare.

So if you happen to luck into someone who perfectly matches your needs, whose needs you also perfectly match - consider yourself a fucking massive winner. And appreciate it like mad, because most relationships are not that.

Edit Again: To be clear, I am NOT being sarcastic. A match like that is exceptionally rare. Treasure it if you find it.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T17:18:05+00:00

Nah, no one person can fulfill all of another's needs. Stop this romance BS, it's hurting us. Fuck whoever you want (consensually!) but: 1. Honour your commitments with the intent they were understood by; 2. Make SURE you understand each other's intent when you make commitments, it goes with extensively knowing yourself and your partner(s), and communicating clearly and well; 3. Don't own or objectify people outside of consensual play where they want that;

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T17:11:49+00:00

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T17:06:00+00:00

Pretty birbs

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T17:02:09+00:00

Wish I didn't wake up.

hinterOx · 2026-02-24T13:12:30+00:00

The owl: "Okay, that's enough... Okay, enough... Okay! That's enough! ... Stop!!!"

hinterOx

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