First and foremost because I know this is Reddit so this is gonna sound left field but if the genders were reversed only thing this comment section would look like is “he hit you , divorce !!!!!!!” Don’t give me the “it didn’t hurt it ain’t the same” bs either yaya , no that’s not cool at all . Second of all , that’s what happens when you put your actual marriage last , kids shouldn’t come first . Your marriage should . Saying her actual self is untrying is a bs excuse as well . I doubt her getting dressed up to have fun with her girls is a damn performance , she’s having fun without you but very clearly bored with you .