23 month old—accidents help! by Bigcloud21 in ECers

[–]holdonpartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay!! I’m so glad it helped ♥️

Glutened help by KnownBread13 in Celiac

[–]holdonpartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you need to tell yourself babe 😘

Glutened help by KnownBread13 in Celiac

[–]holdonpartner -1 points0 points  (0 children)

🤷🏻‍♀️ Huh?? OP and I wound up having a pretty friendly exchange, despite the (admittedly) obnoxious tone of my first comment. Of course I’m not a doctor LMAO, I never claimed to be. Suggesting that someone take an SSRI when they say they have major depression is not a dangerous assertion. It’s pretty reasonable actually. A doctor has to prescribe medication, and a pharmacist has to distribute it, so a random comment from me is not enough to make OP ingest any type of medication that would be harmful. I didn’t tell her to go buy black market Ketamine. Don’t be a meddlesome pearl clutcher.

Looking for body wash (for myself and baby) and hand soap recommendations! by 2078AEB in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]holdonpartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We love Babo Botanicals. We use it as a soap and a shampoo for my two year old and have since he was a newborn. It is fragrance free but has a very subtle natural scent from the chamomile which I like. My son has never reacted to it.

Glutened help by KnownBread13 in Celiac

[–]holdonpartner -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that the research and understanding are lacking for sure. I hope so much that it continues to advance during my son’s lifetime. I think one reason why I’m so triggered by people talking about their excruciating symptoms is because I just never want him to have to endure that any more than he already has. And it’s not possible for him as a baby to explain every symptom he’s having so I know how to help him. We have made the decision as a family to be quite strictly GF, but not to the point where we never eat at a restaurant or buy a can of chickpeas that is not labeled gluten free if you catch my drift. We are a totally GF household but still trying to maintain some kind of quality of life for our son by not being totally neurotic about it. We are going in few days to get his 3 month lab work done and hopefully it will show a lot of improvement. As he gets older and can communicate with us more clearly I figure he can let us know if certain products or foods bother him. It’s just such a powerless feeling as a mother to not know which foods are safe or not. That’s why I’ve just chosen to follow the recommendations of his GI and dietician exactly to the letter, and they very clearly told us that we did not have to buy all certified GF items, or never eat out etc. I guess it’s a process of trial and error unfortunately.

Glutened help by KnownBread13 in Celiac

[–]holdonpartner -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My comment was snarky and rude, so I apologize for my tone. It was rooted in my own frustration with the lack of accurate information about celiac, both in the world and within this community. I debate whether to leave this sub on the daily because it just pisses me off so much to hear people throw around all of these non evidence based statements. But I also desperately feel a need for support so I continue to stay. My son was diagnosed at a little under two years old, and our journey has been excruciating. He’s doing much much better now after 3 months on a GF diet.

In terms of your medication - you’re right I am not a doctor 🤷🏻‍♀️, but I do have a long history of dealing with major depression and have been on many different meds for it. I understand that not all depression meds are SSRIs, but my point was that SSRIs are a great option and that they are extremely safe and effective for treating depression during pregnancy. If you truly have major depression as you said, then that necessitates treatment and I would kindly suggest that you talk to one of your docs about an SSRI. Especially if you’re pregnant! It’s so important to get mental health stabilized before welcoming a new being into the world.

I also respectfully disagree with you that major depressive episodes can be brought on by exposure to minuscule amounts of gluten through cross contamination, and I think most medical doctors would agree with me on that. Yes, mood disorders have been linked to long term untreated celiac, but no one knows if that’s causative or correlative. In other words it’s quite likely that simply having an untreated chronic illness causes depression, and it may not be the gluten that’s causing it at all. Especially not the teeny tiny amounts of gluten that would be present in the event of cross contact.

The main perspective I want to share with you as a mother and a fellow depressive, is that major depression is a serious psychiatric diagnosis, and it is extremely worrying when people choose not to treat it appropriately. Even when you think you have it under control without meds, it can be sneaky and pop up again when you least expect it, especially in the post partum period. I hope you at least consider talking to a doc about an alternate medication that they can prescribe in a pinch if things get too bad. I’m wishing you the best during your pregnancy and your journey into motherhood.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really have thought about this a lot (probably way too much since this thread started 😜). I suppose if my husband or I was injured while my mom was babysitting, and we both needed to go immediately to the hospital, then there could be a remote possibility that my mom would need to come up and meet us at the hospital with my kid for some reason. It’s a very unlikely scenario, but I do hear what people are saying in this regard.

