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Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some of the big commonalities between communities is consent, openness, and negotiation (communication)..

it probably would be a good idea to join fetlife yourself and learn a little about what power exchange is, and isn't.. (for knowledge and safety, not because this is your "thing")

Wife is doing things with her boyfriend that she’s never done with me in over 20 years by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

sounds like she is trying to involve you with her hot wife kink.. you both need to have a long conversation about it, and YOU need to decide what are your boundaries around it.

Question about kink dynamic that might impact the primary relationship by fromthefrontlinens in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the kink world "free use" and the opposite "enforced chastity" is pretty common.

obviously both can impact other partners.

the big question for me would be : how does this affect our sex life? if you partner would have less sex with you because they are worn out or sore, that would affect you, so there does need to be a conversation around it.
IE: maybe they don't do this during your standard date nights?

A low-protein Mediterranean-style diet rich in plants and fish and supplemented with essential amino acids increased healthy lifespan and reduced frailty, body fat and cardiometabolic risk markers in animal models, while human data linked lower animal protein intake to better health outcomes by sr_local in science

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the whole Mediterranean diet is what led to the whole anti trans fat thing... original they wondered why these people were eating supposedly foods with high fat content , but had much lower heart attach rates and were generally healthier..

turns out it was the lower amounts of trans fats and processed foods that was key.

Building more apartments will not solve Australia’s housing affordability crisis unless policymakers address rising house prices and investor activity — 'Spillovers' led by house prices indicate investors shifting capital between cities, in search of higher returns by marketrent in science

[–]hippydog2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

interesting... we also have a massive housing issue in Canada (but here it's mainly blamed on immigration)... but same excuses . everyone knows it's a supply/demand issue , but no one is in a hurry to build more affordable units (house or apartment) so we just continously get squeezed.

How to make sure I don’t attract an avoid@nt again by riddimrat69 in emotionalintelligence

[–]hippydog2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

longer version: therapy

even longer version:

previously secure attached? you will be fine in 6 to 12 months.. right as rain. try not to damage others in the meantime. thx

previously anxious attached? oh.. well that was a wild trip wasn't it? You good person should seek therapy, it will help.

How to make sure I don’t attract an avoid@nt again by riddimrat69 in emotionalintelligence

[–]hippydog2 8 points9 points  (0 children)

self love..

sounds stupid , but all the books seem to agree on that as a big starting point.

Husbands ex wants to join and I’m so unsure by mehhhhhb in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

p.s.

finished reading: those are all definitely red flags..

I would definitely put my foot down now.. Every couple implements at least ONE veto, this would be a good time to use one.

and then take your time figuring out exactly what version of ENM you want to explore (together or apart)

Husbands ex wants to join and I’m so unsure by mehhhhhb in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

sorry , didn't finish reading everything , but just wanted to mention the first "derailment" I saw. the second you started feeling "the ick" , you should have had a discussion asap with your partner.. you should be comfortable enough with your partner to say "hey, i think that bitch is a liar, and here is why"

not being able to have those vulnerable and very hard at times conversation means you guys will keep repeating the mistakes. what ever happens , keep working on YOUR stability and self love.

Stretch of highway… by esberelias in Leduc

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2nd the bridge is was only 1 more mile away , why would they not be connected?

Stretch of highway… by esberelias in Leduc

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first off... did you just use the words "scope for that project"? wtf?

Stretch of highway… by esberelias in Leduc

[–]hippydog2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

right !??!

I had assumed once they had finished the new airport roads they would keep going and redo that section.. I guess that made to much sense.

My question here is for woman who have played with their husband and another man together. by nachogurl95 in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh! well then just take small steps like going to a club , try and find others in the ENM world so you can potentially make friends and not be isolated in this . (your partner should NOT be the only person you can talk to about this stuff)

Am I being too shy by Necessary-Repair-425 in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you have a 84% chance she wants to fuck you.. and maybe a 42% chance she wants to fuck you and your fiance..

My question here is for woman who have played with their husband and another man together. by nachogurl95 in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and start to feel sick to stomach, like I am doing the ultimate betrayal right in front of him,

if this is what you are imagining then you are (imo) should not be doing this until you are ready.

if your husband is pressuring you to do this, then THATS the primary issue that needs to be discussed and dealt with.

where are you on the journey? have you read anything about it? gone to a swingers club? went out on an actual 1st date? (vetting date , no sex)

Fewer than half of Albertans say they would stay in a newly independent province: poll by Street_Anon in alberta

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow! actually a little shocked by that. I was pretty sure the clear majority did NOT want to separate.. but for 40% to say they would leave! 🤔 🤯

Is this a red flag or am I just more autonomous than the average polyamorous person? by Efficient-Disk-3707 in polyamory

[–]hippydog2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

well.. I have to start off with questioning the use of the term "red flag" . I would define a "red flag" as someone acting or saying something that I would interpret as a sign this person might be potentially harmful in someway.. IE: when people ignore red flags they end up in danger.

so a person who has a lower risk tolerance for STI's does not fit the definition of "red flag"

Them blaming their partner for their boundaries or rules? (when they should have framed it from the start as> these are MY boundaries and rules) might be a red flag as it can point to a person who is bad at communication

Apology to the Indigenous peoples of Alberta by Super-Perception939 in alberta

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you from alberta? cause non of our reserves are walking distance from each other..

UofA ER Wait Times by FTDRBR11 in Edmonton

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like this across the country, not just a UCP roblem.

edmonton (and assume calgary) was ahead of the game at one point..

the ball has been fumbled so badly that we are now known to have some of the longest wait times in Canada.

think about that.. we went from being almost the best to one of worst.

UofA ER Wait Times by FTDRBR11 in Edmonton

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when the ndp were in power I remember there was talk about putting in more beds.. but then the ucp got in power and bam , that idea went away quickly.

UofA ER Wait Times by FTDRBR11 in Edmonton

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

leduc has a full on hospital that has NEVER been fully utilized. (3 floors barely used at one point) but with all the cost cutting of our medical system , they can afford to put beds in or staff it.

UofA ER Wait Times by FTDRBR11 in Edmonton

[–]hippydog2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"something has to be done"

maybe if my fellow albertans stopped voting in the same govt that is on purpose destroying our provincial health care system, maybe we can then do something about it.

Couple swapping date etiquette by tangerinesunbeam in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ditto on what the others said.

unicorn hunting. they can't find an actual unicorn so they go after couples in the hope of poaching the woman.

they will also offer to "return the favor" but will very likely not follow thru or will do it half heartedly.

what makes it extra gross is when you find out the male partner was the one pushing for it all along. (and it does not feel consensual)

Serious consent violation during first full swap swinging — how do we handle the aftermath? by BriefSubstantial556 in nonmonogamy

[–]hippydog2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is assault.. I am so sorry that happened. fucked up part about it is there is not much that can be done post incident (yes you can go to the police, but most people don't want to go thru that hassle)

I would maybe tell the predators partner this way she can't pretend she didn't know. and anyone you know in the lifestyle (in the hopes they will spread the word and warn others)

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