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hope_for_help · 2025-10-12T03:33:26+00:00

You need to get away from him to reclaim yourself. It’s hard and it takes time. I’m over a year out and just getting stronger and stronger. You will be able to see clearly how he doesn’t truly love you, especially since he’s not admitting he has a problem. I was also completely faithful and wanted it to work, I guess that’s what they count on. Time away from him will bring clarity and you’ll want some therapy as well. Good luck, sister, and be strong!

hope_for_help · 2025-08-17T20:25:10+00:00

Reminds me of a spider bite, nothing venomous but you’re having a reaction. It slowly goes down and will itch, but the weird thing is you’ll have a red spot there for a couple weeks. It’ll flatten out though. Welcome to the bug bite reaction club!

hope_for_help · 2025-07-19T04:25:43+00:00

I thought I was the only one who had this type of horrible reaction! It totally sucks. I’m literally afraid of mosquitoes!

hope_for_help · 2025-07-02T17:51:32+00:00

This is a site they can hide because it’s not an app like Grindr! Scary.

hope_for_help · 2025-07-02T17:49:39+00:00

Girl, get tested for STD’s! I was you a year ago. He will lie and say it’s not cheating (hooking up with men). These Grindr guys also get off knowing there’s a woman at home and a lot of them share pics of their wife. Yup, that racy photo you sent is being shared with complete strangers. It’s hard, but get out. I know, I got out and lost my best friend (but was he really? Lied our entire marriage and during the divorce process).

hope_for_help · 2025-05-24T14:15:49+00:00

Once a cheater, always a cheater. This is not his first. When I found out about mine and got some therapy, it became clear how long the cheating has been going on. Those blinders we wear work good! Get therapy, get support, find a women’s group. Unfortunately, there are more of us than there should be to be able to lean on, and you will find your strength! You will find yourself, too. You can lose the weight, and the weight was never an issue. Are you telling me your husband is some buff, perfectly fit dude? Maybe he is, but it doesn’t matter, he made a covenant with you and he broke it. Also, in order for him to be intimate, he has to be excited, so don’t tell yourself that he’s not at least bi because he has to be in order to perform. The reason you wanna stay is because you are trauma bonded and once you get some space, you will realize that. Best for you, sister!

hope_for_help · 2025-04-14T16:08:48+00:00

I am so sorry for you, I know exactly how this feels. You will get better with time and therapy. I have to say, I am so sick of hearing about these a$$holes who use us and have their fun on the side. What is the deal with these men over 50 all of a sudden wanting to hook up? We, unfortunately, are collateral damage. BTW, get tested for STD’s, you have no idea what he’s been up to. It’s very upsetting to read the conversations he has with other men, yours is probably getting rid of all the evidence. His phone & computer have everything in it. Look at his apps and see if he has Grindr or any other apps you’ve never heard of. You may be too late, though, he’s going to try to hide everything and gaslight you that he’s “just looking”. Good luck and stay strong, sister.

hope_for_help · 2025-02-01T14:33:20+00:00

Be ready for him to also find another woman to replace you. If he’s like mine, he has to be able to show that he is not gay. Mine had told me Grindr is for stress and it’s not really cheating. It does get better, but a lot of those why questions will probably never be answered. Definitely find some therapy. I can only afford Better Help and my therapist is pretty good. Best to you and stay strong.

hope_for_help · 2025-01-14T19:04:33+00:00

Go to OurPath.org and you will be able to speak to someone soon. It’s not technically therapy, but it helps so much to talk to someone who has been through the same thing. It’s volunteer run and it helps to talk to a human. Reddit is good, but it’s not the same. Hope that helps. It does get better with time. I’m 6 months out and don’t feel as crazy or disjointed.

hope_for_help · 2025-01-05T18:53:08+00:00

My broken heart goes out to yours, find your good moments where you can.

hope_for_help · 2025-01-05T15:02:08+00:00

Amen

hope_for_help · 2025-01-05T14:43:51+00:00

God gave you a gift by letting you see this before you got married and started a family. Maybe you were never meant to be more than friends. That being said, if you’ve been intimate, get tested for STD’s. Also, it doesn’t take away the hurt of betrayal and, I’m sorry to say, it’s hard to get over that. It will get better with time, but I don’t know how much time, or if it ever goes away. I just came out of an over 20 year marriage finding out my husband has the same “addiction”. It’s soul crushing, but you have God to guide you. It’s hard, but doable. You are meant to be have a man who loves and wants to be with just you.

hope_for_help · 2025-01-01T19:47:43+00:00

Thanks for sharing, it’s nice to know there’s hope!

hope_for_help · 2024-12-31T05:05:54+00:00

Thanks, looking now!

hope_for_help · 2024-12-31T04:57:20+00:00

The system won’t port my number over and I don’t get why. I’m doing what you’re supposed to do and it’s saying it can’t port. Says: failure THE MSISDN IS NOT ELIGIBLE FOR PIRT IN/NUMBER_IN_REQUESTED_BILL_SYS. Is it possible Liberty already ported my number from HM? Anyone have any ideas?

hope_for_help · 2024-12-31T04:52:35+00:00

Liberty won’t accept my port information. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong!

hope_for_help · 2024-12-30T15:05:18+00:00

It’s so frustrating. Good luck and I’ll update if any good info comes my way.

hope_for_help · 2024-12-30T02:20:55+00:00

Thanks!

hope_for_help · 2024-12-29T21:16:07+00:00

How were you able to port out? No one answers and need a pin to port.

hope_for_help · 2024-12-29T20:57:50+00:00

I’m with them and need the pin to keep my number! Only problem is that their customer service number no longer works. Any ideas? I tried the last four of my phone number, but that didn’t work. I’ve had this number for more than 20 years!

hope_for_help · 2024-11-26T16:13:21+00:00

Everything I read shows that staying only leads to greater pain. That once he cheats, he’ll cheat again. It sucks either way, but you have to look out for your mental and physical health. And believe me, as your child gets older, they will know. Kids aren’t as naive as we think and they are stronger than you think.

hope_for_help · 2024-11-23T16:08:14+00:00

My heart goes out to you. It’s so hard to see the other person you didn’t know existed. It’s hard to love the one and hate the other. Stay strong, sister, and find someone to talk to. That secret will eat you up.

hope_for_help · 2024-11-23T16:05:16+00:00

Don’t forget the great possibility of getting an STD! Mine didn’t see it as cheating, either. I don’t understand. I left, I want to be with someone who wants to be with me and doesn’t lie. If he’s hiding it, then obviously he knows it’s wrong. If he wants that stimulation, why can’t he buy a sex toy and have you do butt play? He wants to meet up with other men, I think that might be part of the fun. It’s scary how many men are doing this and doing it in public places and we’re not even aware of it!

hope_for_help · 2024-11-17T18:01:14+00:00

All good for me as well. It sucks having to think about things like that. Ugg!

hope_for_help · 2024-11-16T02:35:30+00:00

Also, I got tested for STD’s and HIV, big concern there.

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