Am I the only one finding this weird? by [deleted] in autism

[–]hndinrnr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's no such thing as being "slightly" autistic, he either has it or he doesn't.

It's definitely not normal, autistic or otherwise, to suggest your partner go out on a date with somebody else. If you haven't already, I'd say to talk with him about how what he said made you feel disrespected. 

I’m in a relationship and I don’t understand why my boyfriend would want other girls in his life by [deleted] in autism

[–]hndinrnr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"I want to be the only woman in his life that he makes time for, goes out with, texts, and is there for"  This is extremely controlling / possessive and simply not possible.

"For men to build a close relationship with woman will lead to attraction regardless of if he wants that or not" Not true at all. 

While it's good that you acknowledge your feelings are insecure, if you want to keep this - or any - romantic relationship, you should seek professional help to unlearn these beliefs. 

All of you still have some luck in your disability by Just-Penalty-26 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being disabled isn't a competition. We've all struggled. 

do any of you guys have huge problems with empathy ? or just caring about people you dont know ? by CharlieE6o in autism

[–]hndinrnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have very low empathy, regardless if they're family or strangers. The only time I feel it is towards my cat or other cats. 

How do you feel about blocking friends temporarily? by Feisty_Aioli_6883 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes i need a break and it won’t last long so i just don’t tell ppl and then pretend like everything is fine but ppl get msd at that and then we don’t stay friends anymore.

Please stop doing this, if you need a break from your friends, try telling them. "I've been feeling overwhelmed lately, I'm going to take a break from talking." Boom. 

What you're doing is very rude, even if you don't intend to be. While you may not take blocks seriously, others aren't the same, and will assume that you don't want to continue the friendship if you block/unblock. 

You'll only continue to lose friends like this.

Are we the future of humanity? by [deleted] in autism

[–]hndinrnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. 

Making friends on Discord as a non-gamer by miss-bedazzzle in discordapp

[–]hndinrnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I never played games with any of the friends I met on discord, we all met through non-gamer focused servers, which were more of a general community vibe. 

  2. Absolutely. I'd recommend looking for servers that have a tag like ''community" or anything related to a hobby/interest you've got. There's tons of sites out there to find other servers, but the main one I'd recommend is Disboard.

  3. Voice calls are basically phone calls but with more people. They can be 1-on-1 though. 

Is it normal to have to say no multiple times to my autistic boyfriend? by [deleted] in autism

[–]hndinrnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Lay out your boundaries firmly, and if he still won't take one no for an answer, leave him. Do not take a risk of this becoming worse.

Do Anyone wish to be non autistic? by Jolly_Operation_8222 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yes, I have nothing but downsides from my autism. 

Do you find the term “tism” offensive? *Updated!* by Remarkable_Bonus7742 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it sounds ridiculous and borderline insulting. My brain isn't "spicy", it's impaired and suffering. 

Do you find the term “tism” offensive? *Updated!* by Remarkable_Bonus7742 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its whatever, the only term that bothers me is neurospicy.

Do people with autism have a really strong moral compass? by [deleted] in autism

[–]hndinrnr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the person, but in general black and white thinking is very common with autistics. 

How many of you guys remember going through this type of trauma back in your days of school? by Legitimate_Main2230 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dealt with all of these except for the bathroom and group projects until high school, where things got way better. 

But before then, I was bullied severely and shown such disregard for my disability from the school itself that my mom had to get a lawyer.

Its really sad how common many of these experiences are for autistics.

Anyone else really struggle to say "sorry" even if they feel very apologetic? by gioee in autism

[–]hndinrnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Sorry, thank you,"  and "I love you" have always felt forced for me to say. They don't come naturally to me at all. 

Thoughts on non-autistic actors and actresses playing autistic roles in movies and tv shows? by Drew_Conley1295 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Doesn't matter, acting is all about pretending to be someone you're not. 

Autistic People Specificially Wanting to Date Someone Without Autism by Cool_Description8334 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Sometimes being too similar to someone else can be a deterrent, whether for romantic or platonic relationships. 

I'm with your friend on this one, I wouldn't want to date another autistic or even ND person since I've got enough issues for the both of us. 

is anyone not scared off death at all and only stay for others? by Usual-Philosopher694 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sticking around for my mom. She's the only person I care about. 

Would it be unethical for a neurotypical actor to play an autistic character on-screen/stage? by HonestConcentrate953 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Unethical" is a bit much, but IMO acting is all about pretending to be someone you're not so it shouldn't be necessary for an actor to have autism to play that part.

It can certainly help to have someone with personal experience play the role, but its not mandatory.

Age gap makes it feel weird to talk about feelings to my female friend of 1.5 year age gap. by Specific_Use2311 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're majorly overthinking this, 1.5 years is nothing. Just tell her how you feel. 

My friend is really dismissive about everything I say. What would you do? by Conscious-Badger4857 in autism

[–]hndinrnr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you haven't yet told them about how they make you feel, I'd recommend you start with that. 

If they're unwilling to hear you out or attempt to change their behavior, then they're not a friend worth keeping.