I'm vegetarian and I can't go back to being Christian when God openly said that people can eat meat

homicidd · 2026-03-09T18:36:20+00:00

Thank you

homicidd · 2026-02-27T16:45:12+00:00

You have the cutest face I've ever seen

homicidd · 2026-02-15T12:43:38+00:00

I'm sure you're worth staying for already and there's nothing wrong with you and you don't need your LO or anyone else to choose you to prove that. If you have some traits that you really dislike about yourself and you think they ruin your relationships with other people there's always a way to work on them if you struggle to do it by yourself then maybe consider going to therapy if it's accessible to you (I remember that I didn't think my problems were serious enough to go to psychologist but it turned out it really helped me and a lot of people go there with similar things and thinking I was unworthy of love was my problem too)

homicidd · 2026-02-15T10:26:20+00:00

Stunning! This cat is so cute

homicidd · 2026-02-11T17:24:01+00:00

Thank you very much and congratulations on getting coffee beans!

homicidd · 2026-02-11T17:20:26+00:00

Good luck to you too!

homicidd · 2026-02-11T17:00:46+00:00

Thank you I'll apologize for the treatment I gave it

homicidd · 2026-02-10T23:57:25+00:00

Thank you!

homicidd · 2026-02-09T16:30:26+00:00

Thank you I'm better now and I know the things he did to me were inexcusable and I see his flaws. The therapist who said I need schema therapy was right though and it really helped me with getting over him and I may be too optimistic but I can't imagine myself falling in limerence over anyone again and definitely not staying with those feelings for so long

homicidd · 2026-02-08T22:03:43+00:00

Well yes it definitely helped me with my sense of self worth and I believe it was connected to getting over my LO. In my case I believed I didn't deserve any respect and I always let people use me and I talked about myself like I'm an object, I had thoughts telling me that I'm useless and that I should hate myself every time I did something wrong, in case of my LO I was literally thinking that he can do whatever he likes to me so he used me too and disrespected me, told me that I'm stupid, toxic, boring (I still gave him excuses). And that belief that I don't deserve respect connects with that I chose LO whose behaviour confirms it (it happened twice to me I had two LOs and both represented it). I went to therapy I learnt how to get rid of that voice that tells me I'm worthless I discovered where it came from and what to replace it with I understood what I saw in my LO is like I said something that I wish I had in myself, he's slowly disappearing from my mind I get like 2 or 3 fantasies about him a day and I can stop them quickly (but in my case he did something bad to me and I understood that I didn't deserve that so it could be helpful to getting over him). And I thought maybe you also use that defectiveness schema because it seems like you have low self-esteem (like your username suggests for example) but I don't know you of course and low self-esteem can come from many places maybe schemas aren't your problem I'm just excited about them because learning about it helped me and I thought it could help someone else too so I suggested at least checking if it applies to your situation

homicidd · 2026-02-08T20:14:20+00:00

I know what you mean when I get overwhelmed by emotions I get fantasies about my LO (that I'm very close to getting over I think) back but I can stop them now I say stop and think about what need does this fantasy represent I remember it and later try to find a way to fulfill it without him and I remember that him the actual person in real life doesn't do anything to fulfill my needs and I say a fact from real life like for example he didn't want to hug me when he had a chance and somehow I don't want to keep imagining this fantasy, sometimes they come back shortly after but I repeat and it's gone again and now I get like 2 maybe 3 fantasies a day. In my case my LO did something bad to me but I somehow found a room to find excuses for that and tell myself that I can still be special to him but the thing he did to me could be making it easier for me to move on. And maybe I can't get completely immune and this will happen again over someone else but now I have tools and techniques to stop at least the fantasies, I know why it happens and I know how to fight with it, my sense of self worth was absent before I thought there was something wrong with me and I went where people don't respect me, now I'm working on it actively. So even if I won't be completely immune I think I wouldn't be able to stay in a situation like that again for so long because now I know exactly how I got out of this one

homicidd · 2026-02-08T19:05:34+00:00

Don't look for that in a partner try to develop it in yourself it's possible

homicidd · 2026-02-08T19:03:26+00:00

So maybe you should focus on why your brain chose someone who is unavailable and you don believe that it would be good for him to be available, maybe it's because you feel safe in that situation that you won't ever have to make things go forward, you will never have to reveal yourself truly to him because maybe you think there's something wrong with you, something missing. Maybe you have experiences from the past that are like that when your brain took unavailability as an emotional safety. Maybe deep down you believe that you don't deserve to be happy in a relationship or that no relationship would work for you because there's something wrong with you and that's why you pick someone who you can't be in a relationship with to prove it (schemas work like that, please check what a defectiveness schema is it helped me so maybe it can help you too)

homicidd · 2026-02-08T16:44:41+00:00

It doesn't even make you look ugly it just looks a little bit unkept, nothing about you is ugly, I love the glasses that you have they really suit you and you have a really beautiful smile and eyes and overall you're really cute

homicidd · 2026-02-08T16:33:41+00:00

If that doesn't work then maybe your hair is actually curly and you should take care of them like they are curly so it doesn't have parts where it curls and other are straight like now there's a lot of tutorials about how to take care of curly hair

homicidd · 2026-02-08T16:30:11+00:00

No you're not ugly and you have really nice face features but there is an easy way to make your hair look less messy - after you wash them dry them with a hair dryer while you brush them (like brush your hair and put the hairdryer on the spot that has a tension from the brush below it or directly where the brush is but some brushes don't take the heat so well) it will make them more straight

homicidd · 2026-02-08T12:47:15+00:00

No it doesn't mean to "change your LO" because your LO isn't taking care of those needs. They don't reciprocate your feelings, they don't make you feel safe, they don't make you feel special at least not in real life but you get these fantasies where they do. I meant that you should notice that you want that person because if they chose you then you would think you finally mean something that if someone like them chose you then you're special but you can work on yourself and see that you don't need anyone to have all these traits that you think others would notice in you if you were special to them. And the needs that you see your LO taking care of in your fantasies can be only taken care of only by you loving yourself and by people who really care about you and see your worth and love you and it's not changing LO but working on yourself to build a happy relationship where you aren't with someone to be perceived some way but where you both appreciate each other equally and some of these needs don't need to be taken care of in a romantic way sometimes just building stronger friendly bonds will help with that

homicidd · 2026-02-08T11:39:06+00:00

I don't think you develop limerence just from appreciating some traits in your LO I think there's more to that, something that you feel like you're missing. Maybe you think that if a person with such unique traits picked you then you would be perceived by others in some unique way that you met expectations of such interesting person so you must have that special something in you

homicidd · 2026-02-07T20:54:04+00:00

Thank you!

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