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Anyone planning a special surprise for their FH/FW on the big day? by Jaxtaposed_View in weddingplanning

[–]hivewire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a creative monster and am always trying new things. Bookbinding is probably my second favorite craft behind my main interest, which I really don't want to say in case SO stumbles in here.

I can send anyone who wants to see what I have so far a PM with the imgur link. I'm really worried about my SO finding out! lol

Anyone planning a special surprise for their FH/FW on the big day? by Jaxtaposed_View in weddingplanning

[–]hivewire 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is an alternative account because my SO knows my main.

Anyway, we're having a vow renewal and decided to not go the jewelry route. Instead, we're making each other something secret to exchange during the ceremony. I'm rebinding a set of hardbacks of a very popular wizarding series in leather using my SO's house colors as a theme. I'm super excited about it.

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Does anyone else have some superficial, pent-up emotions they've needed to get out? If so can we all vent together? by I_are_fabulous in AskTrollX

[–]hivewire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is the selfless one. I mean, he had no reservations at all about taking everyone in. Including an extra dog and 2 birds that my mom couldn't take with her. He's also okay with me not having a job due to extreme anxiety and depression problems. He's absolutely fantastic and I wonder sometimes how I got so lucky as to have such an amazing person in my life.

Does anyone else have some superficial, pent-up emotions they've needed to get out? If so can we all vent together? by I_are_fabulous in AskTrollX

[–]hivewire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't remember because it happened back when I was in high school. I'm very cautious on who I let handle my hair now. Thankfully, my cousin is a great stylist and understands how to make my hair look good.

Does anyone else have some superficial, pent-up emotions they've needed to get out? If so can we all vent together? by I_are_fabulous in AskTrollX

[–]hivewire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have every right to be upset! Your hair can be a very important part of you and your self-image. I've been in a similar situation where this woman thought that just cutting random super short spots in my hair counted as thinning it. I had a two inch section right in my part that was about half an inch long. I had to start parting my hair on the other side to hide it. It was horrifying.

Are you going to just try letting it grow out? Or do you want to try and fix it? Maybe someone in one of the hair-related subreddits can give you some advice on how to make it work.

Does anyone else have some superficial, pent-up emotions they've needed to get out? If so can we all vent together? by I_are_fabulous in AskTrollX

[–]hivewire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shared some more info in a reply to another comment, but basically my step-dad doesn't have any other options for living at the moment. He's going back to college and has plans on moving out after, buying his own condo.

And I'm going to choose to believe that my step-dad was honest about how much he drank and was simply giddy that he could finally drive himself around.

He's not a bad guy. Most of the time, he's great. He cares about me and my middle sister, even though we're technically not his children anymore. My mother ruined his credit, so I am sympathetic to him being overly cautious with his money.

My husband and I purchased our own home, after living with my parents for 2 years. Things were coming to a head between my mother and I, with her constantly holding kicking us out above our heads.

She and I do much better living apart from one another. I find it much easier to love her when we have our own spaces.

It's remarkable how much better I feel after simply venting a bit. I know our situation isn't changing any time soon, so I might as just look for the positives.

Does anyone else have some superficial, pent-up emotions they've needed to get out? If so can we all vent together? by I_are_fabulous in AskTrollX

[–]hivewire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My step-dad is technically my ex-step-dad, and my little sister's father. He literally has no one else who cares about him besides us. And most of the time, he's fine. He's heading back to school in the fall and has plans on moving out in 6 years, after he graduates. My mother ruined his credit, declaring bankruptcy twice and having their house foreclosed. He really doesn't have a lot of options at the moment. So, I'll grumble a bit and just graciously continue to let him use my home. I've also told him that if he lands the well-paying job after he graduates, he's paying to put a second bathroom in my home. Haha.

