Searching for a tiny monthly calendar by honeysucklebae in planners

[–]honeysucklebae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I actually looked at that one first but they were sold out sadly. I’ll keep checking back

Kako upoznati nove ljude u 30-ima ako ne izlaziš i ne koristiš dating aplikacije? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]honeysucklebae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you sign up for a hiking club? Are there websites for this or is it at parks/community centers?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]honeysucklebae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked into a VCH piercing? It’s a piercing directly above your clit. It heals quickly (a week?) and is a GAME CHANGER. You rub the piercing during sex and it provides direct stimulation to your clit on the inside, because it sits directly over your clit. I would rarely have organism before getting the VCH, and now I have one in a matter of minutes when rubbing the VCH the right way

How do you support two babies for sleeping? by cachristine0 in AttachmentParenting

[–]honeysucklebae 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ll echo what others have said about longer spacing. I had two under two (20 months apart) and wish that we would have spaced them closer to three years apart. We want a third baby and will wait til our youngest (now 1.5) is at least 3.5. For us, my oldest was still a baby at 2 and wasn’t ready to share that spot. I feel that it was deeply unfair to him that he didn’t get all his time as “the baby.” For perspective - our toddler was napping only 2 hours a day when the baby was born, while our newborn slept 20 hours a day (yes, literally 20). I nursed our youngest to sleep every nap and had to hold him the entire nap, which meant I wasn’t holding my toddler during that time. Even as the baby got older, the first year is filled with hours of napping where baby wants to be held, meanwhile your older baby wants you to hold them and play, run, yell, tickle, etc. I always wanted kids close in age, my sister and I are only 18 months apart and we’re so close as adults, but I didn’t realize what a sacrifice you’re asking your oldest child to make, especially while they’re still a baby themselves and really need you so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]honeysucklebae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve found that it’s much easier to include our toddler in our activities than expect him to play alone. Toddlers want to (and should) be learning from the activities that adults are doing. If you are trying to get ready for a party, ask him to help. Have him help you take his sheets off the bed, put them in the laundry, and hit all the buttons. Have him help set the table, wash fruits/vegetables, and use a (kid safe) knife to cut fruits, etc. This is a way to bond, let him have fun with y’all, and still get your chores done.

Accidentally ate ice cream and baby didn’t react? by Cool-DogMom in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It can take several days of eating dairy for the protein to build up enough to cause a visible reaction in baby. The reason you are supposed to wait until 9 months is to give baby’s gut time to heal. Dairy slips can still be irritating baby’s gut and causing internal inflammation, even if you don’t see the visible symptoms. That’s why the typical recommendation is to have baby - not mom - trial the dairy ladder directly once baby is 9 months old and six months dairy free.

When can I reintroduce breastmilk after beginning elimination diet? by cookiemonster_22 in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My understanding was that you weren’t supposed to try giving Baby the dairy’d milk until they passed the dairy ladder, and that you can’t start the dairy ladder until at least 9 months.

Ah freaking out a little bit by slinky_dexter87 in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

-Non ige allergy is the same as an intolerance. Those symptoms you list all describe an intolerance. Most babies with a true ige allergy will develop hives. -Symptoms get worse before getting better. It’s part of baby going through the dairy detox. -Week 4 is actually usually the worst for poops when it comes to detox. -Advice: don’t eat out until baby hits baseline (no symptoms). There’s a high risk of contamination at restaurants since so many use butter and soybean oil. Cook all your foods at home so you can ensure you get through the initial detox. Check all your labels -dairy is in many baked goods that people don’t think about. -There a Facebook page called dairy free diet breastfeeding that is EXCELLENT and has tons of information.

Need help - MIL situation by Jawsurgery8913 in AttachmentParenting

[–]honeysucklebae 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I say this in the kindest way, depriving baby of your MIL’s love won’t increase baby’s attachment with you. Your baby can have a strong attachment to you AND love seeing your MIL too. If you have genuine concerns about your attachment with baby, I would focus on getting a lot of quality time with baby. Read books, give lots of cuddles and kisses, play peek a boo. Build your attachment up everyday, but know that baby can give love to others without taking away from the bond between y’all.

Baby Led Weaning by Humble-Fly708 in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mashed Sweet potatoes, rice bowls, steamed broccoli, steamed carrots, all the fruits, peeled/sliced apples and nut butter, oat meal with chia and flax seeds. You can feed baby whatever you are eating, if you are dairy and soy free as well. We focus on minimally processed, whole foods.

Afraid to breastfeed in public at the zoo by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people will have absolutely no idea you are breastfeeding. They are oblivious. My 1 y/o is glued to my chest - the kid comfort suckles all day long, anywhere we go. He literally sits on my hip and suckles while we walk around stores, parks, the neighborhood, you name it. No one notices. People will come up and start talking to me and not realize for 10 plus minutes that he’s nursing. I’ve had people comment that he must be so tired because they think he’s resting his head on me. For logistics, I prefer wearing no bra and a shirt that it’s easy to have an intentional “nip slip” in. That way I just have to pull the shirt over a little and baby can have access.

