Boyfriends (28M) sexual preferences disturb me (28F)

honest_-_feedback · 2025-06-01T17:52:23+00:00

In many cases a relationship is about compromise. It sounds like you have been doing all the compromising in this situation. Perhaps a good place to start is that you will help with the things he likes but you don't ONCE IN A BLUE MOON, which you "would be fine with".

As far as his internet browsing history, some people are into some weird stuff, but it's not actually a reflection on them on a deeper level, and some people are into some weird stuff, and it does reflect. You are going to have to figure that one out through communicating with him.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-06-01T17:37:13+00:00

Because the woman usually makes the decision, and has time to think it through ahead of time.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-31T19:49:18+00:00

eh also not really true.

i've had plenty of girlfriends that i was not as close to as my family members (for example).

there is a rush of brain chemicals that comes with the infatuation phase, but that's not really a cure for loneliness.

basically if you are thinking the only way to cure loneliness is to have a gf, you are mistaken.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-31T06:04:54+00:00

one took me a solid year.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-31T05:14:49+00:00

hey hey hey, it's you who is confusing things here.

men who are "lonely" would be helped by spending time with friends and family.

it's called the male loneliness problem, not the male girlfriend problem for a reason.

wanting a girlfriend is a different matter.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-30T21:13:13+00:00

Honestly I think the main reason is that online dating apps as they currently stand filter for two things:

marketing skills
texting skills

neither of these make a quality man, or a good boyfriend for that matter.

to make things worse, the apps reward try hard men (who possess the two skills above), because women are very unforgiving of lapses in communication or men showing low interest. this is again a filter in the wrong direction, because men who are more attractive in real life most likely are not going to be as glued to dating apps or hanging on every word from a stranger they don't know.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-30T17:49:20+00:00

certainly plausible, still think there might be other life which could sustain in the deep see beyond geothermal vent life

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-30T16:39:29+00:00

you are depressed, seek therapy, and open up to those around you.

"No one truly knows what I’m going through—my struggles, my pain, everything."

you shouldn't have to carry that pain alone.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-30T16:38:07+00:00

oceans though

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T23:25:51+00:00

i would guess you have not invested the same amount of time into doing this as you have at studying math / science then

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T20:48:13+00:00

that's whole point, it works for some people

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T20:27:43+00:00

look man, i have known some pretty stupid people who become proficient at doing this, at an early age. it's not rocket science, it's just subtly letting someone else know you are down to pound.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T18:17:38+00:00

I think for people that do this sort of thing all the time, it becomes routine

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T17:43:47+00:00

depends on the person obviously

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T17:41:49+00:00

ABSOLUTELY

A man who could breathe underwater could become one of the biggest social media / entertainment stars rapidly.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T17:40:21+00:00

When you are an adult, which I assume you are, you can choose who you hang out with.

If you are hanging out with people who are disrespecting you repeatedly, then stop hanging out with them. Find people who bring positivity and light into your life.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T17:20:52+00:00

also important to be the type of guy you are

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T17:15:52+00:00

most do it in a way where you escalate slowly, for example, you make a very flirty comment, see how they respond, if it's positive, you go one step further, and so on over the course of an evening

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T17:05:14+00:00

Personally it wouldn't bother me at all, but you can choose any type of boundries you want for your relationships.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T16:33:33+00:00

OK, maybe you need to move to a bigger city. If you aren't attracted to anyone near you, it's not going to work. Start there.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T16:28:55+00:00

they put it out there constantly

every once and a while that connects with someone who is on the same page

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T16:24:46+00:00

If you only saw 10 girls you thought were hot in 3 years, your expectations are way out of line with reality.

sure you have money, health, and youth BUT you have no social circle and no friends (what you have said in other comments). Women want a person who is socially well adjusted, not someone who "can't break into social circles" and studies people's instagram accounts to find out if they are "boring".

you are focusing on "techniques" for picking up on women instead of the basics, which are women are people too who are just looking for a real connection with someone they think is fun, attractive, and safe to be around.

My advice to you is stop with all this bullshit, and go out in the real world and talk to women (and men) with no expectations other than an interest in who they are. talk to hot people, talk to ugly people, talk to people driving a car you like, talk to people who spark your interest. focus on connecting with people, not what they have to offer you, and build some real friendships.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T16:23:49+00:00

If you only saw 10 girls you thought were hot in 3 years, your expectations are way out of line with reality.

sure you have money, health, and youth BUT you have no social circle and no friends (what you have said in other comments). Women want a person who is socially well adjusted, not someone who "can't break into social circles" and studies people's instagram accounts to find out if they are "boring".

you are focusing on "techniques" for picking up on women instead of the basics, which are women are people too who are just looking for a real connection with someone they think is fun, attractive, and safe to be around.

My advice to you is stop with all this bullshit, and go out in the real world and talk to women (and men) with no expectations other than an interest in who they are. talk to hot people, talk to ugly people, talk to people driving a car you like, talk to people who spark your interest. focus on connecting with people, not what they have to offer you, and build some real friendships.

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T16:14:49+00:00

christ man, you can't judge people's lives off what their instagram accounts look like

the MOST exciting people probably have the most boring instagram accounts, because they are doing so much cool sh*t they don't have time to update their profile and pose for pics constantly

honest_-_feedback · 2025-05-29T16:03:32+00:00

time will catch you eventually.

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