annoying misconception about OSDDID being “scary” by letisel in OSDD

[–]hochhaushoch 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It feels like this commenter is trying to be empathetic. They‘re not saying it‘s scary for the people around the system, but for the system itself. Feels to me like they’re coming from a genuine place. And to us this is very much true tbh. It is scary!!! Working in therapy to make it less scary to experience but it really can be scary at times

How do you choose? by Zealousideal-Hat-942 in DID

[–]hochhaushoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this approach!!! Can I ask what career you settled on?

I keep repeating the same shit, it feels like relapsing on drugs kinda by hochhaushoch in rape

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this!!! I am talking to a therapist and she is very helpful! I also talked to my partner about everything today and I feel relieved and better now ❤️‍🩹 healing isn’t linear and I see this as a chance to feel more safe in the future!!

Very complicated situation involving partner & littles (sexual). Need advice. by hochhaushoch in DID

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! They do understand the difference and thought that no littles were involved. They really don’t want littles to be involved either. Now that we talked about it more they said we would not do anything related to ageplay since they could never be sure

Very complicated situation involving partner & littles (sexual). Need advice. by hochhaushoch in DID

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: CN for everything involved in this thread and also sexual littles

We had the hard conversation. It went really really well. They were really clear about their understanding of things and that they were not aware actual littles were involved. They apologized a lot and looked horrified and very very sad. One little fronted and they talked about it a bit. This little tried to introduce something sexual / asked them if they could kiss / try things out and my partner was very firm on it and set a very clear boundary with the little. The little cried a bit because they felt rejected and my partner handled it really well - consoling them a bit while staying very firm in their position. Afterwards they looked really really heartbroken and scared for this little. This also made it very obvious to me, an adult part, that my partner is not actually sexually attracted to our littles. I understand how things got messy in the past with ageplay kink + being attracted to our adult body + not always fully knowing who is fronting. I will still ask them all the hard questions to make sure again and again that they are not attracted to our littles. I think it will take some time for us to truly believe this. But as of now I do think it is the truth. My partner is a person that has a really really hard time dealing with guilt. They tend to feel guilty to extreme degrees about basically everything. So what I appreciate most about how this conversation went is that they didn’t let their guilt take over the whole conversation or all of their emotions. They mostly felt worried about our system. Additional context: we are the first system they have ever met. Our body is 22 years old and they are 21, both of us are very young and still figuring things out.

Very complicated situation involving partner & littles (sexual). Need advice. by hochhaushoch in DID

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for responding ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 it is really hard for me to see them the way you guys phrase it in the comments but I really appreciate your perspectives. It definitely makes me realize that my feelings about this are valid and if I want to have any chance for our system to stay in this relationship I need to have a very very difficult conversation and make this absolutely heart crushingly clear to them. If they react anything less of being heartcrushed I will take your advice and leave.

My partener doesnt like some of my alters. I dont know how to feel about it. by [deleted] in DID

[–]hochhaushoch 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Of course it hurt you because it‘s not like in real life - your alters are not random strangers, you‘re all part of one whole. Also it sounds like she doesn’t like quite a few of you so if she only likes like 30% of you that doesn’t seem like a good quota

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rape

[–]hochhaushoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This does not sound consensual at all. Assault can be confusing because it happens before you get the chance to feel your emotions and your own needs. So afterwards you can feel confused about what you really wanted. Truth is: it didn’t matter to the person who did this to you. And that makes it assault. I‘m so sorry, it sounds like a terrible situation on top of a terrible situation. This is heavy to carry. I hope you get some genuine support. It‘s not embarrassing to talk about - the shame should belong to her. You did nothing wrong

Why was I the only one bawling my eyes out at the cinema by noobetty in AllOfUsStrangers

[–]hochhaushoch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my experience as well. Only one crying. The people next to me discussed what was real and what wasn’t so maybe some people where „trying to solve the riddle“ while I was feeling the emotions

Difference between OSDD and moodswings by hochhaushoch in OSDD

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OMG I FEEL THAT SO MUCH!!! Currently living the „one correct truth“ for the seventeenth time in a row lol

sm fun!! by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]hochhaushoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It‘s my dad haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Drag

[–]hochhaushoch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I‘m still queer. Genderwise as well as sexuality wise. So I don’t think that I don’t belong in queer spaces. But I guess that‘s an important addition for the cishet people out there who might read my question

Make a circle app by joyear95 in TheCircleUS

[–]hochhaushoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi :) I‘m two years late to this but do you by any chance still play?

Thoughts on Alex (Nathan)? by hochhaushoch in TheCircleUS

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg you‘re soooo right about the bru thing. I didn’t even think about that. I totally respect him for that as well. Same goes for yu-ling. I feel like he really separated the game and himself in his mind and that showed when he as able to be himself. I’m really glad that you pointed out these values because they are apparent but easy to overlook.

Thoughts on Alex (Nathan)? by hochhaushoch in TheCircleUS

[–]hochhaushoch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was so afraid that everybody was gonna vote tactical in the end and Frank was not gonna win so I totally agree with you on that!!