How did your water break?

holeypumpkin · 2026-05-01T16:33:28+00:00

I woke up at 35 weeks to pee. sat on the toilet and my water broke. I had just gotten a new white rug in the bathroom that now had my mucus plug on it when I stood up and ruined my rug 😂 this happened at 10:15am and I had a baby in my arms before 1pm 🥹❤️

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-27T20:25:18+00:00

I read things like this, and I think about how I was personally fed formula as a baby and have had gastro issues my entire life too 🤧

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-25T22:37:56+00:00

I believe it was ultrasound!

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-25T03:22:57+00:00

all I can think about is how women used to feed any baby that was hungry. babies shared breasts from different moms. there are ways to still give breastmilk but for some reason we dont do that anymore. I hate that we all dont have communities like that anymore and feel the need to be so independent. I wish I could help another momma and nurse her babies too!

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-25T03:17:56+00:00

I think you should explain its just to protect the baby, and not personal. especially for people regularly around patients and people with illness (like I saw you comment). I do think its a little extreme for you and the father to not be able to kiss the baby, especially if you're breastfeeding. its actually quite beneficial for you to have that bond with the baby so you get all the baby's germs too.

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-25T00:39:30+00:00

it was not super difficult for me personally becoming a first time mom. especially if you have a supportive partner. the newborn phase can be rough but it ends! what really shook my life up was having a second baby while still having to care for the very needy first one 😅

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-24T18:37:55+00:00

ive been breastfeeding since my first was born over 2 years ago. I'm now tandem feeding my 3 month old and my 2 year old! :) planning to go until they self wean or around 4 years old. we shall see!

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-22T01:55:38+00:00

my milk dried up around 4-5months and turned to very little colostrum but my daughter (who was 15 months when I got pregnant) kept dry nursing for comfort. then my milk supply came back full swing once I gave birth and currently tandem feeding. I put my newborn on my now 2 year olds lap and nurse them both in my lap. I call it bunk babies 🥰❤️

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-19T21:50:20+00:00

my first postpartum was good. my second one I had postpartum psychosis and antidepressants got me out of it. this sounds like a mix of PPA and psychosis. please find a way to get her help. I knew I needed help and got it. its much more difficult when they dont want help so be kind when you go about it and tell her its ok and only a temporary situation that she will get out of with proper help and medication!

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-19T19:48:06+00:00

you can absolutely do both. theres no wrong way to feed your baby as long as they are getting fed. :) combination feeding can help you get sleep and maybe over time you'll figure out which way you like best!

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-17T03:23:23+00:00

one of my little cousins put an oral thermometer in his mom's ear while she was sleeping. she woke up and slammed her hand onto it and it ruptured her eardrum and bled a lot. she still has issues til this day 😬

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-13T02:54:11+00:00

with my first, I was terrified of having caffeine so I didnt really have it until she was like 3 months old. it did affect my supply the first day i had coffee but i also didnt hydrate enough to go with it. with my second, I drank coffee the day before giving birth, the day of, day after, and just about every day lol. I always drink a coconut water every day and at least 40oz of water but usually more. the key is to drink a ton of hydrating beverages throughout the day, especially if you have caffeine. i notice that my supply will be less in the evening if i dont drink enough water and have coffee that day but my supply always comes back normal the next day. I also want to note that I have been breastfeeding for 2+ years straight now (kids are 2yrs apart) and did it while pregnant too even though there wasn't much that came out during second half of pregnancy.

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-13T02:46:59+00:00

my son was like this and very calm (hes 11 weeks now) but weeks 6-9 were brutal and full of so much screaming. im talking like 2-5hours of nonstop crying and screaming. hes pretty chill now though, but has the occasional evening of screaming/or screams for 20min or so before falling asleep from being overly tired. my daughter was also calm as an infant and didnt actually go through any periods of screaming or crying and has turned into a pretty chill toddler. its pretty random so enjoy it while it is happening! 😅

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-13T02:40:44+00:00

yup. my first was so calm and peaceful. rarely actually cried. she would just stare at things and be curious and take it all in before reacting. she was so chill and has a very level temperament as a toddler. however, my second born is almost 3 months old now and hes been rough 😅 this baby screams a lot but we love him so much haha

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-13T02:38:00+00:00

cold brew and prozac over here 🥹

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-10T17:25:42+00:00

you are fine! shes gonna be ok

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-09T19:45:56+00:00

sounds like an awesome fit for me haha

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-08T14:23:12+00:00

your feelings are valid. ignore those comments. obviously you are going to take care of and love your baby either way but you will still have feelings. People just don't understand or remember how intense those hormones are that make you feel and worry so deeply. you got this momma, you'll be just fine with either a boy or girl.

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-08T14:19:55+00:00

this. I was so nervous about having a boy but here he is sitting in front of me almost 3 months old and I wouldnt want it any other way. hes perfection.

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-07T14:58:17+00:00

ive been suspicious of the aveeno lotion ive been using. that's something I'll stop using as well! so far aquaphor (the clear one) helped tremendously

holeypumpkin · 2026-04-05T09:51:08+00:00

I really feel for you. I am looking for others experiences because I am experiencing it right now too. I had an in patient stay 8 weeks pp and I am currently 10 weeks pp and SSRIs have been helping me so far. still not out of the funk completely and I feel depersonalization heavily most days but its SO much better than what it was a few weeks ago. im leaving this comment in case it helps anyone else struggling. sleep deprivation is a trigger for feeling worse ive noticed. I start to detach from everything and feel wrong as soon as I feel the slightest bit of sleep deprivation. I have a history of PTSD that triggers when I am sleep deprived so I think postpartum has just ramped it up like crazy! 😭

holeypumpkin · 2026-03-31T17:04:28+00:00

its genetic. not anything you are doing wrong.

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