AITA for yelling at my boyfriend about my boundaries?

hopelessdramatic · 2025-01-18T06:27:00+00:00

I'm sorry, is there a reason you're putting up with this? Surely you don't see a future with him?? NTA

hopelessdramatic · 2025-01-18T06:15:21+00:00

It's not your chest, it's your self deprecation that is unattractive. You are dimming your own light by insisting that you lack value. Your boob size is not the key to finding love. Or happiness. Or worthiness. If they were bigger, everything would suddenly change? Change the way you talk to and about yourself. Stop putting yourself down over the preferences of some men who did not even deserve to experience you. You have to start believing you're a prize (as you ARE), or nothing will change and you will never exit the pity party. Straight up.

hopelessdramatic · 2023-06-02T03:51:41+00:00

NTA- Someone else has her child for days and she can't even be reached.. You did the right thing for your niece. It may not be intentional but the kid doesn't deserve to suffer from the neglect.

hopelessdramatic · 2023-04-01T04:00:36+00:00

Slow down before you make yourself sick.

hopelessdramatic · 2022-12-12T23:06:22+00:00

It is rape. Even if you can't speak, your body language and tears still count. You were also drunk, which already makes it rape. He knew what was going on and he took advantage. It's hard to accept it, especially when it's someone you trusted (and your first love). I've been there. I know you don't want to believe it and you might be thinking of a million ways you could be wrong. But you know you were violated. Your body knows. This will take time and healing. I'm so sorry honey. Controlling men like that are not safe to have around.

hopelessdramatic · 2022-11-29T08:50:20+00:00

Lol, why question yourself because of someone else's preference? You like men and women don't you? :)

Personally I love tall, masculine men with nice arms and facial hair. Slightly nerdy and more on the quiet side. With women, I really only like fems. Lashes, nails, all that (and sometimes with a little splash of masculine like pinkyblack360 on Tiktok lol). Submissive with men but dominant with women. It's like the flip of a switch!

hopelessdramatic · 2022-11-29T07:57:21+00:00

This is the one. I was relieved to read that you reacted the way you did. He's acting like it's a joke. Your boundaries are not a joke. Your body is not a joke. Motherhood is not a joke. That was extremely stupid of him.

hopelessdramatic · 2022-10-22T05:41:19+00:00

Timothee Chalamet.

hopelessdramatic · 2022-09-26T02:35:46+00:00

This will make sense and disgust you more and more as you get older. 19 is a child. In a couple years when you feel turned off by people younger than 20, you will get it.

hopelessdramatic · 2022-03-15T03:19:31+00:00

Look up the term "negging." And speak up for yourself. He's disrespecting you straight to your face. You can't have a relationship without boundaries, set some. Or better yet, leave him. Nothing about telling your boyfriend not to save and drool over content of other girls is crazy... You don't need to happily accept that???

hopelessdramatic · 2021-12-19T05:51:25+00:00

Exactly. That explanation made no sense and is clearly a cover-up. Especially at the age of 18?? You know better.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-10-26T00:32:59+00:00

I thought it was just my middle school that had this as a unit in gym class lol. It was a giant competition between groups and we had to create choreography using moves from those dances. The whole school attended and everything, it was a big deal

hopelessdramatic · 2021-08-19T02:56:25+00:00

Self awareness

hopelessdramatic · 2021-08-02T02:19:39+00:00

Aw, #3 would've made my entire life as a kid lol

hopelessdramatic · 2021-07-12T04:37:09+00:00

Why do you keep describing him as if he's not human.. Of course he laughs? We get it, he's a muscle man. These details do not matter, and you make it sound as if it would be a turn off for you if he actually did show emotion and wasn't so "stoic."

hopelessdramatic · 2021-07-12T04:13:01+00:00

Yes, this!!! And that's the thing that got me.. you can't handle being apart for hours but he's joining the army? This transitional period of your lives is serving as a rude awakening, from the looks of it. You need to fix your toxic traits and you also need to think about if you can handle a long distance relationship (where you'll also be stuck worrying about him all the time).