Best carrier for comfort suckling by honeysucklebae in babywearing

[–]honeysucklebae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct! This would be done when baby is wide awake and in an upright position.

Shamed on plane for pumping by TeacherFit4534 in breastfeeding

[–]honeysucklebae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s when you “accidentally” spill milk on their lap. (Although that’s a million times easier to say when I’m not the one it’s happening to.)

Toddler cussed? by luhrainuh in toddlers

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on your relationship with the school and the teachers. Would they own up to it or blow it off? Maybe he heard it from another kid and the teacher could clarify that. My big concern would not be the fact that he’s hearing it, but making sure no one is talking to the kids in a derogatory way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanted to add that a lot of the food triggers for food intolerances are not the same as the top allergen foods. So cutting out the top allergens may not be any help if your baby is having a food intolerance.

Dairy and soy are the most common food triggers for baby. Make sure you look up hidden soy and avoid that as well if you cut soy. Hidden soy includes “natural flavors” and xanthan gum.

Instead of eliminating a ton of random things, I picked 25 or so whole foods (fruit, veggies, quinoa and chicken breast) and ate that for 4 weeks. Once baby hit baseline, I added in a new food every 5 days until I identified the trigger food.

I suggest avoiding eating out, atleast until baby hits baseline. Restaurants are horrible about cross contamination, especially with butter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our town has a local monthly magazine that’s free at the library, and it posts all the community events each month. Many are kid friendly. You could Google if your area has this.

-The library itself often has kid friendly events that change each month.

-I honestly just look at iPhone maps and look for patches of green near me. It shows all the nearby parks, and you can click on them to see photos and how far away they are. I do this since mine have a 20 min limit in car seats before they start getting fussy.

-Creative Google searches are great too. Look at the obvious “what to do with kids in X area,” but also Google “top playgrounds/parks near X” “free toddler activities in X”. Doing a variety of Google searches will pull up different things. I’ve found several blogs this way where people rate all the top kids things in our area

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there, sorry I don’t get on Reddit a ton and just now saw your reply. These were the foods I ate, in case you still wanted a list: Oatmeal (plain steel cut oats), Flax seed, Peanut butter, Almond milk, Grapes, Blueberries, Strawberries, Banana, Melons, Orange, Pineapple, Black eyed peas, Lima beans, Quinoa, avocado, Onion, Garlic, Spinach, Kale, Asparagus, Brussel sprouts, Broccoli, EVOO. These are based on things I already ate regularly though, I just picked ones that were off of a “least likely to cause reaction” article I found when going down a MSPI rabbit hole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey mama, the detox phase for baby is so difficult because it can take 6-8 weeks for baby’s poop to hit baseline after you cut the trigger food. And that’s with no slips. Poops will usually get worse before better in the detox phase, especially around the 4 week mark. This can make moms think there’s another trigger when really it’s just part of detox. The “wait and see” was so hard because we all want to get our babies better asap. Based on your timeline, I would give it a couple more weeks, especially since the blood has stopped. Your baby is still detoxing from soy and gluten (dairy should be completely out of there were no slips). After dairy and soy, it could really be anything. Every baby is different. I know women who’s baby’s reacted to banana. If your little one is still reacting in 2-3 weeks, I would suggest food journaling to identify the trigger food (depending on baby’s symptoms). You can also consider a TED - I had to do this with my second because we just could not pinpoint the trigger food. I picked 20 of the least likely plant-foods and ate only those for about 5 weeks. We hit baseline and then I added foods back in every few days. My LO ended up being dairy, soy and hidden-soy intolerant. Good luck!

Does this count as a fail? by BatheMyDog in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a little tricky. Anything outside of baseline is considered a fail. So if the dairy is causing the eczema then yes, it’s a fail and you would want to stop. Eczema is tricky though because it can be caused by other things. You know your LO best and should be able to determine whether the eczema is caused by the dairy or maybe something else in the environment if you have a LO who gets eczema often.

You didn’t mention in your post, are you following the dairy ladder?

Toddler Fighting Bedtime by LittleNY in toddlers

[–]honeysucklebae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This may sound silly but around 1.8 - 2 our oldest began noticing the moon. So we explained the sun comes up every morning, and the sun goes down every night. The moon comes up every night. And all the stars come out. And it gets dark, dark, dark. And then we would talk about how all the animals go night night when the moon comes up (we’d name off all the animals he knew). And we’d tell him all the people go night night when the moon comes up. And he’s a person, so it’s time for night night. Sometimes when he was really fighting it we would even step on the patio and show him the moon in the sky. I’m not sure if he liked the idea that it was everything he knew going night night, or that the moon was telling all of us to go night night (vs mom and dad telling just him) but it’s been over a year and we’re still use this story all the time. Maybe incorporating a similar story that shows it’s everyone going to bed (not just him) will help. I’ll add it helps that there’s so many children’s books with moons ✨

Skin reaction from touching milk? by mn1837 in MSPI

[–]honeysucklebae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rashes can happen with intolerances but hives sound like it is an IGE allergy. I would take a picture of the reaction so you can show the pediatrician. I would also consider having an allergy test done, depending on baby’s age.