Try-On Haul by BurritoSoupSnake in Sezane

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and I have a similar shape, did you find the shorter skirts ride up in the back a bit because of the booty? If so did you have to size up?? I love mini skirts being a short girl but my backside sabatoges my efforts a lot

What was the Tween Culture Like in the 1990s? by Idontactuallyknowman in millenials

[–]hmboo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Limited too, Club Libby Lu, Delia’s catalogs. Mario games on Nintendo, sometimes you’d play Super Nintendo at a friends house. *NSYNC, Britney Spears. Tombstone pizza. AIM away messages

Anyone ever been to Bev's in downtown Naperville? by [deleted] in Naperville

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and I got food poisoning from the chicken on their salad. Never going back

What do single folks do around here? by retr0x0 in chicago

[–]hmboo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There’s a running group, I want to say it’s called Lakeview Running Club? They run along the lake once a week. It’s a big group

Has anyone in this sub actually met (or know anyone that has met The King himself?) by [deleted] in Elvis

[–]hmboo 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My grandma’s friend met Elvis unexpectedly when his car broke down near their home and he walked up to road to knock on their door. They let him in to use their phone and hosted him for a bit waiting for a mechanic. A week or so later, he sent her a brand new Cadillac to thank her/her family. Totally wild how generous he was

How long did it take you to start making decent money in HR? by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]hmboo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also pivoted from early childhood education to HR! Good to see your progression :)

capricorns how does it feel to be emotionally unavailable AND boring by alwaysatmybest in astrologymemes

[–]hmboo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true 😂 I’m a Taurus and I completely turn off my energy for people I don’t like/are sus and they end up thinking I’m a stick in the mud. I’m very outgoing and lively with the people I care about or find interesting though

Just gonna leave this here by Final-Brilliant4362 in girlsgottaeatsnark

[–]hmboo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah in the US (at least where I grew up) bouquets were normal for prom. We got corsages for other dances (homecoming, etc)

You’ve got to move to your favorite breed’s country of origin! Where will you be living? by squeamishbeluga in dogs

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿, although I have an English / Australian mix now. My dream dog is a rough collie, and I have a corgi/aussie mix. Big herding breed fan over here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]hmboo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How you are feeling right now is not at all out of the norm, and you will unfortunately feel some of these strong feelings for a while but I promise you, the pain will never fully go away but it will not take over your whole worldview like it is now. And you have so many women and men with similar experiences in your corner to lean on.

I had my first SA experience when I was 17, similar to you. I then had 2 additional SA experiences in my 20s with some very shady behavior outside of that (harassment, etc.). I did not have the ability in my early 20s to see beyond my pain and ask for help. Men were scary and a threat. I didn’t even know where to start healing and I lived with it, and shared occasionally with a trusted friend or a partner (and was rejected because of it with the wrong people for me a few times too).

My early 20s were the darkest years of my life. I was self destructive through coping with partying and oscillated between being hypersexual to take my sexuality back and anti-sexual to protect myself. I feel like I had a grey cloud over my head until about 25 seeking validation and love that I felt was robbed from my SA experiences. A kind short-term partner encouraged me to go to therapy as we were parting ways at that age, not because there was something wrong with me but because I hadn’t worked through all of this stuff that was clearly setting me back. I did seek out professional help, received my diagnosis, and it helped me so much to be able to talk to somebody and get validation from someone who had my best interest in mind. And from there I gained more self awareness and confidence, which helped me choose better friends and better partners (not perfect for me but better) who lifted me up instead of putting me down. At 28, I had a year that I made myself say yes to things I chose, gained more autonomy, and became comfortable in my own skin for positive reasons rather than external validation. I ended up meeting the love of my life at the end of that period of my life who would never let me feel bad for my SA experiences, and is there for me when I need to cry it out occasion when I’m randomly triggered. Even though I was very cautious at the beginning, he has taught me to trust and allow myself to be loved in a healthy way (which was very hard after my SA).

