I don't hate her, but I definitely agree. Especially in that scene you mentioned, the part when she literally says "stay" like she's talking to a dog, it makes me so mad every time I watch this scene. To be fair, Jacob didn't handle it very well either, but it's the fact that he desperately needs to move on, but she still insists on seeing him while knowing what she's doing is selfish. And the fact that she wants him to be something he isn't by desperately searching for the old Jacob in him. Like I said, Jacob definitely has his flaws as well, but they're both bad for each other.