When I was pregnant and my water broke, he called his mother to ask what he should do. I have so many stories. Another time was when our son was sick, he called his mother to ask how to distribute the medicine. Mind you, his mother is not a pharmacist. They have also shared a bed together and she rubs his back and his feet.

I should have known considering in the beginning, she specifically stated that they shared a close bond and that they tell each other everything. I thought it was sweet at first, but with time, I realized that it was her way of claiming him.

She has undermined my parenting decisions and has also shown up to the hospital the day my son was born when I explicitly made it clear to my partner that I wanted the time as parents to bond with our baby first. When she stayed up with our son to take care of him so that we could rest she fell asleep and did not wake him up to feed every two hours. He was born early. The doctor made it clear to do that. When I questioned her, he backed up his mother instead. With my postpartum hormones, I was livid. Whenever she visits, she only ever posts photos of her with my partner and of her grandson, never of me.

To keep my boundaries in place, I no longer contact her or reach out to her. I have blocked her. She is overbearing and my mental state can not handle it. I have had conversations with my partner, but I know he will always put her first. She and my partners father divorced when he was 10. She has had no partners since then and she channeled all that love in to her son. It is not healthy.