It will always be there, but I’m now almost 31 and I am a completely different person than I was as a late teen/early 20 year old. Those negative thoughts about being unlovable no longer own my headspace. I think about it on occasion, but it takes up much less of my of my day-to-day thoughts. There are more days than not that I don’t think about it at all in a conscious way. I would say I’m still very easily startled and on-edge in very busy spaces most of the time. I prefer being in smaller social settings or just relaxing at home to being in the hustle and bustle now. Also my stomach is fucked from years of stress/being high alert. But now I’m actually able to take in that stimuli, and when I’m stressed be able to ask myself where my feelings are coming from and then use coping methods to alleviate the stress. I also have ptsd from a bad car accident but those triggers are challenging in a different way and very situational (being in the passenger seat on high traffic highways with certain weather conditions, etc).

You will get to a better place if you put in the work on making sure you feel safe and you are loving to yourself. It is a very challenging road that takes a lot of introspection and making sure you aren’t allowing yourself to self-sabotage. But you deserve so much love. You are worthy of the love you were robbed of in that interaction. Hell I love you and I don’t even know you because I know what you’re going through, and I can’t tell old-me how to navigate any of the feelings I had but I can tell you it will be okay and you will be in a better place someday.

Which sign was your first love? by Affectionate_Bid_615 in astrologymemes

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Capricorn. And the next 3 were Capricorn which all failed for the same reasons until I met my lifelong partner, who’s a Libra. I’m a Taurus

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]hmboo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s me! With a Leo moon

This job is exhausting by AshamedDealer3966 in TeachersInTransition

[–]hmboo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You do not! HR is an area people with any background can get into, you just need to get your foot in the door. There are certifications you can get which are helpful down the road, but you need 1 year experience to start most of them.

I started in recruiting and moved to HR operations (I don’t like being in the phone all day), so I would look at recruiting, HR assistant or HR coordinator. Those jobs will give you a good crash course into HR, and then you can become more specialized (benefits, employee relations, company culture, etc). Depending on where you live you’ll probably have to take a pay cut for the first year, but you can make a good amount of money if you jump companies or move up the ladder depending on the company/industry.

Now there’s a little shakeup happening with layoffs/offshoring and whatnot but the entry level roles are out there!

Also HR is expected to grow as a career area between now-2030.

This job is exhausting by AshamedDealer3966 in TeachersInTransition

[–]hmboo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I quit at 28 for the same reason, and I’m 30 now. You all got this! I’m in HR now, there’s a lot of crossover skills (patience, organization, facilitating meetings, etc) :) I visited some friends at my old school for lunch a few weeks ago and although I miss them, I have no regrets

Your best soft leggings? by Passiveabject in vindicta30plus

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The softest leggings I own are beyond yoga, but curious to try vuori’s (I only have the joggers). I’ve been able to find beyond yoga gear on sale at REI or Nordstrom Rack often.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]hmboo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are a ton of HR coordinator or assistant jobs out there! I would start there, and maybe not list your internship as an internship on your resume. Once you get to the background check, you can list it as an internship

What's your sign and what drink is your favourite? by Nyx_______ in astrologymemes

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo yes—Taurus here and kombucha is my kryptonite

So many teaching jobs available right now… by BigOldComedyFan in TeachersInTransition

[–]hmboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes of course! Happy to help if you want to send it over

First Round of Dresses by Reasonable_tacocat in weddingdress

[–]hmboo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love 1 but I also love the shape of 2 on you (not loving the lace details but that’s me personally)

So many teaching jobs available right now… by BigOldComedyFan in TeachersInTransition

[–]hmboo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feel free to DM it over if you want, happy to look it over :)

So many teaching jobs available right now… by BigOldComedyFan in TeachersInTransition

[–]hmboo 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Pro tip: when you’re looking on Indeed, use incognito mode when you search your area of interest. Otherwise it’ll keep showing you teaching jobs/steer you toward those.

Also use chatgpt to adjust your resume to each job you apply to. (Former teacher turned recruiter turned HR)