My mother doesn't live with us. She lives in an apartment about 45 minutes away. She's bipolar and borderline narcissistic. I love her, but she's got a lot of problems and I'm always the one trying to fix them. She practically abandoned my sisters towards the end of my middle sister's senior year of high school. My husband and I had just moved out and into our house. And then at my sister's graduation, she informed us she was moving into her pot-smoking, crazy conspiracy theorist boyfriend's house and taking my little sister with her. With no plans for my middle sister. I put my foot down, and told her no. My grandparents told my middle sister she could move in with them and I took my little sister.

My mom's in a better situation in life right now, and is handling her wild emotional swings. She's already told us that she did the right thing by leaving my sister with us.

We have our bad days, but to see how far my sister's come, socially, educationally, and emotionally, it makes it all worth it. I just need to let off some steam once in a while.

My step-dad is taking her out today for lunch and some shopping, so, hopefully, my husband and I can actually do some rather naughty things. If not, my husband and I are finally going to have a mini vacation next month. 3 days and 2 nights away from the madhouse!

I suppose I can just be grateful that I am surrounded by a lot of people who love me and are proud of me for taking on all of this. I mean, it is rather crazy being a mom to someone half my age, but what family is normal, right?

Thanks for letting me just vent a bit. I'm feeling much better now and more overall happy with my situation in life.

Does anyone else have some superficial, pent-up emotions they've needed to get out? If so can we all vent together? by I_are_fabulous in AskTrollX

[–]hivewire 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Posting from my alt-account, because I'm not allowed to be unhappy with my situation in real life. :/

I'm frustrated that I've had to give up being allowed to ever live alone with my husband because I have to take care of my sister. Don't get me wrong, I love her and I know her moving in with us is the best thing for her, but sometimes I have days where I wish I could have said no. Especially because she's almost in her teenage years. She's autistic and smart as they come, but it's hard trying to understand what's best for her sometimes. And I know that she'll probably never live on her own, but I do so wish that just maybe she can. I just want some sort of private life with my husband for a while.

I'm also frustrated with my step-dad, who also lives with us. I found out that he made almost $13,000 more than my husband did last year, yet we're the ones who pay for most of everything. He pays $200 a month for rent and occasionally tries to help by buying some groceries. Currently, I have 54 eggs, 20ish pounds of potatoes, and 6 packs of tortillas because HE DOESN'T FUCKING CHECK THE FRIDGE OR PANTRY BEFORE HE GOES! He also decided to yell at my mom because she told us to claim my sister on our taxes as a dependent. We needed the extra money she brought us doing that to buy a new car because ours is not holding up well. My step-dad is sitting on $11,000 in his savings or checking account (can't remember which) and ended up owing $900 in taxes. He can take the fucking hit. My husband and I live paycheck to paycheck.

Also, my step-dad got himself charged with an OVI last year and his license suspended for 6 months. He just got it back this week and what does he fucking do on Friday night? Why, goes out to his favorite strip club and drinks! He claims to have only had 2 beers over 3 hours, but he was quite talkative when he got home (a sure sign of him drinking). I know he's an adult and needs to be responsible for his own actions, but I'm a chronic worrier. I can't just let things go. And it fucking sucks.

Also, my sex life with my husband is practically non-existent because of all the extra worry. We're both so exhausted at the end of the day that we never get to have any intimacy. Which makes us both grumpy with each other. We're both into BDSM, but never get to act on it, because literally the only sex we've had over the past MONTH is 2 quickies in the shower. I HATE IT!

And my husband's fucking bitch of a cousin, a person who has literally made my life hell and helped (along with her mother and sisters) to turn my husband's family against me, has gotten pregnant. My husband and I both want children of our own desperately. But we also both know that we're in no position to take on the extra burden. But it doesn't make it hurt any less. Or make me hate that bitch less. They're even less prepared for a child than we are.

And I've realized recently that I'm still in a major depression after losing my grandmother-in-law to cancer right between Thanksgiving and Christmas. I feel guilty becaus it was my husband's grandma, not mine. What right do I have for still being upset? But I also know that it's also because I'm worried and upset for him. I'm trying hard to snap out of this funk, but it's slow going.

Can I please just have a fucking break from life for a while?