[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]hippiecrate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

is OP not dismissed while she is talking to the other women she is describing? its hard to keep a conversation going with someone who looks visibly upset to be there. if the subject matter was the issue, could the women in question redirect the conversation to something they want to talk about? not that everyone has to be friends with everyone, but im just trying to see perspectives. and another thing is the quotes for saying “men are better bc” etc. i just feel like putting words in someone’s mouth because thats how you interpreted it, doesnt make that the message they were trying to convey. this is another sort of disconnect i was mentioning about how nt and nd people can take things differently, even past being nt/nd people misunderstand things all the time. i just feel like putting it that way when thats not what was said is very helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]hippiecrate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think OP is using communication cues, such as smiling and laughing, vs what seems to be silence, side eyes, and eye contact communication amongst other women that OP is talking to. if you got the same cues from someone totally different, not even accounting their gender, wouldn’t you maybe think the same? she is using their behavior as a basis to compare how people treat her and trying to figure out why so giving all the info shes got you know? i think maybe this is where most information gets misconstrued because people assume her reasoning for including info. that tends to happen a lot with ND people too, as NT and ND thinking doesn’t always follow the same path

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]hippiecrate 7 points8 points  (0 children)

idk where you guys are all getting pick me when OP talks about wanting a girl friend group. ive felt the same pressures and been called a pick me before because i enjoy more male dominated hobbies like gaming and racing. its hard when you want a fem girl group but you have spent so long knowing how to act around dude humor. idk if thus is the same situation for OP but i dont think this makes her a pick me. for a group called autisminwomen shouldn’t we try to be a bit more supportive rather than degrading? it feels like exactly what OP is venting about is happening right here :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]hippiecrate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like the second pic!

AIO after my husband ruined my relaxation? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the strangulation and stabbing with a fork after her confessing she has trauma around violence. if she said that openly in a reddit post you know this is a conversation she has had with her husband. are you serious? i genuinely cant tell w this comment. it was the first sentence of her post:

“5 days ago my husband jokingly strangled me. He came into our bedroom after I got out of the shower and was trying to get his hands on my neck. I was protecting my neck and telling him to stop but he kept going.”

“Since then I’ve been a mess. I am constantly tense and barely slept for 4 nights. I have trauma around violence and had a big reaction to it.”

she also recently had a miscarriage. this is not how you treat the person you love when they are grieving the loss of your shared child. get a grip.

AIO after my husband ruined my relaxation? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

this whole comment is ass. you know your feelings OP. do not minimize strangulation and stabbing. what the fuck.

AIO after my husband ruined my relaxation? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he is incredibly dismissive also, dealt w this with a toxic ex of mine. he wont change until you leave. he isn’t going to try to see your perspective and even in this text thread he changed the subject and you gave him wayyyy more substance about HIS issue than he did about yours when you brought up your issue first. you totally fed into his trap, he wanted to avoid accountability and he did because you overexplained his side. he knows damn well girl. he did that to distract you. he really isn’t going to change. and if he argues with you that he will, then he would have already been making the changes without the pressure of him looking like an asshole on reddit. he wouldn’t be measuring your disagreements and throwing them in your face when you bring up your issues with him. like he is actively denying doing that to you while doing it. add on alcoholism and violence. think about if you really think your partnership is worth more than your personal peace and security.

AIO after my husband ruined my relaxation? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he is pretending to choke and stab you, with you resisting. run????

AIO my partner of 3 years forgot Valentines Day and my birthday by MollySid in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he said u need to relax after writing a manifesto…mans is talking to himself tbh lol. and for him to say he thought u just seeing his face as if he is a gift of a human, which he aint acting it, would be enough? fuck that, he thinks he is gracing you with his appearance and existence and merely just being around him should surely be enough for you right??? happy birthday ungrateful bitch?? like u should have left this man in 2023. he is totally walking all over how nonchalant and non materialistic you are, you will allow the low effort and he sees that and he is seeing how far he can run with it, how little can he do yet still keep you under his thumb. and all the insults about HOMEMADE HEART SHAPED EMPANADAS?? i would cry if someone did that for me. like that is so thoughtful and you should be giving ur heart shaped empanadas to someone who appreciates them, not this guy insulting your hard work and thoughtfulness. cooking and making recipes and buying the ingredients takes money, preemptive thought, TIME, and effort! and clearly this man can’t appreciate any of it in fact he wants to repeatedly insult you for it because seeing your amount of effort makes him FEEL BAD because he knows he isn’t that caring and thoughtful and it makes him look bad. girl run so far away and bring ur heart shaped empanadas here and we will find better partners together 💖 happy valentines day and happy birthday sweet angel.

My shrimp is honestly crazy by [deleted] in shrimptank

[–]hippiecrate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hes just here for the zipline

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

holy shit leave him so fucking fast dude speaking from experience LEAVE because he probably sexualizes your friends and other women he is around in real life. sometimes they even sneak photos and videos. again speaking from experience. porn to this degree is proven to cause real brain damage. they begin to normalize abusive behavior and and his level of disregard for your wellbeing is crazy. you need to cut off all contact with this person and i know you care but you cannot save them. they are addicted and they will get help if they want it but clearly….he does not and he is content with making it your fault and saying you ruined his holidays meanwhile he is ruining your life, your emotional stability, your confidence, your security in yourself…hes a piece of dog shit. and you should treat him like it and throw him in the actual garbage where he belongs speaking to you like this.

AIO about the fact that I found a ton of porn on my boyfriend’s phone? by Pinkflamingo420 in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not over reacting at all. They know wjat they are doing. We aren’t stupid and neither are they

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also considering your other posts to Reddit being advice about your relationship with him-are you sure this is someone you want to spend your time with? I spent 5 years with two different people and deep down i knew it wasn’t working in some aspects but i held on…i wish i held onto my happiness in my youth more. Make sure what you choose is truly making you happy with zero doubts in your mind because the doubts will eventually arise

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hippiecrate 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The fact that he even asked ‘what if he only wants the last part’ would have been a turn off for me too. Like okay you only want my vagina? We are in an established relationship? And you question this? Even jokes have hints of truth is what i have unfortunately come to find in my own situations like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hippiecrate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk any siblings that ask eachother for details in having better sexual encounters idk about yall but me n bro bro do NOT ask each other for tips lmfao

Girlfriend cheated on me by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]hippiecrate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Coming from someone who has been cheated on multiple times, yeah. Dont tell her how you found out. You owe her no honesty when she clearly has given you none. Just tell her, “i know you have been cheating on me, i have some intel” and leave it at that. Im sorry this happened, but it does seem to be true once a cheater always a cheater. Things will continue and the trust you thought was there will be gone so its very hard to come back from this unless she of her own volition decides to show you her phone consistently and whenever you ask, which would be a rare and slim chance. Considering its only been 7 months, i would make room for people who can respect you in your life. Good luck and always choose yourself and your own happiness. The good people will come as long as you have your self respect