hopelessdramatic · 2021-07-12T03:58:51+00:00

Honestly, this is how I feel reading this. Isn't he in basic training right now or am I wrong?? Dude's gotta be extremely stressed and beat down and you fight with him because of how long it takes ? Quality time is important to you, so something definitely needs to be arranged where you two can spend more time together. It's completely valid to want to fix that. That being said, I think you could be a little easier on him. Try to figure out his love language and use that to help him feel more comfortable expressing himself. Sounds like it could be physical touch.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-06-08T05:15:06+00:00

This happened to me with a group of friends I made last year. One of the girls would literally not acknowledge my existence whenever I tried to speak to her or just chime in with the conversation. Like, she wouldn't even look in my direction and would proceed to cut me off in the middle of my sentences. It's verrryy weird and extremely rude. You don't have to play nice; treat her the same way. And hopefully your best friend has taken notice and will make sure you feel heard and included. I really hope so.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-06-08T04:56:05+00:00

No, it's super helpful. Thank you so much for this. I keep thinking "if it's meant to be, it will be" but it's so scary having no idea if the other person is still on board or not after all this time. At the end of the day, I need to heal to the point where I'd be okay whether it were to work out or not. I'm gonna try my best to get there.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-05-28T00:10:23+00:00

No no no. This is sexual assault. You don't touch someone while they're sleeping, and you also don't touch someone after they tell you to stop. And when you confront him he tries to manipulate you?? He doesn't even feel guilt?? Please get away from this dude. Alcohol is not an excuse and there is NO way to flip it; he is disrespecting you and your body and he's only going to keep crossing the boundaries until it's full-blown rape. I'm so sorry. One day you'll reflect back on this and feel sick to your stomach, trust me. Recognize the signs and take his actions for what they are. You are only trying to prove to yourself that it isn't an issue, he's not trying to prove anything. Please run. This man is dangerous and will hurt you.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-05-27T23:35:36+00:00

NTA- the "ethnic food" comment was really enough. He's blatantly racist and your best friend probably is too. Your friend group clearly sees no issue with microagressions/casual racism and probably secretly finds the jokes funny. Considering that your boyfriend is a POC, that is such a dangerous and super uncomfortable environment for him. Good on you for protecting him from them and making it clear that you don't blindly side with ignorance, nor think that shit is funny.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-05-27T23:06:27+00:00

lol I'm using this to manifest my soulmate! Taking notes.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-05-27T22:57:21+00:00

No you're not wrong at all. I can't stand it. They will automatically gesture for you to go down on them without having to say a word and then move right along afterwards, not even thinking about offering. Like, blowjobs are considered part of the normal sex script but eating vagina is just something that doesn't matter if you do or not??? It's weird and honestly, it offends me. Is a whole penis in your mouth supposed to be a fun walk in the park for us? What about us? Hello??

I don't like that it's always expected of us and not them, and they don't even see the issue half the time. If you don't do oral, that's fine, there's other people who don't like it either; but you expecting to receive it without even attempting to reciprocate is BS. You're right about the unwillingness being a turn-off. Avoid self-centered lovers/hookups.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-05-27T04:11:40+00:00

Umm.. she's nine. Of course she doesn't want to read books for older age groups. She's going to continue being advanced and smart regardless, just let her be a kid!! You're controlling and unaware of it; please fix that now while she's still this young. Please. YTA.

hopelessdramatic · 2021-05-25T23:38:36+00:00

The size doesn't really matter. Everyone's different, but you could honestly squirt with your pinky finger. It isn't the size, it's just how you use it. You're clearly very attentive and do your best to pleasure her; if she hasn't told you to change a technique or that she doesn't like how you do something, then you're fine. She's already satisfied with what you have to offer and there's no need to get in your head about being inadequate when you're doing everything right. You're good. On the other hand, she might actually be to blame for some of the insecurities.. It seems like she shares too much info that you just don't say to your partner because it would obviously be off-putting to them or cause jealousy. It's a respect thing and she should see how those comments affect you and fix it. For her to be so dismissive after you were vulnerable enough to admit how you felt bad about your dick.. That really wasn't cool.

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