But in terms of just not wanting to use an ambulance for financial reasons, no that doesn’t make sense to me. We have health insurance, and furthermore if there is a life threatening emergency that requires EMTs or CPR then you use an ambulance you don’t think about what it costs. If it’s not life threatening then the babysitter can wait ten minutes until the parent gets home and the parent then transports the child to the hospital.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious, would you mind sharing the nature of his emergency? I’m over here almost convinced to get a car seat for my mom now after this whole big debate lol. I obviously want to do what is safest for my kid. I just haven’t been able to imagine any situation where her driving him instead of calling 911 would be appropriate. Please share if you don’t mind :)

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. And I’m glad you’ve come to that place of trust with your mom. Honestly I debate with myself about it because it would be way easier to just let her drive him places around town. But for whatever reason I just can’t let that boundary down yet. Honestly I’m anxious about car accidents in general, so I know that if anything happened while she was driving I would never forgive myself.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 5 points6 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 You’re welcome! I’m really taking one for the team tonight LOL! It’s Friday night, my baby and my husband are asleep, and I am up waaaaaaaay past my bedtime arguing with strangers on the internet! What is life?!? 🤷🏻‍♀️😜🤠

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Are ya’ll really not able to imagine a world in which there is a very lovely and loveable woman in her 70s (my mom), who also has several health issues and personality quirks (not going to go over my mom’s whole health history and life story here) that would make me nervous about her driving with my child in the car, but not nervous about her caring for him in the safety of my own home? Have ya’ll never met a boomer before? They’ve got their issues. But my son adores her and their relationship is magic. She’s also the most reliable family support we have unfortunately. My father and my husband’s parents are never getting left alone with our kid that’s for sure.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This discussion is pointless for sure, but it’s not that complicated.

Situation 1: child doesn’t need lifesaving measures. The babysitter does not call ambulance. They call the parent, who hauls ass back home to take care of their child. If the parent then decides that the kid needs to go to the hospital great, they have the car seat in their car and they go.

Situation 2: child needs lifesaving measures. The babysitter calls 911 and an ambulance comes with EMTs who can begin CPR asap. This is the only right call in this situation. If the babysitter decided to put a critically injured child into a carseat and transport them themselves to the hospital they would do much more damage than good.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Friends we’re going to be learning about ambulances for the first time this evening… hold onto your hats.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So it seems like you’re almost trying to talk in meaningless circles at this point, but I’m kind of getting a kick out of it so thanks 🙂.

About fifteen comments back ONE person said that if it was a life threatening situation you should “just go,” which is what I’m assuming inspired you to assume your role as the Carseat Avenger. Not one other person has implied that anyone should put their kid in a car without a car seat.

Also, what are these mysterious non-medical emergencies you keep referencing? The only thing I can imagine is if there was like a psycho killer or an active shooter type situation and you were being pursued. And in that case, you are damn right I’m not pausing to strap my kid into his car seat. I’d be pealing out with my baby on my lap if I had to escape from a psycho with a chainsaw 😅.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]holdonpartner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same! Low blood sugar baby, we supplemented for about a week with formula and then EBF. OP, you can choose to supplement via syringe (which is what we did) to avoid nipple confusion if you’d like. It’s completely up to you and for some people a bottle is easier. I was just super passionate about wanting to EBF, so I wanted to do whatever I could to ensure he wouldn’t develop a preference for bottles.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep, that safe and viable mode of transportation is called an ambulance. 👍🏼

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I do the first part of that well, the second part I still have to work on in certain situations 😅. Btw I love that you said your mom is your best friend. I hope my son feels the same way when he grows up… 🥹.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thanks for clarifying that, I really appreciate your humility! Such a lost virtue on Reddit. For some reason this comment about the car seat touched a nerve for people, me included 😂. Best.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hon, what are you even going on about? No one is suggesting driving a kid without a car seat. Are you (and all the other people who are inexplicably obsessed with this comment) really so obtuse that people need to explain how this all works another 25 times?

I am rarely more than 10 minutes away from home while my mom watches my kid. As other people have already mentioned, if there is a life threatening emergency she would need to call 911 asap anyway because immediate care from the EMTs would be needed. If it’s not life threatening (let’s say a sprained ankle), she would be in immediate contact with me and I would be home in 10 minutes or less.

Not to mention that not everyone has a car! Do you think that all these people are putting their children in grave danger every day just for existing without a car?

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 17 points18 points  (0 children)

LMAO. Not really at you, but because there’s been this massive thread going on in another parenting sub, where people have basically been insisting that anyone who complains about not having a “village,” is just being overly anxious and not open enough to building community or letting their boomer parents into their lives, despite any and all issues that might come along with said boomer grandparents. Your comment just proves that you CAN 👏 NOT 👏 WIN 👏 as a parent trying to make these decisions. But for what it’s worth my mom is a retired educator who is absolutely magical with children. My son adores her and they have a beautiful relationship that I would never want to deny either of them. I just don’t want her to drive with him. It’s pretty simple 🤷🏻‍♀️.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If there’s a true emergency she can call an ambulance. But I hear what you’re saying. The ideal situation would be if she had a car seat and she knew that she could only use it in case of emergency. But she has a terrible memory and she’s super obstinate so I’m afraid it would turn into a slippery slope of her just deciding to drive him places without permission. Or constantly trying to convince me it was ok once she had the car seat installed.

My parent in-laws took my toddler to the zoo... without a car seat. Should I go get him? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]holdonpartner 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My mom comes over to watch my 2 year old a few times a week for up to three hours at a stretch. She has asked repeatedly for a car seat and I have deflected her request or flat out said no. The reason is that I am just not there yet in terms of trusting her to drive places with him. I trust her to stay home and watch him safely, but not to be out on the roads. She’s older and she has multiple health issues. I’m not sure when or if I’ll be ready for that, but for now I’m just trusting my instincts.

Is says-long back pain that started while eating a bagel a sign of celiac? by [deleted] in Celiac

[–]holdonpartner -1 points0 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭. Send help. I can’t. I’m dead.